Girl help >.<(girls plz reply XD)

I guess it's more common in high school at least, but I think that goes back to what I said, in that the reason these people were hanging out as friends in the first place was that they wanted to date but did not know how to go about doing it. My sister dated a guy after insisting that all the times he came over to study were just because they were "friends".

 

i.ll be simple in a way that will put everyone else to shame seance i.ll say it in a way that they would in the mlp show

Just be yourself and ask her out, if she says no then its not the end of the world

 

Among other obvious tip-offs, the OP says:

"2-how to not get that awkward friend zone feeling"


If you seriously then try to argue that my assumptions as to the goals of the relationship are invalid because "well the OP may want to be in a platonic, but somehow at the same time, romantic non-friendzone relationship", then I think you are just trying to stir the pot for the sake of stirring the pot. My conclusions and responses are totally valid. In fact, the unhelpful response is the one that suggests a course of action that would result in a non-romantic, friends-only relationship, based on the original post.

Right on, man. Have fun! And be confident!

 

Because I clearly have nothing better to do than just stir up controversy.
Well, pretty much true yeah.

I bow to your infallible ways as always.

 

Good luck.

 

Banjo, as I said earlier, if you like her, then why not ask her? However, don't feel like you have to ask her either. It really comes down to what you want. Give it a few moments of thought.

I'd like to point out that what you said in your original post about never going to a coffee shop wasn't true. I once dated a girl (just over a year ago), and our first date was to a coffee shop. Two weeks later, she wanted to be in what I will term to be "sexual relations" with me. I didn't want that, both for the obvious reason, and at the time I was trying to watch Scott Pilgrim vs. The World for the first time and it was right during the ending fight scene. I understand if you choose not to believe me, as you have no real proof of what I'm saying, but I will stand by this story. Every girl, and every relationship, has its own subtle nuances, and it is difficult to create one all-encompasing rule for dating because of that.

EDIT: Though, Mane, I'd like to point out something I failed to mention earlier; your comments about the goals of a relationship were accurate.

Banjo, if you want to take her to a coffee shop, you can do that. It's okay.

I kept this as clean as possible, with only one sexual comment, as it was relevent to the post to which I was responding. I hope that's okay.

 

If her friends are mining you for information and she's acting this way, then chances are there's some interest there =) At least, /I/ wouldn't act that way without liking the person lol. Especially the sexy pose. No one poses in front of another person if they don't want you to look lol. You said she acts this way with her other friends, but it's kinda different with you. Different how? I remember when I first met and started getting a crush on my boyfriend. I am an insufferable flirt sometimes, but the way I flirted with him was different in a way I can't really explain. I was more... sincere in the flirting, I guess? Either way, I kinda know what you're getting at with it.

Ahhh the friend zone. Ultimately? That's just a risk you're gonna have to take. There's a very real possibility that you can be rejected, but if you're both mature enough to handle it, then it won't be a huge problem. Like someone said a few pages ago; there'll be a week of awkwardness and then you'll move on. I used to have very serious feelings for one of my best friends. He politely told me that while he loves me (as a friend), he just doesn't think of me that way. So we moved on in our friendship and in the end, I think it made us even closer. It was just a little moment in time that proved to ourselves just how much we really do care about each other. He learned how much he didn't want to hurt me when we reached that limit of our relationship, and I learned just how much I wanted to be closer to him. This seems kinda counter intuitive to what you're asking, but in a nutshell; the friendzone isn't necessarily a bad place to be. She can still be in your life in a really big way, but it may be different from what you originally thought. You're not going to lose her entirely if she rejects you. =)

Ultimately, first thing's first; you're gonna make a bit of a fool of yourself. I mean this in the best way possible. I don't know anyone who had one of those movie romance beginnings. When I asked out my boyfriend, it was so very awkwardly worded. We were in the kind of grey area where we were pretty much dating, but we weren't OFFICIALLY dating yet. We were saying "I love you" and everything lol. Here's the conversation. Feel free to laugh at me =P

I also made him cry. Twice. First by sending him Ozzy Osbourne's "Lay Your World On Me" and telling him that it makes me think of him, and then after he said yes, he cried a second time. In the span of like half an hour, haha.

Either way, you just have to find what you think would work best for you guys. If you think asking her out to coffee or for food somewhere would be good, then do that. If you think a movie or something would be better, then go that route. "Do you want to go out sometime? I was thinking we could blah blah blah" Where 'blah blah blah' is 'see [movie]' or 'go to [place] for some pie'.

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All in all, sorry for the wall o text, and good luck! ^_^ I'll be pulling for you, man. I miss the chase xD It's been over 4 years for me haha. Now I'm starting to think about proposals. Oh boy.