So, if girls take an interest guy things, it's called "Being liberated." But if guys take an interest in girl things, it's called "gay." They're just teasing me, but this is seriously the view my parents take. They're okay with me being a brony, and they know I'm styling pony manes, but they're beginning to question my sexuality. Everypony, what are your thoughts on this matter?
That is a loaded analogy. I'll let others pick it out because it is tedious for me to do at the moment. In short, I disagree with the premise. Also, are they just teasing you about it or is this a serious concern? I'll say more after your response.
Tell them that just because you like a show about friendship and morals doesn't mean you wish to be with men. It IS possible to like girls and magical ponies at the same time. If nothing else, don't fight back too strongly. It'll be one of those "the sir doth protest too much" moments. Because being gay isn't a bad thing, so why fight back about it? YOU know you're straight and at the end of the day, that's all that matters =) If YOU are happy with liking ponies and being straight, then there's no reason you can't still be happy with everything. It sucks that they're making assumptions though. Although I'm afraid that I can't really speak from experience on this ^^" It took a bit of discovering for my own sexuality, so at one point in time or another I've self-applied all the major labels. Straight, lesbian, bisexual, Kinsey scale numbers, etc. But once I discovered pansexuality, it felt right and clicked. So yeah xD I'm also a girl. So my parents don't really care that I like ponies. They think it's cute and funny just how into I am. Whenever they see Pinkie Pie (my favorite pony) they point her out to me and get just as excited lol. They even watch it with me sometimes when we catch it on tv. Either way, at the end of the day, just remember this (yeah, I'm just repeating myself xD): This is your life. You have a fairly good understanding of who you are. You're a straight man who loves him some ponies? Then yay! You're a straight man who loves him some ponies! There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. People make assumptions about you based on that? Phooey on them for being shallow. Besides, it's a good reflection on their parenting that the messages you're choosing to surround yourself with are ones of love and tolerance rather than "Woo booze and drugs and unprotected sexings!" Point THAT out to them and see what they say =P
They're teasing me about it, but I suspect they seriously believe I'm gay. And for the record, I'm not.
If they're just teasing you about it, then don't dwell on it too much. Everyone is a bit weird. Now, about the seriously believing you're gay bit, is there anything else about you that would hint at this? If there isn't, then they probably don't seriously think you're gay. Perhaps a bit effeminate, but it is hard to assume much more than that. I'm also going to quote what I said in another thread that had a similar theme: It sounds corny, but try to be the whole "be the change you want to see" kind of thing. You can have all sorts of weird hobbies, but if you are a responsible person with purpose and character, nobody will care what they are. If you're a total mess, people will pick out the weird things you do. If you lead a healthy and productive life compared to others, and still watch ponies, nobody will complain. That's the main thing I don't get about the whole coming out about ponies thing. People knowing you like ponies or not doesn't change what you do with your life. My boss, a few of my sisters, and my close friends know I like ponies. They do not care. If I was bad at my job, mean to my sisters, and a bad friend (or kept bad friends, but that's reflexive), they might use my watching ponies as a confirmation of my state of being a loser. But I'm not a loser, so that doesn't happen. I highly doubt anyone cared that Howard Hughes made an eccentric sport of hunting for roast beef sandwiches with a flashlight at midnight on the grounds of Hotel California because, you know, he was Howard Hughes.
There isn't, aside from the fact that I openly support gay marriage. That also makes me gay, in their opinion. But the worry in their voice tells me they're concerned about me in some form, and their over-supportiveness of my pony styling tells me that they don't want to offend me. I.e, "Are you having fun playing with your pony's hair?" "We love you, son. No matter what."
Let's use logic here and find out the problem with your parent's logic. Gays want Gay marriage. Therefore, Only gays support gay marriage. All Gays act girly. Therefore, All gays like girly things. All gays like girly things. My son likes a girly show. Only Gays support gay marriage. My son supports gay marriage. Therefore, my son is gay. Let's start from the top. All Gays support Gay marriage. Therefore, Only Gays support Gay marriage. The logical of the Premise is faulty. It is true that gays want Gay marriage; however, that doesn't mean ONLY gays support gay marriage. For example, during the civil rights movement, there were WHITES who supported civil rights. In that case, one didn't have to be black in order to support civil rights, and that means one doesn't have to be gay in order to support gay marriage. All Gays act girly. Therefore, All gays like girly things. Premise one is not 100% true. While there are SOME gays who act girly, that doesn't mean that ALL gays act girly. This is how it should be written. Some Gays act girly. There is another problem. There is no premise that establishes any link between being gay and liking girly things. Therefore, this is a flawed argument. All gays like girly things. My son likes a girly show. Those who are gay support gay marriage. My son supports gay marriage. Therefore, my son is gay. Finally, this massive one. I have already proven the problem with Premise 1 and 3, so I won't go over it. The argument would need to be written as such: Some gays like girly things. My Son likes a girly show. A person need not be gay to support gay marriage. My son supports gay marriage. Therefore, it is possible that my son is gay, but it is unlikely.
I can tell you there are a ton of people at my school who think I'm gay. I don't really have a problem with it, mostly because I thin sexuality is more fluid than that, but also because I'm pretty deliberate about defying gender stereotypes. My friend is planning to loan me her high heels pretty soon, just so I can wear them for an entire day of school. I'll tell you guys how that works out. As for my parents? Well, they just think it's wierd that I like MLP. My mom is okay with it, and my dad... isn't, but he also doesn't care most of the time. My advice? Well... if you dated a girl, that might change their minds, right? :derpe: But seriously, they probably just jumped to the wrong conclusion if that's what they really think. The issue will clear up with time.
Honestly I think that you should just tell them. And if they don't believe you then ask them if they believe all the male bronies are gay. If they still question your sexuality then ignore them because they obviously don't care about what you have to say.
I never got why people connect ponies to gays. The cast consist of mainly females with really attractive personalities, any of which would be considered hot by most straight people if they were not ponies. It seems to me that gays would rather watch wrestling or something else with half-naked men in it rather than a show with barely any men in sight. If I were you I would point out other stuff you like to your parents that is considered stereotypically masculine. I have found that the more violent something is the more masculine it is considerd to be. By the way, in my opinion, only a bigot would not support gay marriage. Straight people do not have the right to tell gay people what they can and can't do, it is their business and no one elses.
I don't live with my parents, so I don't have to tell them that I like MLP. They probably wouldn't mind, but I still don't feel the need to tell them. It's my interest, not theirs. I'm sure my parents used to wonder if I was gay, but I never cared. Since then, I have dated a lot of people of the opposite gender, so they no longer think so. Many people that don't know me so well think that I am gay, but I don't let it bother me. As long as I know my sexual preference, that's all that matters.
I think some good advice was given here. Quite a few people probably think I am gay also, but I am not. I probably act gay a lot and my voice is a bit higher pitched than most mens. I just don't find men to be attractive. I see two possible responses to. A nice and somewhat serious response and a trolling response. 1. Next time someone accuses you of being gay, respond with "I'm not attracted to men, but if I ever change my mind, I will be sure to let you know". If it continues tell them you haven't changed your mind yet. 2. Next time someone accuses you of being gay, respond with "Do you like bananas?" You know how it goes from there, no matter the result they go to the moon and leave you alone.
I've often pondered over this myself. I've never been the most manly dude ever, and occasionally really like cute things (MLP: FIM as a prime example). My view boils down to this and very simply this: As a guy, obviously, if you like women, you're straight. If you like men, you're gay. If you like both, you're bisexual. It's as simple as that. No outside interests come into play since there are any number of possibilities there that have no bearing on sexual orientation. Probably not too helpful in this situation since not a lot of people seem to think as simply as that.
Supposing that you're from usa, really, it's not by accident that (probably someone from usa) made that song "gay or european". in Europe, it's normal for guys to wear any color they want (including pink). Ok, yes, ponies look bit girly and all when you first look at it, but judging person by one single thing in his life? Specially from parents that should know you better than someone you've just met. ok, as far as I know, if you'd look like what in public would be picture as stereotype gay (you know, designer clothes, purse, make up, have that girly attitude (Rarity kind of girly), in same time), then yes, people may assume you're gay. otherwise, no. Male bronies. well, they are viewed as people who, guess what, like cartoon about ponies. people may think it's bit weird, and childish for person of my age (20) to watch cartoons for little kids, but they wouldn't assume I'm gay. Parents: seriously, they should know better than to judge their own kid by one thing he likes. personally: I'm straight, and I'm brony. No one called me gay for ponies. some thought it was weird, or childish, yes, but I'm not bothered by that. After all, I admit myself that I'm child in heart and there's nothing wrong with that (on the record, my dating range is my age +- 3-4 years, so don't make any assumptions). message to your parents: just tell them directly, that you're straight, and like ponies, and that there's no direct connection between being gay and liking ponies off note: I don't have anything against gay people, I have some gay friends, online and irl. I support they should have rights and all, it's not like they are hurting anyone, so why not making them happy and have what they want. (yes, ok, some go too far, but that's for some other topic, and those are probably just isolated cases(cases when gay people want some rights that would discriminate straight people (happened in Croatia)).
You can't be gay unless you openly confess that you are. If people say it, its not true unless you yourself say it is true. If you say that you aren't then theres no reason to believe someone who tells you that. Sexual orientation is a personal choice. No one can make that choice for you. Thats the way I see it.
I don't understand. It most certainly is not a choice. I've never chosen to stop or start liking something. The only times that kind of thing has happened, it happened on its own due to a series of events or circumstances. I've never just woken up one day and said "well, I think I'm gonna try being gay today." I'm straight because I find women to be attractive and not men. Not because I chose to find only women attractive. I simply do. I fail to see the choice in that.
