As Grey said, don't go for the friend thing, seriously. If you're interested, take your chances and see how it plays out for you. If it doesn't end well, then be friends with her, I mean, after all you like her for a reason don't you? I'm not exactly the expert in this field of expertise, but I'll just restate a few tips I've heard and seen work in action. Be confident, nobody is going to want to hang out with somebody who's a downer, and this is for a really simple reason: Negative emotions are /incredibly/ contagious. She's not going to be interested if you're mopey or don't believe in yourself. Keep in mind: Feigned confidence is better than none at all. Don't be too direct, seriously. I talk to a bunch of friends of mine in class and all the time they tell me how they can't stand when somebody just walks up to them and drops a bomb like that on them. If you want to do this sort of thing, you have to get to know her just a bit before doing so. While doing that, you'll be able to figure out any information you might need; if she has a boyfriend already or not. Aside from everything else, if you get to know her and she's just not interested, you can still hang out with her for an extended chance in the future, just, don't rely on it too much.
That's why you were successful. If you act like you normally do around them, and they accept you for who you are, by all means ask her out. There is no point at all in changing who you are or trying to be someone you are not just to get attention.
What you do is, you sneak up on her, right? Then, guns blazing (literally), jump and yell your choice combination of surrendering to her love and gun threats. Then leave and never be seen again. Works every time. - - Auto Merge - - What you do is, you sneak up on her, right? Then, guns blazing (literally), jump and yell your choice combination of surrendering to her love and gun threats. Then leave and never be seen again. Works every time.
My god you are a genius. You should be a telemarketer for all this stuff, you would make millions off me alone.
I see a pattern emerging, it's "this is what worked for me". So quite simply, get out there and see what works for you, if nothing else... just go with it.
So that's why I've been single forever. I'm all the things I shouldn't be. Well, whatever. It's just means I'll continue being alone. Not a big deal, since it's all I've ever known anyway.
Man, just be confident, try to get to know her, and when you feel the moment is right, let her know how you feel. There are some basic tips that I can give you before you even start getting to know this girl. - Hygiene: Seriously, be meticulous. First impressions are important. Did you brush your teeth that morning? What about the night before? What did you eat recently? Have you clipped your nails recently? Many girls will take these things into account. - Other aspects of your appearance: Comb your hair, wear nice clothes and make sure you didn't just come from working out when you go to talk to her. Also, even if you like what you're wearing, - Casual but nice: Don't obsess over little things, don't act like you're worrying about your appearance (even if you are), and stay neutral in conversation while using a calm tone of voice. However, you should also smile and take interest in things she talks about or does. Most importantly, be yourself. Dressing up and treating her nicely doesn't have to negate any of the essential qualities of your personality. Do your thing, stay relaxed, and everything will be fine. You've given some good advice, but I must disagree with you in part. While it certainly is good to let the walking stick lead the foot with these sorts of things, good relationships can start in any way. It really just depends on the people, how they act and whether they're compatible. My best friend got into a strictly romantic relationship without any sort of friend-like preamble; she and the guy are great together and everything's happy. It can work that way, but it doesn't have to.
Fair play. I can totally understand that it doesn't always have to be from a friendship... but it does seem like a much easier route, especially if you're not overly confident. ^^
Bounty is the closest to being right here xD Some people expect there to be a specific answer to their problems, whereas sometimes you have to go out their and fashion a solution for yourself. There are so many variables in this kind of situation, so many things which make one persons situation completely different to the next. We don't know what kind of people are in question, what their history is, what their current relationship status is, what the other person is looking for, how they expect to be asked, what they are comfortable with etc. There is only one piece of advice I can give that adapts to almost any situation. Don't act weird. If this person isn't a brony, then don't bring it up. Don't stalk her. Don't act weird towards her. Don't show her up... all the usual kind of stuff xD
I prefer the approach of becoming friends with them first. Both my relationships were who I would easily consider my best friends. I wasn't "interested" in either of them when I met them but fell for them as I got to know them over about a month or so. For my previous relationship we just drifted, but we're still on very good terms and great friends.
You can't say not being yourself and lying about everything just to get someone you like is the right approach. Be yourself and find someone who likes you the way you are. If you lie about yourself, a relationship is doomed to fail before it even starts.
^ Whilst this is oh so true, I still feel that we should help the OP get what he wants. On "Being yourself", if Being yourself doesn't work, the two of you just weren't cut out for each other in the first place.
Ok, coming from a girl, Id be way happier if the guy just asked me. If she has a boyfriend, atleast she knows you have the guts. Whatever you do, good luck.
Well at least you saved yourself from potential awkwardness. Gotta look on the bright side when you find that stuff out.
