I felt like posting this here, maybe some advice, support? I just wanted to talk to someone other than my best friend, like you guys. Here goes: So I went to a new school this year which I like alot and I locker right next to this girl who's I'm already really good friends with and a like her and then there's this girl in my PE period who sits in the row next to me, but I've never talked to her and I only know her name because I usually have a hard time talking to girls I like , one of the exceptions being The girl I locker next to, Laura. So know I have feeling for Laura and we're really good friends and we've "hit it off" so to speak and I even told her that she looked nice today to which she replies "okay" which I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not. And I have yet to talking to the aforementioned girl in my gym class, the only way I found out her name was by asking a friend who sat in her row, but I wish I didn't have such a hard time talking to girls and such because it's no different that talking to a girl that I have no feelings for, right?
Well, I've yet to find one that I truly have any kind of feelings for so I guess I can't really understand. But from what I've gathered, here are my suggestions: Confidence, Act like you are talking to just another person, Don't get put in the zone unless that is what you are aiming for, or the C.A.D. strategy I guess.
Everyone has trouble talking to the opposite sex, it's even worse if you like the other person. If you have this problem (most people do, I know I do) try just simply saying hi to the person. You said you knew here name, so just say hi "Person's Name". When you feel you have built up the courage to talk to this person try to make conversation, even if it's a short one, tell her your name and then go from there. Who knows what might happen.
It is really just a thing of confidence. Always remember you are an interesting person, since every human is different everyone is interesting, but maybe in another way. For me i have to say it is the easiest to just talk to her like to a boy, that you dont know. I mean yeah sometimes its a really hard fight inside of you to start talking to a girl you dont yet really know. But even when it fails? Well... First dont think about and when it happens.. well. Than just dont mind it. And maybe Laura was also just a littlesurprised, when you said she looked nice. I mean sometimes you are not the only person that has problems talking to someone who you like. MAybe she just feels the same and also has a little problem in how to react to some things.
I agree with this. There's no point in forcing it if you're constantly worried about being judged by her all the time.
Before I say anything, I'd like to mention that I have no experience with talking to girls. The only time that I actually talk to them is when I am in a certain situation where it's rude not to talk to them. So if you want to force yourself to talk to them, get into a situation where you have to talk to them. You talk to Laura because you have a locker next to her and it would be rude for either of you to not talk to each other. So if you want to talk to the girl in your gym class, try to make it so you HAVE to make conversation with her. That way, it's not as weird. But that's if looking for the right opportunity is the problem. If confidence is the problem, just be yourself. There's no point trying to impress her by being someone you're not. If you do this, then you'll have to cover up this one lie with a million other lies. Eventually, it'll all break down. tl;dr: Be yourself, try get in a situation where you have to talk to her.
"I usually have a hard time talking to girls I like." "Hard time" meaning nervous, "nervous" meaning fear of rejection which is like the same thing as fear of being judged. Just sayin'.
Just talk to her like you would anybody else. Start off a conversation with a point of common interest or something similar, perhaps a compliment? Just, when you compliment her, don't compliment her looks because that only goes so far. Instead, compliment her taste on something, kind of like, "I really like your headphones", or something along those lines.
Look, I don't wanna argue about this and ruin the mood of the thread, so we'll just agree to disagree, no?
Do you happen to know why you find it hard to talk to girls? I assume that you can talk to guys, so just forget that they are girls when you approach them. Probably won't help but it was worth a shot.
This must be how Echo feels. I didn't think we were arguing at all, but yeah I guess agree to disagree.
I've talked to girls only a handful of times and usually end up making a fool of myself. While I certainly am no expert on the matter, I can offer a few observations I've made: Be bold, but DO NOT overdo it. Start with a compliment; girls generally like being told they're pretty from what I understand, but as stated above by Zephyr, don't be too shallow. Certainly there is a quality about her that sticks out to you. You usually must be the one to initiate the conversation, and I cannot really offer you any help with that. I know it's been said countless times, but I will say it again: Just be yourself. I'm sorry I don't have anything terribly helpful to offer. But I wish only the very best of Luck in your endeavor!
Hey, just be nice and all that. She'll come around. And if she doesn't like you back, don't take it so hard. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be. I know I got rejected a lot before my first girlfriend. Don't worry about it so much. Tell her how you feel, and what's meant to be will be. EDIT: I know this seems like a given, but be meticulous with your hygiene. Teeth, nails, hair, etc.
As I'm sure you've heard million times before, be confident. Though there's a difference between confidence and being cocky. Here's something that may clarify: TL;DR- Just be yourself, and be comfortable as yourself.
