This is coming from a pan 16 year old kid. I consider myself gay because I haven't ever really felt attracted to women at all.
I usually don't care for relationships at the moment, as I have many years to find someone. However, I'll just add what I think. For the majority of the time, I feel that someone shouldn't change to please someone, or else they are just pretending that they are someone they are not. Unless you are planning to change for the better, you shouldn't let anyone tell you how to live your own life.
Ramza, B-Dog, good words, both of you. It's true, relationships can change people. One would hope for the better, but it doesn't always work out that way. You gotta try and get past that and learn from your experiences. And B-Dog, good plan, no need to rush into it. They say one is in their prime between 16-25, so if you got it, go for it I say!
I can respect a good body, for sure. But I moreso look for the personality in people. Physical appearance means almost nothing to me.
With me, there's a limit. If someone is the extreme of any physical trait (Gigantic huge, super skinny, WAY TOO BIG BREASTS) I just can't. Scary. :c
for some strange reason, i cant see myself in a relationship. no matter how nice he/she is i just dont see myself in any sort of serious relationship. i guess it's because i'm too goofy and no one takes me seriously. but whatever. im perfectly happy making people laugh
I wouldn't be, no. But I do think that sex is secondary in a relationship. It should be done to re-affirm a relationship, not make one. Meaningless sex makes for meaningless relationships. I know this more than anyone here, I'm fairly sure. People who only want sex out of a relationship, in my eyes, need a reality check. It's so much more than sex. It's the experience that you're sharing your happiness with someone else who loves you that really counts more than anything.
Well, there are some situations... I'm not too sure how to explain it. When it's just sex, and the face-value and title of the relationship, and they're happy, why try and fix what's not broken? Some marriages are like that and have been going on for 30 years! ._.
I think the true experience of love/relationships is when you go out and do things together and have a good time, and enjoy yourselves instead of spending all your time on the bed, being miserable everywhere else. I want to be able to experience things with someone I love. I want to be able to take them places they've never been or just plain spend time with them. People who rely on sex as the sheer crutch for their relationship have a shaky foundation. A majority of the time, they don't work out. Sometimes it does, though. - - Auto Merge - - You can have a relationship with just sex. But you can have a better one with sharing the experience with that person.
Well there are a lot of different kind of relationships, from full on relationships to bed-buddies. Not everything has to be serious romance, there's nothing wrong with friends wanting to be more without being serious in my opinion. Like I said before, it's all about trust, consent and what makes you happy. @Matt - I don't see why not. Share your happy stories and give the lonely hope!
Well, I am, after all, a hopeless romantic. I do prefer the romance over the sex because of my history and all that.
Reading my first few posts, I realize that I'm very pro-poly and didn't say much for the benefits of mono. In addition to the points that Val pointed out (very well made, I might add), I also want to say that sometimes restricting is a good thing. It stops things going crazy. Before I got into the relationship I'm in now, I'd be a very outgoing, flirty person online, willing to RP with anyone who's up for it. Now I'm in a mono-relationship, it gives me the stability and control to limit myself so I don't go over the top. I wouldn't have that control if I was still poly, and for that, I love him even more so.
Very well said, darling. Love ya too~ <3 I'd consider myself pro-mono simply because I've had rather bad encounters with poly in the past. Let's just say it's not fun, if your partner decides to "go poly" and also decides not to tell you. That relationship turned mono again fairly quickly though, since I removed myself from it. That was years ago. Fast forward to today: I'm in a mono relationship with the sweetie above this post and I couldn't be happier.
