This ^^^ x10! About the only benefit I can see to getting married at an early age is so you can celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary sooner. Alexia, I don't see where you said why you *want* to get married early, or even engaged for years. Perhaps I just missed it. But, what's the point of being engaged for years? If he falls out of love with you (horrible, I know, but you should consider the possibility), he's not going to face-palm, and say, "Oh, yeah! I'm engaged to her!" Sorry if I sound a little snarky - I don't mean to be. I know this is a month old, but I am curious about the why, and what you think after talking it over here for a bit.
@ Dwynter Hm I know what you mean in regards to the whole 'falling out of love' business. It's happened to me before, or, more specifically, to the last guy I was with. Then again, we barely spoke about the possibilities of disagreements or issues in the relationship for fear of creating one. Jacob and I speak more openly about touchy subjects such as that, and to be honest it's less stressful to speak about problems than to not speak about problems. It's simply because we both know we're on the same page, I guess. To me, engagement is really a statement of future plans. Future plans of marriage, and future plans of sticking together no matter what. I don't really see an engagement lasting a few years to be an issue- Searching around, I've seen internet conservatives saying: "they're teenagers! They are not capable of love! Engagement means they have to be actively planning a wedding and spending money! etc etc etc". Engagement (to me), as I said earlier, is a statement of what your plans are for the future. Maybe that reply was a little rushed, but I'm on 3 hours sleep. >.> S3 Mareathons drive me to insomnia.
Less stressful, huh? Hmm, that's an unusual take on it. Usually, people have more stress trying to talk about all those touchy little problems, or what they think might be a problem, than not talking about them. But, if you're mature enough to talk about such things as sex, how many kids you want and how soon, does one of us work while the other raise the kids or do we both work, can you put up with all of his eccentricities and can he put up with yours, what kind of bathroom habits does he have, does he want a "boys night out" and do you want a "girls night out," all that and more, then I would say you're mature enough to get married, or engaged, whichever. I think I see what you're saying here, and while I don't necessarily agree with it - after all, engagements can be cancelled - I understand what you're saying. I don't quite agree with it - after all, I didn't love my future wife any less before we got engaged. To me, engagement simply means you have plans to get married, usually within a year. Longer than seems kind of - well, in my opinion, silly. But, that's juts my opinion. I imagine there's some etiquette standard (a quick google search says average in 2005-10 was 11 months), I suppose you could be engaged for as long as you like. Short answer - Go ahead, what the heck. Just keep in mind, things do change over the years, and the person you are now, and Jacob is now, may not be the same person in five years. We don't need sleep - we have ponies!
First off, the couple should know everything about each other, i could imagine arguments/fights at earlyer ages could be critical to a relationship. Besides love and trust, economy would eventually get important before/after a marriage as this might cause fights/arguments later on. When it comes to age, around 20 or later is acceptable by me. I'm no expert, just a 16 year old with opinions
18 and older is when I consider marriage to be expectable. Any age lesser and it seems that a marriage like that wouldn't be great or healthy in the long term. Hormones do crazy things to teens and create so many false expectations in finding the "right" partner. Not saying that's what always happens, but it's what I see a lot. If you have been together for a number of years and feel truly compatible with each other, that's great. But there's never a need to rush into something like marriage in my opinion.
I like the idea. You can really grow together that way. When you're young is when you're most passionate. But you have to make sure you're ready and prepared. I have a friend who just got engaged, he's younger than me, and he's not prepared. I don't think this will be a storm that he and his fiancée are ready to get through.
Oh wow. >.< How long was the engagement? And are the issues in regards to the engagement or in regards to personal differences? I really do wish the best... relationship issues are never fun. Jacob and I have never had a disagreement. Planned debates about Canterlot history and disagreements with Pony Lore, but never any personal arguments. To be honest I don't know what we'd even begin to argue about.
He proposed last month. They're both going through college right now. And I know how stressful it is. I'm just afraid that with the stress of this and school, it will be too much for them.
