How dare you Dan! I am completely normal!!! Yeah, sorry to hear that Naikado, small communities can be....annoying...
You read pony fanfictions in large ammounts. Compared to the average American/European, that already isn't normal. Hay, compared to some BRONIES this isn't exactly commonplace. inb4 off topic.
Eeyup. Ahem, anyway, slightly-moreon-topic time. I'm glad everyone is so accepting here. I'm sure tomorrow I could reveal I'm actually the last survivor of an alien race secretly planning on taking over the world, and you'd still all be nice to me. Much more on-topic...I'm not sure how I would ever come out. Even knowing my parents are open-minded about that sort of thing, that's talking about other people, not me. Spoiler: I believe Dwynter said it best on the last page. Generally, people do not like change. They might be okay with others and their differences, but they've known me for years and have an idea of who I am and who I'm going to be. Revealing something about myself they didn't expect could prove a disaster. Thoughts?
well i wish i had a piece of advice but since im a confessed coward and im affraid of telling the thruth to my father because he keep telling me things like "if i found out you were i gay i would hang you on that crane by the balls", "i would cut of your d***" and "i would throw you out of my house and sell all your stuf", i know he wont kill me or make any serious injure but i know he can and will throw me out of his house, i have to keep it with myself for a long time. i believe he is affraid of what his friends will think of his "golden boy" and that our relationship will change, if you think is the right thing to do you must go ahead and face it, i cant, im too coward to do so, but i believe that people will accept you for what you are ^_^
As someone who is without any parents, only has long distance support from two remaining siblings, and lived with an uncle who has virtually disowned his parents since turning 18: Family is who you choose it to be. When you're out on your own, building your own life and achieving your own dreams, you bring those with you that want to be with you. It would hurt a lot losing family, but it's much worse to forsake your happiness for the sake of another's shallow view. You'll find the time and place for it.
My dad is definitely a difficult situation. I'll NEVER tell my grandparents, but my parents might have to find out one day. It's always really awkward when we are sitting there talking and the subject of "girls" comes up, and he starts joking around, and I start joking back. And I really hate making sad posts, because it contradicts A LOT of me on other places, but I just wish I could be honest sometimes. Naikado, I know exactly what you mean. I'm in this small community where everyone sees everyone on a basically daily basis. I wanna go back to the city. ;;
Do you have any idea how much this connects with me? I grew up in a household where I was physically, mentally, and sexually abused. I chose my family. My Brother, My Wife, and my Grandfather are all that matters to me now. Well, and you guys. I'll never say you guys never did anything for me. You guys are my second family, and the ones I'll turn to for help.
Actually, I think this describes everyone on this planet, whether they'd admit it or not. And I hope we all find some one to spend our lives with. Speaking as some one that had ZERO relationships in High School - it's not so bad. It's no fun when it's happening, but, well, does it help if I say "It gets better"? Oh, yes! The family thing! We can't help what family we're born into - all we can do is learn from it. I learned lots of things not to do. Lots of things. Family is supposed to make you feel better about yourself, to help you when you have troubles. So those people into whose lives I was born to? Not my family. My friends, they're my family. You guys are all like my cousins. Well, maybe a bit closer than that. So if you got a family like that - love it for all its worth. If you don't - come to the pony side. We'll love you no matter what, and we'll help you get through anything together.
That was his direct quote, but I'm pretty sure he just means sexual intercourse, or maybe just being gay - I don't know how my dad works, all I know is I lost all respect for him after that. -_-
I would too. To be honest... I think I would have already called CPS and told them to take me away after that; especially if I was gay/bi. No parents needs to threaten their kids like that. <Is not suggesting you do this though.
Thanks for your concern, but I'd rather not. As much as I hate him, he's still my father, and besides, in a couple of years I go to university, so I'll be moving away anyway lol
You know what? Props to you. First, for walking into "The Gay Thread" and admitting you aren't quite comfortable with gays (that took guts), and second, for seeing it as a flaw in yourself (that took way more guts). If I could shake your hand, I would. We might not agree, but I would have you know that I respect the fact that you can convey your opinions without the anger and hate that stereotypically characterize people of your disposition. I think people like you are welcome in this thread. Thank you for being honest and respectful.
You know what? I respect you for this. At least your honest about it. Sad we can't agree on this topic, but still. I'll be mindful of your beliefs if you are mindful of mine.
Well, if you really do want some sense talked into you, the best way for that to happen would be for you to tell us why you might feel this way. What are the reasons? Why do you feel disgust? And so on.
Old habits die hard, I guess. Still, cheers for actually getting past the wall of hate and intolerance that bound you to your perception of the world.
Ah, makes sense. Thats how some of my friends felt after I came out as bisexual to them. However, yes, these fears are rather irrational. I've hit on straight guys before (mostly not aware of their sexuality), but I can't say I've ever molested them. I'm bad at changing the opinions of others, much less the habits and fears of others, but do you mind if I ask exactly HOW uncomfortable you are? Like lets say there's a gay couple in your vicinity, clearly doing lovey stuff that wouldn't really bother people if it was a straight couple. How uncomfortable would you feel? Sorry, just knowing HOW uncomfortable you are will help me know how deep set this feeling of homophobia really is.
