If you're reading this, you're in a relationship that is long distance, whether that be in a different state, or different country all together, and you both have to rely on means to keep in contact with each other. Whether through online chat rooms, programs, games or emails, you both hope for a physical relationship at the end of it all right? Do you have doubts that will ever come to pass? Believe it or not, people are getting into relationships all the time online, majority through meeting on online games as well as chat rooms. But sadly, the odds of the relationship blossoming into a physical relationship, such as physical dating, courtship and eventually marriage, tends to happen every 1 out of 10 people, or 2.9% of the time. Despite that low rate...does NOT mean your relationship won't be successful. I would know, because I am married to my online sweety, and we're living together today as of back in Oct 2013, after 2yrs of dating, and 2yrs of engagement and seperation due to immigration processing. This topic... is basically my way of reaching out to young couples and old alike, whether hetro or none hetro, that are in a long distance relationship and struggling with it. It's the ultimate difficult relationship to be in on an emotional level I will not lie. But I do hope, by sharing my experiences and you sharing yours, we can better help others to cope with their long distance seperations or issues. Love is in the air, that's what always matters in every relationship, as long as you have love, it will be successful.
I have no issue with long-distance relationships or online relationships. I had one in the past, so I understand them to a certain degree, and I personally prefer face-to-face courtship.
I avoid relationships like the plague. Not just long distance ones, any sort of romantic relationship. In all likelihood, it's a good thing; most people quickly become terrified of me. Sent from my SHIELD using Tapatalk
My long distance relationship started a few years ago. We met at my cousins birthday party and got together on Facebook before I got a phone. When I got a phone, it was the best thing in my life. We could text now. We were constantly in contact. We were able to meet up 4 or 5 times in 11 months. She then felt like she didn't love me the way she should and dumped me... I waited for her for 6 months because I love her more than anything. When she got back together with me for two months... Then my cousin told me that she thought she was cheating on me... I was crushed but I was willing to forgive her, then she dumped me again... We are still apart but the only reason is that she said she doesn't feel ready for a relationship. I should be getting my drivers lisence so we hopefully will have a real relationship soon... The point is I kind of like long distance relationships. In fact I think all relationships should feel like a long distance relationship... When you're not together it should feel like you're thousands of miles apart...
A long distance relationship would be perfect for me. Ideally, it would be such a long distance that neither of us would ever know that the other exists.
I used to be in a long distance relationship about 5 years ago. It was hard specially since we couldn't meet irl, since she was from usa, and I'm from Europe. I did plan on going to usa to meet her irl, but we broke up before I was able to afford the trip. Personally, I could be in long distance relationship, but only if I know that I'll be able to meet (and eventually leave with) person that I'm in relationship with. Currently, I'm in sorta half long way relationship. Thing is that my gf lives in town that's across the country, but she studies in same city where I live (actually in same college (where we actually met)), and lives in a dorm here, so, since she's good time of the year in same city where I live, we see each other on regular basis. When she's at home, then we usually talk in skype call. Lately, she started to stay over at my place for every other weekend and I even went to her town couple times. Eventually, she plans on moving to Zagreb city (city where I live), after she finishes college and then we plan on starting to live together.
The point to this thread though Wintermute is to help those who are in a long distance relationship or have lost one. I didn't bother replying to the first post above due to he was obviously trolling. In this case though unless you have something to contribute, whether it be a story or helpful advice, lets keep to the topic. Sounds like a rough time you're going through. Personally if I were to find proof that someone was cheating on me, i wouldn't bother with that person anymore, painful as that may be. But if you feel like thats the right thing for you, then more power for you! I admit too at one point the long distance was good for me and my husband, because for a whole year we just spoke to each other, without the pressure of one or the other judging our looks, but only our personalities. That's the benefit to long distance, you are judged by who you are as a person. Forgive me for being blunt, but it almost sounds like you're not striving for a "real" relationship. Long distance relationships are great to get to know people, but at the end of it all we're all still human beings that long for a physical relationship. Long distance is the start of it, its the difficulty of bringing the rest of that relationship together on both sides is the hard part. When I got into a long distance relationship, I strongly believed that we'd eventually meet up, which is what I wanted, but while I waited, the lond distance was real, in my heart and soul. Some folks aren't quick to move that fast and prefer to keep it long distance, but eventually the next step will happen, which is a physical meet up. Your first statement was exactly what me and my husband went through. I was from USA and he was from Germany. But we still managed to meet up first and hold that bondage all the way through. He came to see me first, promising me that he would, and he did. I guess he and I were in that small percentage of things working out. But I'm glad to hear you've found someone a bit closer by to you, still considered a distance relationship but you two have made plans to physically be together. Good for you! I'm so happy for you!
You misunderstood me. What I meant by "such a long distance that neither of us would ever know that the other exists" is that I hope to never be in a relationship, long distance or otherwise. It was an attempt at humor, implying that if I were ever to be involved with someone, I'd rather not know that it was happening. In all honesty, I'm not the kind of person that should ever be in a relationship.
[MENTION=9236]Lightning Bliss[/MENTION] I shared my point of view regarding the subject, which happens to be incompatible with the - apparent - subject of the thread, it is not however irrelevant to the thread itself. Huzzah for people that share my point of view!
I met my girlfriend in the hospital and we fell in love in four months. But then I left and she left and we are still in love. Sent from my Lumia 900 using Tapatalk
Here, I'll explain why I hate innanet relationships. No one got booty bothered. I have failed. So this might just be me and my trust issues or my not being in a relationship in my entire life 'cause I'm only 14. I don't really need one. But, honestly, why would you date someone over the internet? Just because they say they're so and so, doesn't mean anything. And honestly, why would anyone want to date over anything? I could've sworn that the whole point of love, is that you know the person. IRL Also, since no one's gonna mention, OP and her bragging about success.
Well thats your opinion, you would prefer not to be in one and thats it, when you mature a little i'm sure you will see things different. If you don't agree to a topic why post multiple times trying to get people to flame back at you, you already said you didn't agree with the topic. It's not bragging, she is proud of her relationship and thats it, I sure would prefer to be like that, being positive and happy other than just negative like your being Also, the topic is about helping people in an online relationship, the topic wasn't made to 'brag' at all, rather more of a help / advice topic or a discussion for people considering entering an online relationship or ones who are already in one to share their stories or even ask for a help in hand On topic: I think they have their problems etc having gone through one or two myself I feel that having an online relationship is as real as having a physical relationship. This is the modern era afterall. World travel isn't hard (though there are lots of costs etc) and there are plenty of methods for communication. You can still develop feelings / love for people over the internet (though for me personally we would have to have voice chatted AT LEAST first, not just text chat) I think if you are going to have an internet relationship you should be serious about it, so many times on forums (such as MLPF) I see people getting into 'relationships' then throwing things out everywhere like 'I love you so much babe xxxx' and other things like that, then the relationship ends in a week, thats just stupid. So yeah, to sum up I would enter an online relationship with the right person, because as Bliss said it's all worth it in the end
Rather I think your point is valid and a good debate... that last sentence pays no help or support on the topic, but rather an indiction towards somepony. If your not gonna be contribute or give advice on this topic, then dont post here please, lets act maturely and respectively. And since you're at a young age, and I've experienced relationships on a physical and long distance relationship on both counts, I can state that the benefit to long distance relationships come from getting to know someone on a personality level before any physical contact. This allows people to be themselves without the fear of being judged until both parties are ready to physically meet each other when they are willing or able willing. I'm not saying that people lie on the internet and whatever they say is true. Yes be cautious when you online date, be smart and not give out information that is personal to you or your family till you know for sure its safe. When my husband/boyfriend at the time, told me he had strong feelings for me, I had to think over this strongly because after two failed experiences in long distance relationships, I didn't want my tail pulled, or abused on false promises. He proved ot me that he would never do either, after a year of skype talking through mics, and emails, gaming together, to him coming to see me for the first time, and us going back and forth to seeing each other till he proposed. In regards to "OP and bragging about success", thats your opinion, I'm merely expressing my experiences in the hopes to help others that are thinking about getting into a long distance relationship or are in a long distance relationship, and are struggling. The topic here is for others to share their stories and give advice to those in need related to long distance relationships. Since I strongly think you're just here to troll me though, this is the last quote I make of yours as well as respond to your comments. The next rude statement you make towards me or anypony here on this topic, then I will report. The first time your posted here I knew you didn't want to contribute, just wanted to get on peoples nerves, and I can sense thats still what you want to do. So respectfully, this is a mature request by me and serious people who read this, don't be rude, and don't go off topic. Thank you for understanding.
Hmm, ya know I used to be in one. I mean, we were friends at the same school until he moved away, and while he was at that other school he got one of his friends to ask me out for him. I thought it was pretty sweet, and he was really nice although people thought he was gross because he was over weight and stuff. (This was in sixth grade, btw. xD) I dated him for a whole year and a whole summer, and the only time I saw him is if I went to church with my friend or he was invited. We broke up in seventh grade because long distance just wasn't doing it. lol
It WAS pretty rough... But I can say there wasn't actually any proof... my cousin and her boyfriend are the only ones who accused her of cheating and, while my cousin is pretty credible (shes one of two people I'd believe that from the other one being the girl herself...) he is a habitual liar (not really sure how she could stand being his girlfriend actually...) so they kind of canceled each other out... Anyways thanks for the sympathy
I've been in a few. With any romantic relationship, I find being able to be there friend first is key. So most of my long-distance relationship (i.e. 4 out of my 5) I have stayed in touch with the person and still maintain a healthy platonic relationship. I am not opposed to them. I just wish people would realize that any relationship falling apart isn't the end of the world.
That last sentence there... I so wish I could have known that when I was first struck by Cupid's arrow. My first love interest was actually online...but there were so many problems wrong with it. For instance...the guy believed witches and vampires were real and coming after him... he was 10yrs older then me, I was 15yrs old, and he and I met on an online game he was more obessessed with then me, and would make me cannon folder with his gaming clan...promising me things etc etc... and I belived him! I was in love that badly...the feeling like a drug, I never wanted it to end, even though I knew somethign was wrong with this relationship...I couldn't deny it! Luckily I had good friends and family to help me see the "light" of the situation and I was able to get out of a bad situation online relationship wise. Though that first break up was rough... I did feel like it was the end of the world, same thing on my 2nd break up that was also online based. I was so love sick... I waited for 4yrs on my ex thinking he'd take me back, but when I found out he was seeing someone else... i accepted that maybe I just wasn't meant to be in a relationship...sad I know. But another 2yrs later I met my boyfriend and today we're husband and wife! Funny how things turn out. I can say though that I learned alot from those 2 relationships, I could say I was stupid and young, new to romance, but god knows I wish I were more knowledgable or mature about it.
