who am i?(srry for the bring down)

Grab yaself some hobbies dude. I was a tone of animations all the time & misses series. I can even point you to Anime site with full series Also I play a ton of video games man all the time! they will give you insperation

 

My man, I have cerebral palsy...just realize that you have the ability to be happy in spite of your condition...maybe pray about it? It's what I do and it workes for me. :3

Even if you don't do that, I'm here for ya...PM me if you need someone to talk to. I'm always on. =p

 

Yeah you can always PM me (The Elder)

 

I used to be the same way pretty much, burning up all my time playing MMORPGs, hating who I was, hating everyone else in the world for wrongs I percieved were committed against me (falsely), bored, frustrated, scared, I didn't have a path in life and was worried that I'd die in unaccomplished and in obscurity.

Then I met someone who took some time out of their day to befriend the wierd kid dressed in black who sat alone at lunch and never talked to anybody. ie: me. He showed me good music, the proper way to act socially in public, better fashion sense, introduced me to many, many new people, places and things. Also, weed.

However, it wasn't like I was enthusiastic about any of this. I was stubborn, resistant, and dragged my feet about it the entire way. I didn't want to change, because it was easier not to. Also, I was pretty sure he was crazy sometimes.

Now he's my best friend and has been for the last 4 or 5 years. We went to the same college together, but recently we've kinda been going our seperate ways. He's trying to cling to the past and I'm trying to forge ahead, find my own path.

But even after ALL of that, I have changed in many ways but I have also not changed at all. I'm still bored, frustrated, slightly antisocial and rather shy (although I'm working on that) and I'm still unsure of my path in life, and still worried I may die penniless and in obscurity. I think the only real things that have changed is now I have a few more friends and hobbies, but the biggest thing that changed is my outlook on life: instead of being pessimistic, I'm much more optimistic.


Although I still drag my feet when it comes to trying new things lol.





Anyway, that's something about myself, and I don't know if that helped at all...I'll say this though: Don't over think life. You'll find your path sooner or later, just try to stay positive in the meantime. Life is not a destination, nor is happiness. People have a misconception that there is some big destiny that awaits them, if only they work hard enough, study hard enough, party hard enough...that eventually they will obtain happiness, that their dream will come true. That, is all BS.

Happiness is not something you can obtain, nor will you have it all the time. Ever. Life has it's ups and downs, you will be sad, angry, worried and stressed. Happiness is simply a concept, and what I have come to learn is that happiness is in the little things that you experience along the path of life that make you smile, laugh or feel warm inside, and by spending time doing things you like to do, even if you're not really doing much of anything.

That's it, pretty simple really.






As cliche as it is, as stupid as it seems, as questionable the advice may be considering the source, this is still one of the truest quotes I've ever heard.

"Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive."



Also, these are good too, and coincidentally, from the same movie.

"I learned a long time ago you can't treat every situation like it's life and death. Cause you'll die a lot of times"
"Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but doesn't get you anywhere."

 

Listen,

I have my own fair share of problems, perhaps not as many or as bad as your own,
but no one lives a simple life.

We simply must all trudge on. We just have to persevere.

But for me, that wasn't enough; I decided that living a simple life was not what I wanted to do.
So I began trying my hand at various things: drawing, coding, music, writing, engineering, automotive stuff,
philosophy, sociology, psychology, and many more.

Some of these worked out. Others, not so much.
Then, I tried my hand at System Building. The simple act of assembling a computer.
Something happened then that I did not expect.

I felt a symbiotic link with the parts, the wiring, the various little components.
I loved every moment of it. So I pushed forward, pushed as far as I could go.

That's what I would suggest to everypony. Find your calling.
There's no other way I can describe what this is: a special talent.
Though it may sound cheesy, or perhaps even a bit cliche, it's what it is.

So that's it. Strive to find something you love to do. Something you can do
for hours on end, without growing bored. Something that is productive and
enjoyable.

And then, push yourself to the pinnacle of your abilities.

 

Frost, some good points...but I'd say happiness IS obtainable...the art to it is removing all the things that keep you from being happy... sure, you may get angry at times, but lasting happiness comes from trying to do good in your heart and for others, as well as being happy with yourself You watch FIM, you should know this. lol

Also, Frost...not to pry, but I hope you don't overdo it with the weed...it CAN ruin your brain if you don't at the very least try to moderate it. It ruined my cousin's life and now he's so dependant on it that he can't hold down a job or house of his own...I wouldn't want you to end up that way. I know it may seem pushy, but hey...I learned a long time ago to care for others. Do what you will, but please be careful. I don't recommend the stuff, but if you insist on using it, do try to be mindful of it. =p Just tossing it out there...take it or leave it.

Edit: OP, whether you know it or not, you have a REASON to be here...you just may touch someone's life one day. Never rule that out...ever. Even the smallest thing, good or bad, can affect someone's life. You just may help others the way we are helping you one day.

 

Life : It may be depressing on times, but all it takes is some willpower, and suddenly, you breach that black ceiling keeping you down. Remember, no matter how grim, your mind is the drill that will pierce the heavens. You only loose when you give up, and win when you break through, so what is there to make you lose besides yourself?

 

The concept that people deserve happiness, and that happiness is a thing, a destination to be reached, a goal to be achieved, something that can be obtained - is a fairly recent invention. The ancient Greeks viewed happiness as luck, or being lucky; in Aristotle's time, luck was based on virtue, and if you did good, then you felt good (happy). The meaning of happiness has changed much over our history, and it means something different to each person. The idea that happiness is something that you obtain is, well...depressing. That is because under that concept, many people view others as being happy, and believe that they are missing out on something, which in turn makes them miserable. Combine that with the thought most people have that one day, if a certain checkpoint in their lives in crossed, then they'll be happy...people believe that others have crossed that checkpoint and they have obtained their happiness, while they are stuck being miserable because they didn't work/study hard enough to get there, which leads to self-loathing and self-doubt. That's another thing, many people carry around regret because they don't think they made the right choices in life. They believe that since they are unhappy now, then they MUST have made the wrong choices in life, which may not necessarily be true. This leads to all those "what if" regrets, which is the source of just about every mid-life crisis ever. My opinion on regrets? "Life is simple: you make choices and you don't look back." F&F:TD

I just don't think that it is possible to "obtain happiness" or to be happy all the time. Life is a roller coaster ride, and the downs come with the ups. You can never be happy all of the time, but the downs are what make us appreciate the ups, essentially, happiness is meaningless without sadness. Even if you could remove all sources of unhappiness (which is impossible, because you will find some to balance out the equation) and you were happy all the time...then happiness would be your normal state of being. There would be nothing special about it, you would not appreciate it for what it is. In other words, if you were drunk all the time, then you'd no longer be drunk, because drunk would be your normal (sober) state of being.

I find it much easier to rationalize, and much more comforting (to me, anyway) if happiness and sadness are described as packages. (happiness being a gift, and sadness being...I dunno, a bill?) If your normal state of being is neutral, neither happy or sad, then all of a sudden you get a gift, which makes you happy for a brief time. Likewise, if you get a gift of sadness (the bill, or even jury duty if you prefer)then you are sad for a brief time. Then you revert back to normal. Therefore, you don't always get gifts, but when you do, you're happy. However, if you don't get a gift, then you aren't unhappy, seeing as you weren't expecting the gift in the first place. It's simply a pleasant surprise.

There are of course instances where you can give yourself a gift of happiness, but that is the one instance where you are in control of your happiness. The key is to recognize this, recognize that you aren't always in control. That releases you from feeling bad about yourself if you aren't happy, because it isn't your fault you're not happy, that you didn't achieve happiness, because that's impossible.

Therefore, just because you ARE NOT happy, doesn't mean you ARE sad. You're just....neutral. And it isn't your fault, either. Get it?


Essay by Frost =P

Works Cited: http://www.cracked.com/article_19376_5-scientific-reasons-your-idea-happiness-wrong.html


To address your concern about me and my possible drug problem Beatle, I probably should have explained that part better. Yes, my friend was the first to introduce me to the stuff, and there was a time when I was a teenager where I was more or less a pothead, and spent a good chunk of 6 months stoned. However, that was when I was a teenager. I am still pro-marijuana, and I don't believe that it is addictive, but it does make you lazy, unproductive and an underachiever, which isn't good. So even though I have used it a few times since then, my days of being a pothead are long gone. So you don't have to worry about me lol.

I would also like to say that even though I don't personally believe that everyone HAS to have a reason for being, or a purpose if you will; I do wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment:

One day, you very well may find your own path, and one day, you may change someone's life for the better...which is a great thing, and a very good reason to be optimistic about the future. But even if you don't do either, then no big deal. You only got one life, but you don't have to carve your name into history or change the world or serve humanity...you can just enjoy it for what it is.

 

I can relate, chocolate. I think we should both join the Cutie Mark Crusaders or something (good suggestion, SunBurn ;D). Anyway, just know that you shouldn't give up. You seem like a cool guy. I kind of wonder what I'm going to do with my life. I want to be a writer, but I'm not sure if I have what it takes.

On a lighter note...

NOOOOOOOO! DON'T DO IT! D:

^I smiled at this part. XD I don't think that post was tl;dr at all. Frost's is an example of a post that can be considered a tl;dr post (although I swear I read it all the way through! Good post, by the way!), I'd say.

EDIT:
Also:

^This. On one hand, I hope one day I'll save the world from an alien invasion that I started in the first place, but can you blame me, they promised me cookies!. I dream of the day I get to build a portal to Equestria just so I can hug Fluttershy. But I know I'll probably just lead an ordinary life. I'm okay with that, though. I have a pretty good life. My family isn't rich or anything, but we get by. All things considered, I'm a pretty lucky guy.

 

Then I'd lose about half my friends list on League of Legends.

I find that life is incredibly dull without mirroring in both halves of humanity. Some can do without that, but I cannot. Existence only in grey.

 

Just don't destroy any countries. Besides, a lot of supervillains threaten that. Do something like, I don't know, threaten to destroy the sun or somethiThis pony was banished to the moon for 384024725732495072309457240957597459437530 years for suggesting this, courtesy of Princess Celestia. He shall be missed.

 

Seeing how so many people on here are open about their views and opinions on life, and due to the fact that this forum seems to welcome any opinions others may have, I feel that my future statement will definitely seem relevant (especially to this topic.)

When i read what you have said about hitting a rut in your life, I automatically thought of how many times that has happened to me, especially on a personal basis.

Now the point of telling you this is not to impose that you are not a Christian, but is to reflect my personal experience with God, thus allowing you to see how my choice of becoming a Christian took away any and all fear, sin, and gave me true Life, peace, and fulfillment.

My major downfall came from closing myself off from the rest of the world. I would always run and hide from my problems, not to mention the problems of others.

For many years my life consisted of 'self-want', and my true goal in life was contentment. I had a never ending void in heart that constantly wanted more and more.

Eventually I found myself doing things that would have been considered illegal - testifying to the fact that my desires were much too severe.

And before anyone could say anything - my life had came to an end - i was dead to everything.

The coldness and bitterness that had once seemed dormant had sprang its roots from the inside of my soul, sucking away what little 'life' remained. I was then a host - if you will - to the wickedness of my heart.

However, one day - during the midst of my sin (now i will say 'sin' because of what the bible defines wickedness as) i felt a spiritual tug on my heart to quit whatever it was that was 'killing' me. The next few days consisted of terrible guilt, until eventually i heard within my heart a somewhat self-concious voice within me saying 'go to church.'

Not at this time i was trying to deny the fact that i was ever in need of help - spiritually and physically - but that voice was so real and so strong that i followed it.

I'm not sure how many months it took before i actually went to church, but when i did, it seemed as if the preacher's message was directed 100% towards myself.

And by the end of the service I had fully accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and repented of all my sins.

That very night - and this is exactly how it happened - i felt as if an elephant that was chained to my being had been losened and was no longer there to way me down.

I do trust that this is neither offence or blunt. I hope for the best chocolate, Blessings.