You don't have to carry the dead weight Of all that stress alone. You're among friends. It's easier to bear a burden when you're not alone.
It certainly is. Friends give you the oppurtunity to be stronger, not only because you have support, but also because certain friends are like family to others.
I think I have something similar. I have a major issue in thinking everyone else's problems are more important. I dedicate hours and hours of my day to helping my friends with anything, helping them feel better over whatever may be wrong and giving them as much advice and love as I can. Its led to people calling me one of the nicest guys they know, which I refuse to believe. The reason this is an issue is because I view everyone else's problems as more important than mine. I feel my problems and worries and troubles just simply aren't important and can wait. I sacrifice helping myself so I can help others. I love everyone, but I hate myself. Its a double-edged sword. On one hand it means I devote all of my love and attention to others... on the other, it means I undervaule myself. In fact, whenever I'm feeling happy I purposely talk myself down and get myself depressed. I don't feel that I deserve it.
I can tell you right now, everyone deserves to be happy, even if you don't feel it should be so. As someone who suffers from Bipolar Disorder, I know exactly what you're talking about, if not moreso than you know. When I'm depressed, I help others to the best of my ability because I feel that they are better than me because I can't accomplish anything, but when I'm manic, I try to accomplish things by myself and not rely on other people for help. I've learned to combine these two things, getting myself help, while allowing me to help others when I'm feeling down, while bolstering my confidence: If someone takes what I say seriously and it helps them, then I mean something. That's the bes way to look at it.
Sometimes I think other people's problems seem simpler to us because we're outside, and not conflicted by emotions. I've noticed that I can see solutions to my friends problems that they didn't notice or figure out themselves, and then solve my problems by quoting back almost exactly what I told them. I call it, "being too close to the problem to see the solution." Of course, this is not always true, but it does seem to happen from quite often. Also, focusing on our friends problems takes our minds off our own problems.
You are not alone, my friend. I am a "nice guy" as well, but I have awful self-esteem. I don't feel like I don't deserve to be happy, but I do have an inferiority complex and feel as if just about everyone else is better than me in some way. I never pride myself on my accomplishments, etc. I've actually considered suicide in the past (don't worry, I don't feel this way any more) because I feel like I'm a burden on others. I am connecting to you in a really powerful way right now. I have type II bipolar, and this makes a lot of sense to me.
Mhm... lots of similarities here. I always help others but actually deny help from others. I don't tell other people my problems,not even my boyfriend. I actually do hate myself. I feel undeserving of all of the love I receive. Just a few weeks ago I almost killed myself. I'd rather not talk about that though. I've never been formally diagnosed with anything,but a few years ago in Germany I went to a psychologist, as my parents feared for my intelligence. Turns out, I'm gifted, and have a rather high IQ, but I have horrendous self esteem and poor social skills. Sent from my android so please excuse any typos or hilarious autocorrections.
I don't want to bum you out any more, so if you don't think this is a good idea, don't listen to this song...but it has very relevant lyrics. My father has always reassured me that, historically, the most brilliant people are the ones who suffer the most. This is what this song is about. I think that brilliance and sadness go hand in hand, unfortunately, and it's all about how you use your lifetime to make yourself and others happy. People look back at these people as geniuses, yet they never thought anything of themselves. I think it's an important thing to keep in mind in case you ever feel like you're alone. In the poetry thread, I posted a poem that I wrote in a bout of depression that deals with this same issue. [video=youtube;zBX2VLhjiUo]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBX2VLhjiUo[/video] I'm so sorry that you are having such a rough time, Chapien. If you want to talk to me about it in any more depth, I may be able to help (I can at least empathize with you and assure you that you are not alone in this). Let me know what I can do for you, and it shall be done.
I think im undiagnosed with this. I can relate to this in every way. [video=youtube;dy3-h0s-Hp4]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dy3-h0s-Hp4[/video] This song helped me when I was going through some bad times.
Its fine. Thanks for the offer friend, and for the support, but I don't need help I don't think. I'll be fine on my own.
Incoming ePONY and Skype conversation with Cyber. I called it. That constant feeling when you know something is wrong, but you don't know what that is...
I jus' have this itchin' feelin' that somethin' bads about to happen. I've always trusted my gut, and it's always been right. I'll wait and see.
I just wish my manic spells were longer. >_< For about a week I'm "DO ALL THE THINGS" and it feels great, then I fall back into "I'm Worthless. Do None Of The Things." for weeks at a time. It's frustrating.
We all have our sad days, But we're here to help. If you ever need someone to talk to, You can reach me on Skype.
Thanks, greyOne. I might take you up on that sometime. It's just been a hard week. There's been good news and it's getting better though, so I'm starting to level back out to something close to normal. ^^;; If normal even exists. Which is unlikely.
