I know. It's absolutely heart breaking. I almost had to learn it the hard way myself that's why I try and get the message out whenever I can now, before situations like this arise and turn dangerous. I think Danvid's situation is more uncomfortable than dangerous right now and I really hope that it stays that way. My heart is with him. I've been there.
People associate "Coming out" as a good thing that you get praise for, and parents, with the positive label they have of being loving and caring no matter what, are, as much as I hate to say it, it ain't true. Certain things, while they may eat away at you, are better left unsaid. It is precisely the reaction by your parents that I hate humanity. (Damn, Magneto seems like a cool guy right now...) Humans can be so unkind and cruel to those they think are wrong, and they will do anything to prove the point that they are right. The basis of all of this is opinions and false-beliefs. You should never force a child to go into religion. Choosing to believe or not is entirely their choice. Saying that "technology" made you bisexual is completely wrong. You yourself discovered it. We only helped it out a little bit. Once again, this all falls under labels, and why they are a bane to human society. It's typical, you'd want to go to your parents with this... but... a few people that I know, both personally AND on the forums have been persecuted by their parent(s) because of it. Hopefully this situation is resolved ASAP. I'll miss you Danvid.
*hugs* I have a friend who is terrified of the consequences of his parents finding out about ponies and him being bi-sexual. This is really sad as it gives me less hope for him. I'm the complete opposite. I showed my grandmother pony meetup photos and I wear pony shirts everywhere. I really wish everyone could have the same freedom. I am also straight, but I am more feminine then my gay friend. So yeah. Hope all goes well.
Danvid, its is saddening to see you going. You're a wonderful guy, and we will all miss you. I really do hope that this all blows over soon. Your a very courageous guy, y'know. You bucked up the courage to actually confront your parents and tell them, and to tell the truth about the matter. And I admire honesty, Y'know- It's just such a shame how it turned out. But your parents are only doing this because they think this is going to help you. But, of coarse, they've just made a very rash decision- I mean, sexuality is something that can't be controlled, and your views should be your decisions. However, don't think I'm on their side, but they are trying to protect you, because they love you. But there isn't much to protect you from, and limiting your individuality was wrong. I hope that they can realise that soon enough. Well, Good luck David!
Carajo Stay strong Danvid. Remember that you'll always have everypony here to help you get through I don't normally reply in these types of threads but I wanted to show that I support you too. I wish you a Merry Christmas. Don't worry, I'm sure things will work out for you and your parents.
I think you should not give up Danvid. Your parents impose to you rules because they think internet make you bi-sexual or agnostic ? I think this is not the right way. Tell them that being bi-sexual is a part of your own personality and that is something they can't change. Remember that your parents will always love you and i think it's reciprocal. So have a honest discution with them because sometime, it's terribly difficult to keep that kind of things into you. Hope this will solve soon. Have wonderful holidays and merry chrismas ! PS : I hope i havn't make typos.
Hello guys.. i am posting this since my parents aren't home right now. Here are some more things on the situation: 1. I actually didn't tell my dad im bi-sexual.. since he would take it 10X worse then my mom.. (My mom promised not to tell him..) 2. My parents are still stuck on the fact that im agnostic and are forcing me to read Tons of religious books.. I hope i can be more active, but i wont be able to use the forums much. (Ps: Thanks for all your help guys, it really helped me)
I would explain to your mom how you feel on religion. Explain that your beliefs and thoughts need to be respected, (you don't go around telling your parents what to think). Why should they force you on what to think. However, don't be too demanding or she may ignore your attempts, just start out respectfully, but strongly on how you feel.
It doesn't fit your lifestyle. It doesn't pertain to your interests. You have never found any proof of a religious presence in your life, so why be bogged down by it? Its going to be really difficult to change her mind, and I'm sure you realize that already, but don't give up.
From my point of view, you are too young and your parents are too protective but obviously they are old-fashioned. You're not only a funny guy but also a brave little man. Be yourself and I wish you the best. If you need to talk.... let me know.
I wish all luck to you, if you need some help, I'm here to help with advice, or talking. *hugs tightly* Both of things are your personal choice, but parents will be parents. I know, I had problems with dad because I don't believe in God aether (but I made one more radical move, and was older, so he physically couldn't do anything to me, so it was more of psychical battle between me and him (and I won)). I'm here to help *hugs*
Sometimes, Danvid, it's better to put it bluntly than to sweet talk things. Sure, you may get in trouble. But it gives your parents an understanding of your situation. At least, if they make any sense, themselves...
Thanks for the advice, managed to be able to post since my parents "rewarded" me for doing good at my class tonight.
I truly think that with time, they will learn to accept you for who you are. I think your parents are in a period of denial in which they don't want you to think anything else than what they want you to. They're gonna have to accept you eventually.
I will be honest, I could barely contain my anger when I first read this topic. Your parents seem to be that type of christians which I really despise. Those with no tolerance for another point of view but their own. I better point out though it is no fault of theirs they are that way, this type of american christianity I consider to be an abomination to the name of Jesus himself. Did Jesus preach "Hate your neighbour for their differences"? No! He preached about loving your neighbour, acceptance, not intolerance, love, not hate. The get to the root of the problem, they might be afraid for your soul. The key word being afraid, fear. They are controlled by their own fear, which is historically christianity's main recruitment method. I ask you though, are fear usually the method of control used by good people? Do Celestia use fear to rule her nation? Who uses fear to rule? People like Hitler and Stalin primarily. The main question, is God really an evil dictator or is the fault in humanity? I think it is the latter. Your parents are under the influence of a corrupt dogma which has since long ceased being true christianity. The United States, despite the constitution, do not really have freedom of religion, it is actually very close to a theocracy. I am agnostic (kinda) myself, but I was raised by an atheist family. But I do have some knowledge of religion as it is one of my intrests. I would be able to make an argument to your parents they might understand based on the bible. Like I said before Danvid, I am pretty sure Jesus is on your side, not all types of christianity is tyranical, just wanted to let you know. Over to more important matters, they can't think ponies have anything to do with it, can they? Christians always complain about violent video games and movies, it would be hypocritical to forbid you to watch something as harmless as ponies if they are that type of people. By the way, I hate how I know more of christianity than most christians .
One of the worst parts is.. I liked ponies before i told them i was bi. Now, they never look at me right when i watch the show, or use anything related to it. My dad just says, "Get off that gay pony crap".. or something.
