Hey Everypony, I have been feeling really down lately. I have a lot of stuff going on in my life, and I mean A LOT. The least of importance, I have lost the 'magic' feel I used to get from the show and community. Probably because of the last week before season 2 is when fan stuff slows down a bit. Above that a lot of stuff has been happening for quite a while now. It pains me to explain all of this and I don't know where to start but I will try to describe my life up to today.. I used to be a very energetic kid (4 different sports at once), but when I was 7 and just before Christmas my grandma passed away. Nobody told me why she passed away or what caused her to, just she died.. a few months after that I quit two sports (Tae Quan Do & Swimming) and never went back. The up side is that I found out I am good at computers because I had more time to spend on it, then I found WoW.. I would play that almost 12 hours a day on school days and on summer I would play for 18-22 hours every day. This interfered with my school by the age of 10, and my marks started to degrade and I REFUSE to do any sort of homework or any work after school hours. My mom, who has MS found out she had lung cancer.. Luckily she is doing really good. But then I started to refuse to go to school all together because all I wanted to do is play computer all day. Then I got in a fight with my parents about it, they called a crisis unit to take me to school but I refused and punched one of them in the eye. The police came and they took me to a shelter for kids that were mentally disturbed/challenged. I spend 11 months beside kids who had really bad mental issues like lighting fires and breaking stuff for no reason. I was happy when I got back to my house but then the cycle repeated its self.. I started playing WoW a lot more and refusing to go to school. They had to have people come in every night and take my computer from me forcefully. Then I just started spending all my time in the basement watching T.V. and working out. I got really bored one night and decided to create my own bonfire outside, it was 100% safe and nothing wrong could happen. But when my parents found out they flipped and called the police. I had to go to my sisters house (She is in the late 30's) to stay for a few days. Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months. Also my mom wasn't getting any better. Oh and I forgot to mention she yells and gets really mad a lot, like almost every day. When I got back to my house the same cycle stared again... Except this time I started to get suicidal, hating everyone and everything in existence, still staying up all night playing computer. My mom went down to Texas for special treatment for her lung cancer with my brother, whom don't do well together. They had a fight and he left her in Texas. When she finally got back she had bad news, she not only has lung cancer but breast cancer and bone cancer... I have since quit WoW(or rather had my account banned by my parents) and started doing youtube all day I Found ponies. It helped me brighten my life up a bit and I loved the community. I lost all my suicidal thoughts and hatefulness of things. High school started last wednesday and I didn't go today. I feel that my cycle is starting again but instead of WoW its ponies. I have the feeling I'm going to drop out of school because I just simply cant keep up with the work considering all the time I had missed the previous years. And this time its ZERO tolerance for late's/absences and missed projects. If I miss 3 projects I don't get my credit for that subject. And ever since I started refusing to do homework, I just simply cant do homework now. I just cant and I don't know why.. The only thing I have left is you Brony's here, my only social connection and people I can trust. This is only half of my story but it gets personal in some parts like awkward health problems for me and stuff I can't mention because of them being illegal. Anyways, I want no jokes or anypony saying "All you need is ponies!" This is 100% serious.
I actually read through that. Anyways, don't let some obsession such as WoW or Ponies stop you from your studies. Do what you have to do in order to be successful in your life. I'm not saying give up on WoW or Ponies, I'm just saying try to minimize time with some stuff and maximize time with things the deem important such as homework/projects/important things. Same with me, I try to limit my dose everyday. Whether it is EPForums or CS. Since college is taking a beating somewhat, it seems like I have less time to do certain things. (Besides posting on this forum because it's not that insomnia driving like the EPR back then when I used to go to it daily.) Just do what you have to do in school, if you ever need help just let us know on the forums. Although we aren't going to help 100% with your homework, we can show you how to come up with that answer like in mathematics for example. Well that sums it up, kinda. Just don't play too much if you still play WoW.
Nothing is more important then school. Maybe you could make Ponies or WoW your reward for completing your homework. That way you have motivation to do your work and get an awesome reward. School should be number one. As for your mother, I can't do anything other then HOPE she will be fine. If you need help, everyone is here to help.
School is very important. Take it form someone who slacked off in high school a lot when I say it's important. I wasn't in a situation like this but I still slacked off in school... pretty bad. I'm just now getting things together and with luck, I'll finish school within 5 years. I'll be starting college after about 3 years off sometime in 2013. I'm moving out of here in about six months. That said, I don't think quitting WoW is a good idea. I've been playing MMOs since Ultima Online. Thats about 7 different games over 13 years and from each one I played, I still keep in contact with at least someone. The social experience can be very rewarding. I've even met some people outside of the game after knowing them for an extended amount of time. I'm even really close to a couple I met in WoW from around 4 years back. I realize this doesn't happen to everyone but this is my experience so I'm only going off what I know. Just remember, tragedy is bad but there are good aspects to look at here. These experiences can either diminish who you are or strengthen character. Most people would choose the ladder. You need to deal with the problems life throws at you and learn from each one. It will help to shape who you are. Life will knock you down. It's up to you to decide if you're going to throw in the towel or get up for more.
I'll agree to the school part... highschool is hell however. I know just what you mean, and wish you the best of luck. And homework? It's just a bad habit. Try hard enough and I'm sure you'll be able to start again, though it will be difficult. I feel bad for you, though, being taken to a shelter, too... those places, are often where there are some pretty disagreeable, I'd even say downright nasty people, in charge even. I hope the best for you, and that your mom gets better.
Do not drop out, your life will be miserable even more. What you need to do is start with homework, balance ponies and work. I find it helps to take long breaks and get things done over a long period, rather than one sitting. Don't let things distract you. Get away from your comp when your working. I was like you, not wanting to work and all, but in time, I matured. You just need to a little faster. I started really thinking about the future, college, job, girlfriend. And I put those first, and whatever spare time I had left, I then did whatever. You need to self-motivate. People can't force you to do something, it's your choice. I know, school seems boring, but try to really be engaged in the teachings. You will find it more bearable and fascinating. I know people who try to put themselves in the time period or story (only works for english and history), or thinking of yourself as the main character. Try anything that will make school seem interesting, but don't drop out. My friend's brother dropped out, and it led to him just being useless, and he ended up in juvee for a while. Trust me, just focus. Ask me if you need any advice, please.
Well, I can't say I'm the ideal example here, but here's my two bits: Homework is important. That's not to say I did all of it for the last few years, but without it, you actually learn only the theory. Note, tests are based on practice, not theory. Also, I played WoW for a long time. About... 5 years or so. Now, with Cata out, I quit, because there's pretty much nothing new. Ever. Really. As for troubled life, well, I can't say I had one, but I'm also not inclined to depression. Here, the best advice is that you really just need to talk it over with someone. Once you do, you'll see life for what it really is, and that it's not all that bad. That's not to say you can go the distance without your share of sweat though. On a related side note, It's pretty much Foxy's job to help you through situations like this, if I understand her position correctly, so don't be afraid to PM her if things get too dark. Post Scriptum : I can help if you have problems with math or programming if you take it. Beware of my evil tutorship though, it can get... uh... yeah.
school goes first, family second, and everything else comes after. including ponies. school is very important for your future life, and you have to do your homework, go to school and pay attention and learn new stuff. Don't look at school like pain in the tail, look at it like chance to learn new stuff that will make you feel smarter. After all, most of stuff you'll learn in school you'll need on collage and future life. Also homework is way to learn kids of working habit. trust me, you'll need working habits in future. If you need any help in maths/programing/logic/digital logic/computer science/physics/geography/Croatian (?!)/electronics, [video=youtube;HabsRtS_beI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HabsRtS_beI[/video] so in conclusion: go to school, do your homework, don't give up ponies or wow, but make it low priority thing in your life. as for your mom, I hope she'll be well *hugs tightly*
I have noticed a lot of people are saying I should put school first and I know that. I love learning, my problem is I cant do assignments or homework. I would rather sit in the desk for another 3 hours listening to the teacher talk.
Make a reward for doing you homework and assignments. Like every page you complete, your allowed to watch one episode of MLP or play 15 minutes of WoW. I did this for work, every pallet I could clear was 10 minutes I allowed myself on my phone. I worked a lot faster with a reward attached.
I read through and I can't really add anything to what's already been said before. Just, go to school. And try doing you're homework, for it's essential. Dose ponies and other hobbys... And just do your highschool-time. It's no fun time at all, I know. But if you don't keep walking, you'll never reach a better place. *Goodluck and hugs*
I'm quite sorry to hear the problems with your mother's health and the cycle of behavior that had happened in your youth and is still manifesting today in some forms. I understand it may seem a bit harsh, but one of the first things to do would be to know exactly how this all begins. The behavior and compulsion to fixate on something in spite of responsibility and duties is problematic and if you acknowledge it as such, surely you're trying to work on it...or should be. In the meantime, I suggest that you try to fight against it with as much will as you can muster, at least until you can take care of your other business. It is true - if you finish something faster, you will have more free time to do things you want to do. Try to place yourself in an environment where you can commit the most focus to you studies and then unlock that cage when you're ready. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. What this means is that if you take things slowly and gradually as you continue forward, you'll eventually end up where you want to be. Don't give up on anything, though. Just understand what place these things have in your life and where you want them to be with regards to everything else.
I've had some time to mull this over, and I can't really offer you any different advice than what's been given so far. Stay in school, work on getting your homework done, try using ponies and whatever game you like as a reward - I get my homework done, I'll get to post ponies and play. I, too, had trouble with homework. I really don't like to do it. One thing that helped, I would sometimes stay in the library, or a classroom if I liked the teacher, and do my homework there. Less distractions, immediate help if needed, works pretty good, really. Of course, being new you might have some trouble finding a teacher that'll help. All I can say, and I'm not trying to down you or anything, but if you want a good job, you have to stay in school. Work on your focus. It's not easy, I still haven't mastered it. Heck, I imagine some of us could help with your homework, even. (The how might be kind of tricky . . .) As for your mother, well, she's in a hard place. What can I say? Cancer's a bee-yotch. It's gotten a lot of my family, too. You can talk to us about that, too. Sometimes, it's nice to just have some one to talk to, some one who listens. You've got quite a few people here who would do that - Snowy, Yeti, and myself come quickly to mind.
Well, update; My mother passed away today.. 11:14 AM, I never got to tell her I love her.. Or even say goodbye. The last time I said I love her was more than five months ago. (Please note mods, this was posted long before the no depression thread rule was in effect.) Anyways, this picture is highly relevant, considering I'm learning the cello. I will be leaving a Pinkie Pie on her grave stone, she never watched the full show but loved Pinkie Pie from the few episodes she watched. 11/7/2011 11:14AM (First day of snow) Debra A. Courrier. R.I.P.
Oh dude seriously I'm so sorry, I really am. I wish there was a way to just instantly make it better but there's not. I don't know how well you're able to deal with it, and I honestly hope you're able to live on past this, but if you're not there's no shame in that. As someone going through the same thing, I can remind everyone else that you have no idea what losing someone that close to you is like until you've been through it, not even slightly. It is literally unimaginable. I'm crying right now writing this, partly out of self grief and partly because of what's happened to you. Dude if you ever want to talk to someone about it, don't even think of hesitating of talking to me. I think I have you on Skype. As I said, I know what it's like, so don't feel like I'm someone who is just going to be all 'oh I'm so sorry thoughts are with you' because I'm not. I genuinely want to help if you need it. Hope you're at least coping man, I really do.
Ouch, this must be a tough situation to go through. I think I can speak for all of us here when I say that our sympathies are with you, and we will be able to provide whatever assistance you require. The main thing to do is keep on track of your life, and stay as in control as possible. Also, if you really need help, ASK SOMEONE! We can do whatever it takes. Love and tolerance, friend.
I suppose Lupr is right... I can't imagine the slightest part of the pain one feels when losing someone so close. And I can't just give you a quick 'goodluck, I hope things work out'. Even though I can't imagine what you're feeling right now, I know it must be horrible. I'm so sorry.
*hugs tightly* I'm very very sorry to hear this. If you need someone to chat to, you can always add me on skype. I'm here for you *hugs tightly*
I'm so sorry to hear that. This is the one time I know what your going through. I hope you get through this. Please be strong thunder.
I read your whole story, and i am here for you. No matter what your addiction is, whether it be wow or Ponies. Just remember, there is always someone caring for you. If you are religious, i will be sure to pray for your mother since she has cancer. But, school is also important. You will need it for the future. (Trust me i began to stop caring and i failed at alot of things..) When i was 12, I am 13 now, I was addicted to runescape.. so bad i would stay up all night and take my parents computer to play it. I got over this by deleting my account/changing the password to random numbers. Why dont you try this with wow? This is just my imput, sorry if i insulted you in anyway.
