I think the states collage in the uk's univeristy, further education, undergrad degrees ect. Not let I go there setember Im worry out of my mind because I will know noone at all. AT ALL. I dont think anyone I know will be going there I dont even know aything bout the place cus I had to snatch it in clearing That another issue I have I dont think things though, like at all I seem to have a real problem with ti and i make life changing decisions too easily and too lax. oh dear shaking gain, need a paper clip to open this padlock I not sure if ic an pick it or if its just been aswar fodnw do mcuh
One piece of advice I can give, though it will probably sound strange and it is something that has helped me over the last few years; embrace your fear - *cackle* join the dark side *cough-cough*XD. Seriously though, I'm going to assume you are as nervous around people as I am; this can be used to your advantage. Especially when everyone is new, like starting a new course at college/uni, or a new job. I realised that everyone was just as nervous/scared, and I discovered that I could use the fact that I was much more familiar with these feelings than everyone else to appear much more confident than I actually am. I remember being told, much later, by someone in the same that when he first met me, he couldn't believe how confident I seemed to be
If you ever feel like things are getting on top of you, and you need to talk to somepony, feel free to message me!
I heard my voice played back to me today. What really made it bad, was that someone pointed out how Welsh my accent was. I thought I did a pretty good job of hiding it, and I try to be very well spoken, but apparently it's really, really Welsh. Not happy.
Thanks no really. I have issues we wanted to be accepted. Thats why I made the player, you know the real reason not to make the DJs lives easier I made it so i would have given something back to this communit, Its all i ever considred I madeaged to gove to it so that might help explain why i hated to see it get pulled. And I know its not comming back grey might want to kid him self but I think i've given up hope of livestream messaging back and since asClearAsAsunsetAfterRain isnt clear enough It may never return.
Dude your whelsh accent rocks. I wish I had a cool voice like that. Don't ever feel the need to hide who you are.
I guess it wasn't so much learning how Welsh I sounded, more that my own perception of myself isn't how I am actually perceived. I've always had issues with how other's perceive me. I'm pretty insecure, and I always feel like I'm inferior in society, be it I'm not tall enough, not good looking enough, not muscular enough. I just feel that what I want to be isn't what I actually am. I'm not one of these people that just wants to fit in, and I don't really care what people think of me, but it's what I think of me. I wouldn't change anything about my personality, or who I am on the inside, I mean that's what really makes me 'me', but me as a human being, that's different. I just wish I could easily change things about myself. I think I'm just spouting nonsense now, sorry. God, all this started over an accent!
No, you're not! I know how you feel, as I feel much the same... I don't really know how to answer this, but here goes; you need to learn to like yourself as you are. I know this is difficult, I've not even managed it yet :S But remember this: the world is going to be hard on you enough, why do you need to add to it?
You're not spouting nonsense because I'm just like you! I posted another video on the General Chat Thread At the end, I say two words. ONLY TWO!!! The thing is, I didn't know I sounded like that on video. It just sounds different when I hear my own voice AS I talk compared to when I hear myself talk. I don't like it!!
Most people don't like the sound of their own voices. So none of you should worry; it is quite normal.
I reckon you sounded... ... to quote your video! And thanks Muesli. I understand where you're coming from on the whole world being hard on you thing. I am aware that we are our own worst critics at times, and I know when I'm just hating on myself for no reason. It's really just a case of me wishing I could change things about myself. But hey, I can't, so I might as well live with it. No more probelms now, I don't like asking for help too much. I either bottle it up or deal with it myself. I'm more interested in helping people, I love helping people!
We hear ourselves differently that others do simply because we're on the inside, and sound travels a little differently than it does to other people. So everyone sounds different to other people than we sound to ourselves! And here's a funny thing - people keep asking me if I'm from New Jersey. Now, if you don't have a map of the USA memorized, I shall tell you I'm from California, the big state on the left side of the map. New Jersey is a little state on the other side! I've never been to New Jersey! The only people that don't think I'm from New Jersey are people from New Jersey, of course. They're just as puzzled as I am about the whole thing.
And so the problems return and now i thin im hleping them I try to sleep and its all I can think about but i dont knwo if im purposlly blowing them out of propoorution to try and make iiiit worse or ifit something else on my usbconsious arh i had this ovewrthough on what to type Am i being a nuisence Im not beinga a nusence am I even if Im just blowing this all up more than i need to hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
ok now i know i am over hyping this am I? hmmmmhuuuuuhmmmmmhnnnnnhmmmmmhuuuuuhmmmmmhnnnnnnhmmmmmmhuuuuuuhmmmmmmhnnnnnn
Um? I think I missed something...are you ok Ripp, you sound....discombobulated....Heh, funny word... EDIT: *looks back* oh....
its all across teh alst few pages if you need more you may want a ime machie to let yuo watch my life so far
Ah, I see...it's quite similar to what I went through....and am still going through. I share nothing in common with the other students in my college courses....90% are "jocks"...like the ones before me have said, change takes time...you just gotta go for it, somehow....you know I'm not really the best when it comes to this....sorry...
Hey, my friend. Calm down for a minute and stop shaking. It's going to be okay. If you think you are too lax on making life decisions, you can fix that easily enough. Start spending more time on your decisions. But the worst thing you can do is live in regret for the decisions you have already made. It's perfectly okay to be rash. You may not get the best outcome, but always remember that the choice you made is the exact choice that you wanted to make at that time. Now, about not knowing people. That bit can raise anxiety. I know that you've already been told how to talk to people elsewhere in this thread. I know it's hard to follow through with such instructions when you are shy. But this is something you can work at if you truly want to change it. To get good at something you have to practice it. Get to know people! Share some laughs! You didn't know us before you posted here. All you knew was that you had at least one thing in common with us. I guarantee you have something in common with the people you are going to be meeting! Just be yourself when talking to people and you'll find, I think, some very true friends. I wish you all the luck in the world and give you my hugs. *Hug* This is hardly nonsense, and even if it were to be gibberish it would still concern a friend which means it still concerns us. I'm sorry that you don't feel like you live up to your own standards of what a human being should be like. It's a shame you don't have the self love to see that you're awesome how you are since you are unique. But that's exactly how to fix it. You need to show yourself self-love. Now, this is much easier said than done. You have to make the change yourself, but we are here to help you along. Something that helped me, emotional self-love wise, was saying "I'm a good person" out loud multiple times a day. About five to be exact. May I suggest you try that about the feature about yourself you like the least? Because that feature is a part of you and it makes you awesome. Another step that I took to show myself some love was to go and change all my outfits, not for other people but so that I looked good to me. If you have a few friends who can go out with you, they can help you choose things that look sweet and help you accept yourself for who you are. I hope you feel the love for yourself as we all feel love for you at some point. It won't be an easy process, but it'll be worth it. Bottling up is not good! I love helping people too, but seeking help is good as well!
