So, are you being bullied? Then th..... No, no fancy intro. I want to keep this simple. In this thread I will be telling you guys and girls something about bullies (should be pretty obvious as you have read the title.) and the best way to deal with them (this may also apply to generally annoying people and people who are insulting you or won't leave you alone). (NOTE: This is a Level 2 bully, techniques described below will not work for any bully who has surpassed level 2.) So, first off all, why did I start this topic? The thing is, a few days ago I admitted to my friends and people around them I was a brony. As you might imagine I got mixed reactions. One group asked me what it meant exaclty, some just laughed, some had no opinion at all, some just simply said ''WTF'' and some just found it awesome. Anyhow, most people just joked about it or didn't make a fuss about it. But of course, there has to be one a**h*le that has to make a big deal out of it. He laughed and said what most Brony haters say: ''G*YYYYYYYYYYY!!!! HAHAHA, LOL! GET A LIFE! LOOK AT THIS F*GG*T!!'' Now, a one time thing wouldn't be such a problem, I simply chuckled and walked away. Which brings me to my first tip few tips for avoiding these people. - Don't take any offence to what they say. You might want to become angry and shout at them or swear at them. Don't! Many years of experience have taught me not to care about words, words don't hurt. They are basically a formulation of letters coming out of someones larynx through different vibrations. Think about that. - This may sound cliché. But ignore them, maybe just laugh or chuckle like me and walk away. - Stay polite even if they are not So, back on to the story. I walked away and didn't bump into him anymore. I thought it would be over, most of the time it is. But this guy just couldn't give up. So I repeated the same process and did so the next day as well. And what do you know: it worked. The tides are now turning, and instead of him achieving what he wanted, to make me angry and embarrassed, I could feel he was now getting a bit angry. So, my next few tips. - Be consistent! You can't let the bully win. His/her goal is to make you angry (most of the times). Or at least to upset you. - Don't overdo it. If you have won, you have won. Don't turn the tides in such a way that you are now becoming the bully. Story time again. Now, if the person stays consistent for a longer period of time and just won't give up. It's time to confront him/her. That's what I'm going to do to. This piece of sh*t is using Facebook, Twitter and other social networks to bring me down. Enough is enough, there's no point in confronting him on the internet. Quick tip: - Even if it seems scary, confront the bully face to face. Bring some backup if you don't feel safe. But how exactly do I make it clear to the bully that the bullying is over, you ask? Good question! First of all, stick to the tips above. Don't be angry. DON'T insult the bully or swear at him/her. There is no point. The bully might get angry him/herself or just feel satisfied with him/herself. Instead of being angry. Be stern! Look him/her in the eye, stay calm. And tell him or her it's over. ''You are going to stop with your nonsense, today. At this moment in fact.'' The bully might not even budge, but trust me, he or she knows inside he should not mess around with you anymore, however. The bully will most likely not admit. If they do, well done. If not, make it a bit more personal. ''Why are you bullying me? >> Has something happened in your past that has made you this way? What's wrong? (<< You have to be careful with this one though.) Are you trying to achieve something here? Or what? Stop acting like a fool, I'm telling you this once, and one time only: stop. Your. Idiot. Behavior.'' After something like this, the bully is almost certain to stop his bullsh*t. I can know, I've had trouble with bullies before. This is how I politely told them to f*ck off, and it has worked numerous times. I'm going to confront that a**h*le tomorrow and put an end to it. I'll update you guys on how it goes. Now, doing this correctly is difficult. And your success will depend on you as a person. If you just can't stay calm and flip out easily it might be more difficult. All I know is: it works for me. It might be good to ask someone else for your help, but if you're mature you just have to deal with matters yourself sometimes. Besides, asking for help for some people is a sign of weakness, and you don't want the bully to see you as a weak person. Remember, don't allow anyone mess around with you. You are strong. Remember that. ~ Peace
The problem with bullies now-a-days is they are desensitized to that reasoning stuff. They would simply scoff and insult you if you tried to ask them about their past or deal with them on another plane of conversation than bullying.
What you say is true. But you have to take care of them in one way or another. Maybe I've been lucky. But I know what to do, and like I said this may not apply to everyone. I however, can be very serious, maybe even intimidating at times. I don't want to sound like some tough guy (I'm not, trust me. I still love cute ponies :3) but the way I described above is very effective for me and I've had some bullies, especially in the past which I have not had any problems with after I told them what I wanted to tell them.
The only thing I can remember was a mean English girl my freshman year giving me a hard time. One day I kinda snapped back at her, but felt bad afterwards even though I disliked her a lot. The next day I apologized and she tried to play it off like a tough girl but she never said anything mean to me ever again.(She does have a heart somewhere in there) From what I remember, most bullies are either hurting inside and masking their emotional pain, or they are just trying to make their friends laugh at the expense of someone else, typically a nerd or a fat kid. As far as cyber-bullying goes, I find it much easier to ignore them. I had some mega-rednecks trying to give me crap on xbox live last night because of my Rainbow Dash emblem. They kept telling me to plug my mic in so they could talk smack to me. I just muted them and kicked their ass in the game. Turning to a different train of thought, anyone can be a bully to someone else. I've felt bullied on this forum quite a fews times and I know some members considered me one as well, even though I never felt like one.
Beating the unintelligent sh*t out of them always works. Due to the fact their brains work on the same plane of consciousness and reasoning as an ape. Also this is one of the reasons i don't go to school. And avoid peers.
Haven't really had any experience with bullying since the 2nd grade, but that one was godawful. I don't remember being an infamous fibber, but absolutely nobody believed a word I said regarding the bullying that took place, not even my mother. The worst experience I had with that bully was when he told (what I thought would be an obvious) lie about me using profanity. He had some girl vouch for him, I'm guessing it was his sister or something. Straight to the principal's office, where I was given a lengthy admonishment about how cursing is bad, and how my principal was quite prone to using it when he was my age as well/words "slipping out." I finally get to speak up and say that the kid is a bully, and simply telling lies. I can't remember what my principal said about that, but no action was taken regarding it. My mother was called, and soon after, she arrived to pick me up. I received a terrible spanking, and probably had many of my toys and whatnot confiscated. That day was terrible. A while after that, I believe I got transferred for the remainder of my 2nd grade year. In hindsight, I really don't know what more I could've done to convince any of those that I told that I was being bullied. It was like every adult in my life thought that kids were just straight up prevaricators.
Terrible, I do not wish for anyone to be bullied and if I see someone that is being bullied, I will make sure the bully gets what he deserves. This was not possible a few years ago. But really what is even worse is the terrible spanking you got from your mother. I find one of the most horrific things parents beating their children. In fact, it disgusts me. How the f*ck can you hit your child? To me, hitting your child, who is obviously way younger than you is a sign of weakness. It means you don't have authority over your child, and to me that makes you a bad parent. My father beat me too when I was younger. For example if I did something he found bad he would say: Give me your hand and hit it with his shoe, several times. Even in the worst case scenario he would get a belt and go at it. This is also the reason my mom divorced him. He now lives in England, has 3 children and is re-married with a wife who also beats her children. I can't stand it. Whenever I visit I always have to stop my dad or step-mother from beating their children. Sometimes I even think about reporting them to the damn Police for child abuse. My mother raised me without hitting me once, not ONCE, even though her parents used to hit her, and I've always (almost always ) been a good child. Anyway, I've gone a bit off topic here, my apologies, rant is over.
I experience occasional bullying in school and online. A lot of it bothered me. Fortunately, no one dares bully me IRL since I am physically tough, and have a military & MMA background. Wear my brony gear, and at most I get a weird stare. Most of the conflict for being a brony came from my mother, and occasionally on an anime forum from moronic, dumb*ss mods. I haven't been bullied in a while, but do I face rejection, which hurts more.
level of bully L1 bully will pick on you, Sulotion use your vocabuary to solve. L2 bully will contin with his torment Sulotion Tell him to "stop it" in a dominet vioce. L3 bully presents treats or violence twoard you. Sulotion find a friend that was with you when this happend, and go to a cop, tell them that he/she threatend you. L4 bullies normaly don't get to this lv unless thier is a lack of trust or security in his/her life. Sulotion learn to fight! If a bully is creating a hostel inviorment for you, tell your good friends first, then an adult. BULIES do what they can to make your life as misrable as they feel.
A level one gets a middle finger from me. A level two gets a shin kick. A level three gets a back threat and a punch. A level four gets dead.
I used to be verbally bullied by *squee!*s a few years ago because I was a nerd. Then High school hit. Guess who's laughing now? And helping the exact people with their class work?
Kick their teeth down their throat. Choking is bonus points. If you aren't violent? I'm sure all of us can start a comebacks blog right?
I've had my fair share of idiots, dating right back to early childhood. But what I generally do is try to find the funny side of it - when someone's own lack of intelligence mulls together for what seems like an eternity, and the best insult they can think of is some arrangement of letters they read on 9gag or something of the sort. You know what I mean - stupid, short insults that only seem to be composed of two syllables or words; a clear sign of the bully's intellectual dysfunction. So, here's a little list of the funnier insults I've gotten, where they tried to use more than one word and just flunked it up horribly. "You wiccan devil worshippers have offended the pixie elder druids. You don't understand true magic, so you must now take a vow of silence." - wannabe hipster girl, 8th grade, waldorf/steiner/hippie/alternative school* *I responded to this one during lunch break - the offender was in the room - by possessed-walking up to the blackboard, drawing a pentagram in white chalk, and slowly returning to my seat with the same blank stare. In total silence. Needless to say, they were the ones who were silent for the rest of lunch. "...hey, yo." *edges close to and nudges in ribs* "Yo, hey. Y'know, I have a mangina." - Attempting to hit on a woman who had just come out of the closet as lesbian, ten seconds ago. "The long, wiggly, sexy kind." - Part of an insult about using live snakes for unspeakable purposes. This joke stemmed from me saying "I don't know why people don't like reptiles, snakes are pretty cool." So what I generally do when it comes to physical insults is just laugh. If they don't know how to make a good insult, or they have to feel the need to make a longer insult, it just shows how self insecure they really are.
Really? Snakes? Eww. I love snakes! Those *squee!*s ruined snakes for me. And all y'all being bullied, telling someone ain't weak. Its mature and right. F**k what the idiots bullying you say. Sent from my MID using Tapatalk 2
I know this sounds awful but sometimes you just have to grow a pair and handle it head-on. I've been there. I know how it feels but when the teachers and principal say they will handle it and don't, then what can you do? I dealt with one for about a year and when going through the proper channels proved fruitless, I handled it myself. I am usually pretty passive and the other kid knew that. One of his things was that he would kick me in the leg and cluck at me when we stood in line. I had told the teachers and principal and they said they would handle it but never did. This went on from about the end of 4th grade and midway through 5th. It came to a head one day standing in line. Just as always, he was kicking my leg so I finally turned around and busted his nose. I hated to have to do it but at that point, I don't think I had much of a choice. He avoided me for the rest of the year and, surprisingly, the next year we actually got along pretty well. I know that they say that violence never solves anything but sometimes you just have to stick up for yourself. Still, I do NOT advocate fighting. While it should be used ONLY as a last resort, one well-placed right hook can do wonders.
I agree. Try peaceful methods first, violence is not the best option. It is of course always useful to be able to defend yourself. But as you said. Only as a very LAST resort.
