Due to mistake I have made in my life and financial hardship. I am in a less then ideal situation where I have to share a house with 6 other scums of society. When I say that I am mostly referring to them because they are a pain in the ass to live with and I know it is them because my housemates have rotated around to new people over time and I know they are becoming worse and worst people that are staying at the house. What I want to understand is their complete inconsideration and regard for the fact that they are sharing the house. I am almost always thinking of how I can be as considerate of my housemates as posible, so I use headphone if I want to listen to something loud. I make my best attempt to be quiet especially late at night and I clean up after myself when I use the kitchen or bathroom. Why am I the only person who does this and why should I not just give up and become a inconsiderate slob too, since all my housemates are. The housemates I had when I first moved in were much better then the ones I have now and the house was much cleaner. Here is a list of the things that annoy me and tend to give me the inpression that everyone is this inconsiderate and that humanity is in general this inconsiderate and immoral and selfish. -They leave all the mess behind then when they prepare food. -They leave all their dishes in the sink, leaving it full and unusable. -They leave all their shavings in the bathroom. -They come home drunk at 4am shouting and hollering with their mates. -They slam the front door when they leave at 5 or 6 am. -They play music loud enough for everyone to hear all day and into they night. Even my own noise cancelling headphones can't block it all. -They take shortcuts on their housecleaning chores and they complain when other people do the same. -They leaves cigarette buts outside and then expect non-smokers to clean up after them when it's their turn on the roster. -They sing and whistle out loud at between 8pm - 2am. -They presume to tell me how to cook my own food, despite only setting the smoke alarm off 4 times in 2 years, which is 2% of the total times it has gone off, hypocrites! -and what really MAKES ME ANGRY IS THIEVERY. I never ever leave anything of mine in their grasp ever again, because I have had a full thing of butter stolen, a bottle of coke stolen AND A $99 PLAYSTATION CONTROLLER STOLEN. I will never trust my fellow housemates again. Especially since I am on such a limited food budget, that is they stole just a little bit from me. I will starve. My housemate put their initials on their food now, but why should that be nessecary, why should oneself not be able to remember what belongs to oneself and they everthing else does not belong to them. I think it's just an excuse for the thief or thieves to say when they look in the fridge, oh this isn't label there for it could belong to me, om nom nom. Those are just the ones that can be explained quickly, this is another reason I think other people are generally scum and why I am anti-social. Why would I want to associate with people who are so insensitive of others. Do these idiots never think that others may be sleeping, do they not realise that their lack of cleaning up after themselves leaves the place looking like a pigsty 6 days out of 7 and the person who has to clean has an entire day wasted. I am actually despite being the better man, getting lazier and lazier with cleaning up after myself, since whatever mess I leave is insignificant compare to what they have left, plus things are so disgusting, they if I did clean up my own mess I would be cleaning up all their mess at they same time, which I don't think is fair anymore. I also use headphone 80% of the time which is uncomfortable and I have thought screw it they don't care about people who don't want to hear their crap. So they can hear my pony music too. I am still the better man and even if I tried with all my apathy, I do not have enough to match theirs. Living here is driving me insane.
Sometimes the best of people can be driven insane by the worst. Try living in a household with a Father who doesn't care about you or your brother, and only cares about himself. I've been in your situation before. It isn't fun, it isn't pretty. But it is necessary until we can find a way to make things right. Don't worry Setz. I'm sure it will be over soon. Living with scum... it's horrible. The amount of filth you have to go through must be unbearable. Whenever you can, I'd recommend moving out. Like seriously. Staying in that environment is really bad for you, especially in the long term. It can make you do something you really, really REALLY regret doing. Seriously.
That's disgusting. I do hope things will get better for you. If worst comes to absolute worst (or if it's already come to that), I suggest looking elsewhere for a place to live. Those people sound like absolute jerks. On a lighter thought, now I'm thinking which six of you would I like to live in a house with....I doubt any of us would ever act like those people...
my sister is like that,laving half empty mugs f cofee round the house,clothes srwen everywhere,AND NVER CLEANING OUT AFTR HAVING A SHOWR!
mmmm.... that live style you have sounds so stressful!!!, I dont think I can hadle that, live whit people that are so inconsiderate.............actually you amaze me that you Can handel it, you are Very Strong Setzertrancer!!!! sure you can do something, like talk whit them about rules or deals??
Well, Setzer, I'd offer to rent a place with you - my wife is a neat freak, and we can all pony out - but I'm not sure you'd want to live in Reno.
and depending on your willigness to pay rent,i may be able to kick my sister out th ouse for your rent money,im pretty sure my parents would agree,dpending or not you live in uk
I personally would suggest setting them on fire. That, or just make a video showing how nasty everything is when you have to do the cleanup. I'm assuming it's not your house?
If you live together with roommates, especially 6 of them, you should call them all together and make a solid plan of who does what to keep things clean. If you really can't come to any reasonable agreements, make them leave or leave yourself.
Man, that sucks. I can't stand people like that. It's one of the reasons I refuse to share a place with people.I have two suggestions. First, Do exactly what they do or you could move out. I say follow the second one, no one should have to put up with people like that. Their behavior is inexcusable.
Oh setz.. it must be horrible living with these people. I can't imagine how people can be so inconsiderant. I personally suggest you take on some sort of 'survival-scheme', until you can finally move out of that horrible place (or some other positive thing happens). Brainstorm about how you can best survive there without going insane. Try to survive, for yourself. Clean the place up enough to keep yourself sane, but not enough to make them believe they can just leave all the chores to you. Of course you could just start acting exactly the way they do, but I think that's just not who you are. You should always value who you are, even if it gives you a hard time. Be proud of being one of the few normal people on this planet. Good luck over there <3
I am sorry to hear about your situation and wish you luck in procuring a more ideal living space and financial standing. However, I do applaud your sense of courtesy in regards to the rest of your flatmates even in spite of their rude and inconsiderate behavior. Many times, I myself have had to be with others who have no regard or accountability for their actions and having to compensate for it myself. I guess I could say I am much the same in this regard, trying to stay as clean and low-efficiency/need as possible so as to make myself less of something to worry about. In doing so, everyone seems to have forgotten I exist for the last decade or so, but I can deal with that if it means I will not be yelled at - success is bittersweet, but I can't really complain, can I? You have every reason to believe what you do, so don't beat yourself up about it. I wouldn't recommend you to keep such thoughts very closely, as it can lead to further isolation, which is never comfortable. To consider yourself above them is wrong, however. You may be the only reasonable and considerate one there, but one must not forget that they're aren't much different from you. It is not polite to say it, but it's completely acceptable and even suggested that one keeps such contempt for others in their thoughts instead. You are right in that something has to change if you're going to stay there with them... ...my best suggestion is to set up a duty list for every member of the house. Make it a big board in a place everyone can see and assign responsibility to them. If they object, you can play hardball and come up with an ultimatum. Perhaps adjust how much everyone has to pay for part of the utilities if they fall behind on a task. If successful, this may even get everyone closer together - it's not just your house, it's everyone's house. If all else fails, consider any other options you have to at least remove yourself from this situation.
If it's becoming too much, stay with a friend/parents until you can find a new place or roommates. Friend of mine stayed with his mom until recently and has found a cheap place to stay now.
I was frustrated when I posted this thread, it's all true, but could be worse. I should just focus on what's good about living here. - I am a heavy sleeper, so once I am asleep noise rarely wakes me up. - I live a short walking distance to school and to the main city center - I am perfectly comfortable, compared to most people with living in a dirty environment. um... that's not much actually. But the location really is extremely good. I may have made the mess sound worse then I meant to from your response. It is far from the bio-hazard level you see those news stories about. I guess my housemates have to clean up after themselves to a degree or it probably would be like that. I am far from a neat freak myself but the main thing that annoys me is that the mess gets in my way. The sink is full of dishes all the time, It is hard to find a clean spot on the counter to prepare my food and the microwave and oven are unsanitary. I also get annoyed that noone else seems to be complaining about this since, I would think the landlord would have been complained to by now. Not to mention that he seemed to be strict about it even while the neater housemates were here. Has he just stopped caring? I don't want to be the one that makes the complaints because I don't want to come off sounding like the bad guy and want to avoid any conflict or reason to have them not be able to tolerate me. We used to have obnoxious housemates that would leave signs everywhere saying things like. 'Clean the oven after you use it', 'clean the microwave after using it', 'turn the light off during the day' and many more. Me and some other housemates had a discussion about how annoying we found their snootyness and rules. Shortly after they got kicked out of the house due to lack of paying the rent and new people moved in. Someone took down all the sign and that's when things started getting bad. I had thought the signs were just stating the obvious and that my housemates were smart enough to follow these rules by common sense. But no the signs apparently worked, or it is entirely the 3 new housemates that replaced the last 3 are contributing that much more mess. But yeah, I did not realise how good those previous housemates were until they were gone. Another thing that annoys me is that one of the housemates who is disgustingly fat, walks around the house without a shirt on. Maybe I am being an ass here, but dude do you have no shame? I too am over weight and I don't subject people to having to look at my man tits. Maybe I'm just insecure. Again as i'm typing at 5 am. Another housemate let's the door slam behind them as they leave. I don't get it do they not realise how loud it is. When I leave, I make sure to close the door slowly myself. Another possibility occurred to me, maybe because of my past experience of being bullied and emotionally tortured during school. I have become overly sensitive empathetic towards others and the lack of these feelings in other people is actually the norm and if I did start complaining about these things, I would become the annoying whiny housemate. edit: oh wow green gem, I must have got it while typing this, thank you everypony.
I don't think everyone lacks them, but a lot of people nowadays don't seem to have them. How old are they? asking out of curiosity.
Youngest I would guess is an 18 year old student, who from what I can tell is not contributing to the problem. It's the oldest 3 between 30-50 years old that are causing most of these problems. The obnoxious pair that turned out to make the place a lot nicer, were a married couple, late 20's I would guess. In fact the younger they are the less I dislike them. So much for the wisdom of the elders, huh.
