Just today I was broken up with. I kind of knew it was coming. She had been acting less and less like a girlfriend for over a week. ...but I digress. The issue I want to talk about is, what to do with your ex's. Friend-zone or send 'em to the moon?
Depends on how messy the breakup was. There's no reason you can't remain friends after breaking up, unless it ended with violence, screaming, anguish, trauma, blah blah.
Yeah if you break up on good terms, there is no need to send them away...But if it ended badly, then it may be time to move past them...
Well it depends as the others already said. I mean if she cheated on you, that was something i never could forgive. If you just broke up, while being angry, thats a hole other story. I for one are still befriended with the last 2 ex´s of mine. When i broke up with the first one we made a deal, since we had similar friends. e just said "okay, lets not see each other for at least 1 month, after that lets look if we can still be friends" and well yeah that worked. For my last ex it was just normal, we also had a little pause, but we were such good friends that we didnt feel strange meeting. Sooo... for the Ex´s before there two ( which is now nearly 5 years ago) well we broke up and we are all on good terms, but its a little awkward, when we see each other on the street.
I think the key for every situation depends on the circumstance. So naturally it depends on a lot of little factors. Were you friends beforehand? Why did you start going out with them? How good was the relationship? How nasty was the breakup? ...Those are rhetorical, don't answer those. But my point is, if you were friends with her beforehand, why should anything change? If it was a bad relationship, well, it depends, how bad was it in your opinion? How nasty was the breakup? Was it bad enough to spoil a friendship?
Being asexual, I haven't actually gone out with anyone. Most of my friends are girls and I'm pretty sure I've been friendzoned by every last one of them. One of my closer friends commented once about how sorry she felt for me for being friendzoned so hard. Honestly, I see dating at this age kinda rediculous. What's the longest anyone's ever gone out; four or so months?
The issue people run into while trying to be friends after the fact is dealing with their own feelings when they see someone with someone else. Can you be friends? Watching the other person fall in love with someone else? Will it be awkward between you? Are you both mature about the fact you aren't going to be together afterwards? It's not something you can easily decide and the situation and circumstances affect both of you. I had a friend recently who tried the whole "friends with benefits" idea with a mutual friend, but they started to get attached and--while completely irrelevant--went through a pregnancy scare and they split up and haven't talked since. :\ It's really up to you if you can handle just being friends and nothing more than that. Would you be good friends, or great friends?
