^AWE. I, too, am in a mono relationship with a boy I've been with for almost a year and a half. I'm happy, and sex is somehow isn't dull yet. Yay!
On the topic of attraction of personality and superficial qualities, well, this is the way I go about it honestly. I really don't care how someone looks, I really don't because I won't like somebody just for who they are on the outside, as cliché as it sounds. What I like to do is, recently, become much more extroverted than I used to be and as a result I find myself meeting many new people and making many new friends. Now I'll admit, I am looking for a relationship, it's my motivation for this at the moment, but I'm not jumping into every friendship on the expectancy that it will lead somewhere. No, I'm doing the opposite, I'm legitimately just getting to know new people and if I notice that I really click with someone then I'll actively pursue it further. This doesn't mean all too much for how they look because there's a huge different between how they look and how much I'm attracted to them. This is difficult to explain, but it's not how you look, it's how you present yourself. If I like somebody for their personality, then it's not going to matter how they look because it's how they act that will ultimately bolster my affection for them; it will make them look beautiful in my eyes. TL;DR- A good personality can make you physically look amazing to the person you like.
I dont know i was never really looking for a relationship i just stumbled in there. But yes its the personality that counts, because if you dont really like the other one except for the looks, why take them?
You make a very good point Zephyr, but there is a limit to this I feel. There's only so much personality will go before their looks become a problem. If you are looking for a relationship that will eventually become physical, you might 'think' you're attracted to them, but unless your body 'feels' attracted to them, it will become a problem.
If you can't get past physical appearance, you shouldn't be in a physical relationship with that person. That's my take on it, even if it is a bit harsh. - - Auto Merge - - Then again... beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
See the thing about it is, although that limit is there, I'm mostly (mostly) unaffected by it because I much prefer extroverted girls to the introverted ones, and the less than good looking girls tend to be a little quiet, whereas I prefer the more talkative ones. Sure, I could go around saying I only date for personality, but that wouldn't be true because as Foxy said, there is a limit, albeit however tiny it may be, but it's still there. I'm confident in my choice of person regardless because I already know I can prioritize personality over looks, so there's no point in making myself overthink this.
Pretty much my strategy too. I'm a eccentric geek so I gotta make sure that's something in both our favours before anything escalates. My experience in this field is more on the long term than the short. I've had two relationships, both with local girls that I'd met in school and been able to keep visiting and such. Both have lasted for around 2 years or more. The only thing I can think of that would be useful for anyone that's not been said is to remember that the best gift to give is Your Time. I mean, that's really cheesy sounding, I know, but it's true. Being with someone special over jewellery or knick-knacks, right? As for the second part of the title; sexuality? Considering what my brains been doing, I'll put myself down as 'Confused'. Partly because it's more amusing but mainly because it seems apt.
Relationships always seemed like a waste of time in school and college. Out of all my friends I've seen with girlfriends in high school, only 1 is still with the same girl. The others got cheated on and lost hope in the idea of a relationship or are with some other girl they'll probably break up with in the next 2 years. It doesn't seem worth the effort or money to me. I'd rather play a new video game with my best friend then go out on some date with a potential partner, unless I am already friends with this person. Seems childish to some, but I don't care.
The sooner I clean up my act and get a solid chance to build up on a potential relationship, the better. The one irl relationship I had was a train wreck, partly due to my incredible awkwardness but mostly because the other person was only interested in the physical aspect, if you catch my drift. Relationships must be built at a steady pace, with no one rushing to get into it. Otherwise, the whole thing becomes shaky and no one knows what they want out of the relationship.....if that makes sense. Of course, once I get past the more time-consuming parts of my life (COLLEGE!), I might actually be able to find out if I'm right or if I'm spouting inane BS.
I think I'll post in here to give everyone a say on what my views on relationships and one's sexuality are. - - - - - - - Allow me to start off with sexuality first. As several others on here may have been, when I first joined this site, I wasn't the sexuality I am to this day. I saw myself as exclusively heterosexual, but unlike some others in the real world, I fully supported homosexual, bisexual, and even transsexual people of our vast world. I've seen news articles about what people do when they're harassed to death because they're a different sexuality than others. You know they thought the only answer was death, and in most cases, they took it out with suicide. Looking at all the events I see occur from the hate others spew out... I was stunned and shocked beyond repair. I've even witnessed someone getting pummeled because of this, and I didn't stand around and watched my own species getting beat down by their own kind. I reacted, helped the victim escape their clutches, and let me tell you, I wasn't alone in this. This event occurred last year in September, when I was walking out of the movies with my friends. We defended a 17-year old lesbian from being brutally punished due to her ex-boyfriend, who's just barely 17 by the looks of it, finding out she was that way. While one of my friends and I helped the girl up, the other two held the other guy down and kept him from moving. The security officers arrived at the scene and arrested the young man, and thanked me and my friends for taking action to prevent her from getting beat down. We all felt amazing after that. We helped protect someone just like us, a human being, a citizen of our nation, even though she's different than us based off of her sexuality. We escorted her to my friend's car and gave her a ride home. Her girlfriend was waiting for her there, and she was worried sick about why she was bruised up from coming back from the movies. We told her about our little encounter with the idiotic ex-boyfriend of her's, and she hugged us all and thanked us with her life. From that day forth, she's held onto us as one of her best friends, although we never really got the chance to properly introduce each other. She sees us as her best friends because of how we support the various sexualities of our kind. As some of you may know by now, I'm bisexual. I wasn't like this at the start of last year, though. Someone on this site helped me open my eyes and realize there's more to love than just one gender. Much more. This person, who's name is ePONYmous, helped open my heart up and broadened my horizons to see this with my own eyes. His aforementioned relationship at the time was one of the one's I supported, as well, just as I support several others on here. I soon began to wander over to being "bicurious," and that's when I soon started developing feelings for some individuals on here of my own gender, some of which, have lasted up to this day. Some even grew stronger as the road of life continued to develop, and some slowly diminished. I was taught that I shouldn't limit myself in life, and that I should experience what love is like in many new forms. Believe me, I used to see myself as "exclusively heterosexual," often taking a role in roleplays as my female OC from the past, "High Voltage." However, when I became bicurious, I changed that. I started to roleplay with my male ponysona, and soon began to enjoy that more and more. As time continued to pass by, I soon fell in love with someone, a stallion, and well, him and I dated for a little while and I became bisexual. Ever since then, I've been bisexual. Relaxing and enjoying my time in roleplays, and meeting new friends on here because I was one of the people who was like them, and we all respected each other and supported each other. - - - - - - - Now, for my thoughts on the many relationships that exist among us and our world. Allow me to share with you something I wrote on my Tumblr a while back. I think it'll help freshen your minds at what I believe in when it comes to love and relationships: I'm going to add onto this just a little bit, and paraphrase some parts, as well. For those of you I don't have on Skype, I also have a boyfriend as of this moment. His name is ePONYmous, and he's an orange unicorn who happens to love me deeply. Him and I have been in love every since March, except I was in love with him come December 2011, but we didn't date each other until June, and we've been together since then. We both love each other, and nopony is faking the other one out in some way. As some of you may recall, he's also much older than I am, borderline-10 years of age to be precise, but I don't care. He's not a pedophile or any person of the sort. He's a very sweet and caring person, and I love him for his wonderful personality, as he loves me to same way. But hey, who cares about age when it comes to love? I've said it numerous times to some of my friends, but love shouldn't have any boundaries. All that drama about religion, controversy, or even same-sex couples and relationships really grinds my gears, as I understand you may think it's wrong due to your religious beliefs or just your own beliefs. But let me assure you, it's not wrong in any way possible. I'm not just speaking for myself, but I'm speaking for several others on here and all across our world. We're all humans, just as we're bronies, and we should all love and respect each other, just as we were made to do. Disgracing your own race isn't what we were born for. We need to live our lives the way we want to, and not let anyone else hold us down with our goals. - - - - - - - That is my time. Sayonara, everypony. ~ Tapatalk 2.0
Pretty much agreed full-on from what Cyber said. I even agreed to his tumblr post. But I'm too lazy to find the entry.
I've posted a lot on this stuff in The Gay Thread of yore. I support consensual relationships with an age disparity to an extent, but once the younger member is 18, I don't care about the difference after that. Recently, a 16 year old and a 22 year old I know started dating after having relations. Many disapprove, but as long as they're content together, I don't mind much as the difference in age isn't as big. Still, there are those who would disapprove of that difference. As for sexuality--I fully support LGBT. In fact, a gay pride parade is coming up Friday or Saturday near where I live.
The age thing is always a problem.. not aleways because peope dislice it but for the laws in that country. I myself dont mind mostly. but when the one is 13 and the other 23... well it is kind of strange... Agedifferende is also not a problem if you get older. like 22 and 32 or something... it can als obe good like this
I have come to realize relationships are unnecessary attachments. Trust no one, Love no one, Need no one.
I think the reasoning for that is because many times the older person can use their age as an influence to convince the other person to do something they normally wouldn't do. Not saying this is always the case, but it does happen a lot so it's reasonable to be cautious about that sort of thing.
Yeah right. Its not always the case, because sometimes you just cant change your feelings and it is love. But well.. there are pedophiles out there just waiting for something like this to happen. And not only pedophiles but as you said just someone using his/her age to convince the other.
