Well, after having to alert a paramedic yesterday and today accidentally rendering my left wrist shattered, I can honestly say that I am not in the best of moods. Usually drawing, listenining to music/playing Fallout 3/New Vegas/Reading Discord Whooves/Reading Homestuck, I can take my mind off harrowing events such as these. Sometimes though, your mind istelf is far too overencumbered by negative emotions that enable you to take your mind off things. Or at least that's how it is with me. I was curious, how do you cope with bad news or bad moods? Do you tackle them head on with confidence, attempt to resolve your problems, find a solution so that you can move on peacefully or do you choose to ignore them, bury/dispose of them so that you sdon't have to face your worries? And also, what things do you take part in in order to calm down and relax after a less than formidible day? Reading, writing, drawing, singing, excersising, creating, eating/drinking(or binging generally) etc? What is thit that can cheer you up after enduring pain or torment? Hobbies/interests or family/friends, or a mixture of both? Do you ever cry in isolation or to others? How do you express yourself when feeling in such a way? I'd like to know because I'm struggling to find my own answers at the moment and this possibly could give me some advice about my current situation. With a fractured wrist, this took far longer to type out like it should have done BAAAAWWWWW.
I'm sorry to hear you've been having even more difficulties. It does seem that events have conspired against you, but when I think about all the problems I face in my life, I just compare my troubles with those of a certain man, and I realize that I'm not the only person in the world who has issues, and that I can push through anything my life throws in my way. If you're interested/have spare time, here's an inspiring documentary about the aforementioned man. [video=youtube;Pxck08l_aFc]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pxck08l_aFc&feature=my_liked_videos&list=LLDIMEGDSnT5eYZazEORi5Vg[/video] We all have problems, but how inspiring is it to see someone who lived his entire life with issues and never spoke a word about it? I wish I could be more like him. I hope you feel better soon, Sinderlocke. Life is tough, but we all have a giant in us.
First of all, I'm sorry about what happened, that must suck D: Secondly, Most of the time when I have a bad day, I listen to music and it calms me down, If I am in the process of having a bad day, I usually try my best not to complain, and I keep quiet and just go with the flow, I do what I can to improve it, even if it doesn't improve my mood, (this can prove hard sometimes for me, as I'm not very productive in a bad mood) Gaming can cheer me up quite a bit too, I'm also a fan of the fallout series Being a devout Christian, Preying and praising God can help me a huge amount too, but that's just me. Otherwise, I just go to sleep if all else fails and hope the next day will be better. EDIT: Dammit Dilly, you ninja you :3
This won't be the answer you're looking for, but I'll say it anyway. Since the majority of it will be off-topic, I'll put it in spoilers and leave a tl;dr sentence at the bottom: Spoiler: Warning: Boring text ahead I don't deal with bad news or bad moods. How? I simply ignore it. Why? The way I see it, there are two universes: the "real" one and your own personal one (what each individual one of us see the world as). The real universe heavily influences what you see in your own personal universe. Since each individual people see the world differently, it starts to explain why people can have such different views on the same subject. Here's an example. When you're a baby, your universe will probably be contained within your house. As you get older, your universe broadens to your whole town, then your country. You then learn about the other planets and galaxies. A friend will tell you about a small country and suddenly it exists in your mind. The more we learn, the more complex our individual universe becomes. Since I live by this theory, I feel that I am in complete charge of my own universe and how I react to things. So if I was to focus on the negative news, the world would become a dark place. If I focus on positive stuff, the world would become a better place. You could say that I am lying to myself, but I don't care since at the end of all this, I'll still be happy. TL;DR: I focus on positive things and try not to get too hung up on the negative stuff. So I don't really have a past-time that helps me with bad moods.
I dissaprove of comparing the extent of your problems with others. People aroud me make their woes and sorrows a competition to see who is worse off than the other. Unfortunately that's what I have to listen to almost every day, the smallest complaints blown WAY out of proportion, begging for pity. I keep myself private to many of my friends and only mention my illness if necessary. I never talk of trauma or any harrowing event to anyone I know in real life unless I am certain they are completely trustworthy. IWatching the tales/lives of people who go through hard times seems to make me even sadder. It's very pathetic, I know. Well, thank you for your perception. I so want to draw right now, or even just play through Broken Steel, but I feel so compelled to mope that I just can't. I've never been so...haha, pathetic and lowly as to mope all day like the world is going to end, It's quite a first for me, and I don't really like using my life events as an excuse most of the time, but I suppose The fear of watching your health deteriorate gets to you. I wish I could sleep whenever I wanted to. I'm convinved I have insomnia, and I've even been prescribed sleeping pills, but being the sillyfilly that I am, I looked up the name and read a few horror stories. Somehow I have convinced myself that sleeping pills will indice me into a coma, death or I may be tempted to use it as a 'shut off' mechanism from the world when I don't want to face it. Wow, that's a very brave and powerful approach you have. I honestly don't think you use it as a retreat, nor do I think you're lying/in denial. You must believe that this helps you cope, and therefore it works for you and keeps you at least content enough to deal with hardships. I honestly which I had the courage to adhere to a process like that. It sounds so excellent and vast, yet when you take it briefly, it's simple and effective. Maybe it is better not to make things so complex and to just focus on positive emotions, situations and actions in order to feel better.
I'll spare you any half-arsed sob stories that really don't seem all that bad in hindsight due to not only your disdain of the competition that seems to arise from it, but because this thread is not about me, it's about you. When I'm having a crappy day, or have outright crappy luck, I personally go out of my way to flip the entire day around through small actions. Feeling crappy? Smile, a smile is contagious and will make those around you feel better, which will in turn make you feel better if you follow the same logic. Got crappy luck? Change your mindset. If you have crappy luck one day, you're going to have brilliant luck tomorrow. Not in the best of moods? Work out. I know this is a lame and typical answer, but I only say it because it works and it works well. I used to have self esteem issues, again I'll skip the story, but long story short I got into distance running. I went from out of shape to running half-marathons, and to see that occur within just a few months was absolutely uplifting in the best of ways. You'll be able to see yourself grow (regardless of which you choose), and watching oneself grow instills pride. When none of that works I crash on the couch in footsie pajamas and ice cream. Mint chocolate chip. Awwwwwwww yeah.
I'm fine with others sharing their moods and experiences, in fact I'd be more than happy for everyone to express themselves. I just don't like it becoming a competition, but I don't think people on here would reduce it to something like that, It's just the curse of the people in my area that think they have to prove themselves by pitifully debating how much worse off they are than others. <:I It's a sad thing to see. Well, my mindset is stubborn, and usually when I'm around others I have to force a smile at times and soldier through, unless we're having a good day and can take our minds of things that bother us. That could potentially be a problem, I focus on healing others a lot of the time, but recently I lack the emotion or energy to do so, and I feel awful for it! Never have I felt so...Debilitated. I don't feel sorry for myself in front of friends in real life, I find it easier to retreat to those who are close enough to offer advice but not too close to get worried by it. (If that makes sense?) I do go for long walks and practise Burlesque routines in my room if I'm feeling confident enough. But I love solitary walks, especially at night time, and If I wasn't so ill at the moment I wold be walking for hours, listening to music, enjoying the breeze and the solitude. However, I had to walk to the Job Center this morning, which took up all of my strength. I have very...fragile bones at the moment, and an apparant lack of energy and contant ache, and my doctor has advised me not to be on my feet so much, but I agree with you on working out. It does help, and it probably would, if I had the energy to do it. Haha, brilliant approach, I likes it. :B Any Ice Cream is good as long as it isn't alcohol flavoured, like Baileys or Rum or something.
Long walk, oh god I love those too. Warning- Corny- My favorite time to just take a random stroll is like at 1AM or something in the winter, and it's like the first snowfall of the year and there's not a sound outside except for the millions of little sounds from snowflakes falling on top of themselves, and even though it's late, and it's snowing, it's still warm enough for a t-shirt as well as being right enough to see clearly because of the snow. I know this is like, super picky, but it happens way more than you think and it's always awesome. Especially when you bring a laser pen along. Snowflakes make it look like the biggest light saber ever. GOD I LOVE WINTER
I can't stand walking in humidity, as the sun just gives me headaches and I just get Fatigue after spending a day in it. :I I love to go out at secluded times, away from the town so that you avoid as many people as possible and just enjoy your own peace. No massive lines of cars noisily honking at eachother and filling the air with a tainted smell. I remain mostly in residential areas, but If I go out beyond midnight the streetlights are turned off to preserve electricity, Wasn't fond of the news when I received it, I'd usually wander around at 2:00am. :C It;s impossible to see once the lights go out, so I rarely go for long walks after midnight anymore.
I deal with bad news by not releasing any emotion and sitting at my PC playing an assortment of games. As you can tell, my life is epic.
My boyfriend is exactly like that when he doesn't want to talk. He wants me to watch him though, he plays a lot of Strategy/war PC games. All very complex to an inferior being like myself. :I The only Strategy PC game I've played and enjoyed is Tropico...Though you can hardly call that strategy. Whatever works I suppose.
For me, my strategies tend to vary based on what emotion any misfortune has made me feel. If I'm feeling more depressed, I'll put on some sad music or watch a sad show and just let myself have a good cry. It's amazing how much just weeping can build toward an improved mood. As my mood starts improving, I'll start putting on more upbeat songs or happy/funny shows. If I'm feeling more angry, then either exercise, video games, horror movies, or just thrashing about to angry music seems to help. Most likely this is due to releasing a rush of adrenaline, which can just wear you out.
I tend to put on Tool when I wish to speace out and research corruption in the world. I listen to Dimmu Borgir when I'm angered with Religious fundamentalism and usually listen to Jazz to inspire me through drawing something. Diablo swing Orchestra always make s me feel better, regardless of what song, the music is glorious. Sometimes I feel useless after crying so I try not to do it, although sometimes it can't be helped. When I went to my first alternative music festival, I was so relieved and happy for months and months afterwards. 4 days of headbanginf, moshing and drinking can do you the world of good.
pffft last month I, dislocated my elbow, fractured my humerus in 3 different places (wasn't very funny XD) and broke two of my fingers. I couldn't do anything for a solid 3 and half weeks.
How deal with my bad moods? Well Normally I don't have them very often since I'm always usually Happy a lot and never want to be sad or angry but when I'm feeling down, I usually just listen to New Age Music or Uplifting Music till that bad feeling goes away. Food seems to be another thing that calms to me down as it's become comfort food to me when I'm in a bad mood. Despite My weight of 160 lb and 6'3", I seek it as sometimes food as a way to calm myself down out of this bad mood as well. As Bad news to me as like say someone else is posting like there having a bad day as well, I don't like being part of that person's drama. Everyone has there bad days and wish it was them but everyone has this, so having this is nothing new to me for me to worry about. This way of thinking might view me as a cold hearted person for not caring for other people's problems. I do care for you but There are times in life that your gonna have to face the music and you might as well get it over with it as if you wait any longer, it's gonna be more harder then deal with then when it first started or happened at first then waiting for you to deal with it later. I don't get a lot bad news in my life other what CNN or Fox news say on the Television but I always look on the bright side and positive side of things. If I made a Mistake in my life, I learn from it and pray that it will never happen again. Another thing is that normally when i'm feeling down or was given bad news to me, I would draw till the day was over or watch something that makes me happy. I hope this will cover some stuff I see of me being in a bad mood or getting bad news. I say more but I really don't know what else to say. Like i said, I don't get a lot of bad news or bad moods in my life.
I typically go on Skype or hang out with friends. Generally I just like to get out of the house when I'm stressed. Taking a walk is something I like to do. Buy some crap at your local store. Also, video games work okay and ponies work exceptionally well. I'm very sorry to hear about your bad luck. I can only hope that what I do when I'm stressed might work for you.
I look at trying to resolve any problems I have instead of moping about them. If I can't do anything about it (like a broken wrist), I chock it up to life happening and move on as best I can. I don't look at my problems as being that bad. I try to keep them in perspective. One of the guys at work is fighting cancer. He came into the office today after having been out for months. He was happy and glad to see us and we were all glad to see him back, of course. He looked much better than I thought he might. After this, any problems I have don't seem very big at all.
Well hard to say what works most... Sometimes it really is good to cry. I dont have problems with it and i have my boyfriend comforting me, when it happens. And what also works are friends. Even if they dont know and when you cant get out much. Just think of the people with which you can have the most of fun. You can chat with them, and maybe it makes youi happy. Maybe it it also better for you to write with friends that dont know of your problems so much, because you than dont have to talk about it. And i have to say one time when i was really really sad i just grabed a big peace of paper, like really big, took it to the garden and took some color, and just i dont know colored with my hands and work with the color. i men it was no huge art, but it really felt awesome And if you need to recover you need a good sleep. And i can truly understand that you dont want to take real pills for it. For me works Valerian. You can take it as pills or as tea. I think the tea doesnt taste well, but i sweetened it with a little honey. I used it a lot while doing my A-levels. I drink that tea and just get a little relaxed and sleepy, and thats perfect. I dont know if you can buy it in a normal supermarcet where you live, but the pharmacy usually has it too. And i for myself can say, when i sleep well everything is better.
