How Do You Make Friends?

A mix of way too shy to ever pursue relationships and seeking out like minded individuals.

 

I guess I'm in the middle. I just open a conversation with people, and...yeah, that's how most of my friendships started. Though, I've met most of my new friends because we have common/mutual one(s).

 

I prefer to be friends with people with mutual interests. I have tons of RL friends, but just a couple IRL. I really keep to myself cause of how much I've been hurt or used IRL. People are so close-minded here. If I have to make the first mood, it has to be to someone I feel comfortable. That's the same online, that's why I rarely go out of my way to message anypony here, cause I don't who's friendly and open, and who secretly hates me.

 

I'll give an example but it could be any situation. I just sat down on an airplane. Someone sits down next to me after placing their luggage in the overhead compartment. I turn to the person smile and say hi and strike up a conversation. Sometimes the person is open and sometimes not but you'll never know until you say hi. I honestly don't care whether we become friends or not. All I want to do is spread happiness to others.

When you are walking down the street and you pass by someone you have no idea what is going on with another person you pass along the street. Who knows by stopping, smiling, and saying hi and being friendly you could change the world, or at least brighten their day.

I found myself stranded at a bus station one day because of a weather delay and I sat down next to a totally blind person (I'm legally blind so I understand). I said hi and struck up a conversation with him. Turns out he was a disabled veteran who was blinded in war. He was very depressed. I told him that I don't have anywhere near the same experiences but I told him my story and how blessed I am and it changed his entire outlook on things. We didn't get a chance to exchange contact information and we have definitely not talked since but that's not the point. It's about sharing kindness and being friendly to another person.

Yeah I know it doesn't work all the time and you need to be careful or you'll get hurt but I think if everyone did it as much as they could, this world would be a better place.

 

How right you are. If only i had the confidence. But that's amazing that you're such a great person ^.^ I'd be glad to know you IRL.

 

I like your style. Glad that they are at least some positive people.

 

it really depends on my mood actually.
Sometimes I can just go to random person and start talking, sometimes I simply like to isolate myself from other people.
but in most of time, I'm one that cracks up sometime to talk about, either irl or online.

 

People who walk up to me and declare me their new friend scare me, kind of... -hides-

I prefer to meet people while we're doing something that both of us enjoy. That gives me the jump-start, so to say, the interest in pursuing a friendship with that person that I would not otherwise have. After a while, it will either die off, as I find myself enjoying what we were talking about rather than the fact that we were talking, or the other way around: I find that I enjoy their company, and not just what we are doing at the time, and that is how I make true friends. ^^

 

I hear ya. I never go up and be creepy like that. I just smile and say hi. That's it.

 

Two of my friends are practically inseparable. Let me tell you the story of how the three of us met at once.

In high school math class, having never had any previous interaction with each other, one of them turned around to ask the other if he could borrow a pencil. The other proceeded to take that same pencil and stab him in the hand. I was sitting next to them, and witnessed the whole thing. I made two friends that day, and they became inseparable.

... Do I win?

 

That's odd, one of the kids I eventually became friends with in middle school stabbed me in the arm with a pencil. >.<

I haven't seen him in many years though.




As for me, I don't really make friends, people make me their friend. If there was an award for making friends, I wouldn't even get the pity prize for participation. >.<

 

@Geo: You are one crazy pony. You really got me, you won something.

OT: Most of the friends I make are either by a weird coincidence or they disliked me at first and then start liking me when they got to know me.

 

I'm that guy who just randomly walks up and strikes conversation.

It's worked a lot more than you'd think it does.

 

I seek out people with whom I have common interests.

This is a lot harder than it seems.

 

I just talk to people. That's how it's done.

 

I try and spark up random convos but sometimes I come of as a cynical jerk :s kinda puts people off

 

Hey me too! You wanna know how I met my girlfriend? OF COURSE YOU DO.

I met her in Philosophy Class my first semester of University. I told her we're now friends. A month later we started dating.

Huh. Maybe the two events are connected somehow.

 

I don't know how it is. If I spark a conversation and if the other guy responds by sticking by my side for the rest of the semester than we're friends. As for random people who talk to me, I tend to keep to myself but if they insist in talking then I go along answering what they have to say. One thing is for sure, I never act the same with everyone I know. I adjust myself to them. Makes me wonder what my friends think about me. I know for sure that one of them would say "Estas feo". Meaning "you're ugly". Funny thing is that he's one of my best friends. xD