(Alright, for all privacy and whatnot, let's have people be anonymous.) My father has an issue. He knows it, yet has a hard time admitting it, not that it could be easy. He is addicted to marijuana. After finding this out a few months ago, I decided I'm not going to just "let it go." I spent a while trying to find out what cause this, when, and why. Because my parents are divorced, it made it a bit easier. He has been addicted since his twenties, and is now in his mid-fourties. It was also weird, seeing that he was the one trying to keep me away from drugs. He has used medical marijuana for his back for a year now, and has shown many signs of addiction. Long story short, I'm terrified. I don't want him to screw himself over on this crap. I want to help him off pot, but whenever I bring it up, he rejects talking about it or changes the subject. A key example would have to be a while back, about a month into my awareness. "Growing minds should not be using drugs, end of story!" "Oh, so it's fine when I finish school?" "Just go to your room." I have told him to try therapy, and he said he would. Lies. Any suggestions of what I could do to help him?
You just need to keep confronting him. If you keep bringing it up, or literally say to him: "You can't keep changing the subject, I'm determined to talk to you about this" then you will eventually get through. The first step is to get him to talk, see how he feels and let him explain what he thinks about what he's doing.
well,for starters WTF IS WITH YOUR AVATAR,IT MAKES MY MIND BLEED! and 2,i have a friend who has a problem like this,but its a but more muddled,involving theiveing ncles,a dad whos got autism and is paraoniod but heres my list of options that you could take a)ignore it b)ignore it and get out of there asap c)tell someone who can acutally help,not us d)nag hm to stop e)replace his marijuan with plain leaves,so he belives it doenst work anymore and he might quit <- reccomend this one! f)start marijuana yourself
If he wanted to ignore it he wouldn't have asked for help to take action. And advice is one of the best ways to deal with something. As I said, getting him to talk is the important first step forwards, he will obviously be closed up on the subject, and you need to force him open.
I really wouldn't advise taking the drugs, if anything it will make him angry, and angry at you, and that will really make the situation worse. He won't want to talk to you about it at all. You have to make sure he feels that you're trying to help him. That should be easy, because you really are. I wish strength to you.
Please chocolatechip, don't joke around. He is legitimately worried about his father and has every right to be. Don't try to make light of it with jokes as it is not a joking matter. @BenMan54321 I quite honestly don't have a ton of life experience to hand out in matters like these, but I would have to say that you should bring it up with him. Let him know that it bothers you that he is doing drugs. Tell him that you need a positive influence and that he needs help. The argument that marijuana is a mild drug is a weak one; don't let it placate you. And if that doesn't work, try bringing it up with another relative you trust. But like I said, I don't have the life experience to point you the right direction. Weigh your options before latching on to one.
Chip, if you're not going to be 100% serious about this, please leave. I_Ride_Ponies and Tenor, I have tried countless times. I have gotten my grandparents, AKA his parents, to talk with him, but it didn't get through to him. DRD, no. I want him to stop, not starve.
It won't be easy, but you really need to be assertive. You can't give up. If you leave him no choice by not letting him get away from you, then he has no choice but to open up. As soon as he does open up, there will be a lot of emotions bottled up, so be prepared. But always be sincere to him. You care about him, so make sure you don't give up. Don't let him brush you off, make him tell you why he takes marijuana.
I didn't say it would be easy, trust me, you need to confront him. You need to keep trying, it's essential.
it's all mater of will power, trust me. you just have to talk to him about it, and don't let go of topic until you say everything you want to say and ask. also try giving him some kind of ultimatum that will make him get stronger on his will power. (but don't do anything to yourself or any one on that matter). just keep talking to him and convincing him that he doesn't need it, that it's just in his head.
