Long distance relationship

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  1. Endblock

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    I'm in a (moderately) long distance relationship... We're both 15 and can't drive... We live pretty close but shes really busy and I never see her... Her parents are ok with her having a boyfriend but won't let her go anywhere with me... Any advice?
     
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    I agree with this^ entirely. You could have your drivers license within a couple of years. I got my permit at sixteen, license a couple months before I turned seventeen. I don't know the laws where you live but just wait it out. If anything, you have someone to talk to and kill time until you get your drivers license.
     
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    I agree with 2 from above. Better that you live within driving range rather on different continents.
    You say you're 15. If you're in us (or someplace else where you can drive with 16), then one year wait for each other isn't much. Eve then, if you won't have car of your own, as you'll be older, your parents (or hers), will let you take a bus to where she is, so you can meet each other.
     
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    I agree with all of the above posters. Sometimes, patience is a virtue, and this is one of those times.
     
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    As per other comments, taking things slow is difficult, but it's often the best advice. Just build on opportunities when you can, and get to know each other's families. Trust is a really easy thing to get (and with it freedom to go places alone) as long as you put effort and respect into the relationship and getting on the good side of her parents.
     
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    How far away is she, exactly?

    If it's like an hour drive, I could kinda see your predicament. If she's in like the next town over, they do make this thing called a "bicycle."

    Also, you can get a motorcycle license at 16, and a used moped prolly wouldn't cost much. (I think they're so cheap as to offset the cost of the embarrassment ha)


    You could also take a bus or ask your parents for a ride on the weekend or something.
     
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    You need to talk to her, see if she feels the same way.
    If she does, I'm she'll talk to her parents about being more lenient and you can go from there.
    Best of luck! :)
     
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    See if your parents and her parents are okay with you seeing each other while supervised. Being able to see her with a chaperon is better than not seeing her, IMHO. This will also help both of you earn your parents' trust as well. :blink:
     
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    One of my good friends moved away to live with her girlfriend. They met on xbox live.
    They started out a long-distance relationship, and met a few times before he decided to move to her city (5 hours by car), and the time they met before he went to live there, they talked about her becoming pregnant.
    Now living in her city, she's in a welcoming familly. She has to attend the court to know if she'll move out to some other far-away city, and he said he could avoid the troubles of the court by marrying her.
    She's 16, he's 18 (the mature age at wich you can become married).
    He currently resides with his girlfriend's sister, a pegasister, wich gave me some news a few days ago.

    Morale i wanted to explain here is, don't overdo things or go to fast.
    Because i've lost a friend, and that guy i don't know anymore has lost his mind.
    Though, i wish you luck with your relationship. If you avoid the case mentionned above, it should go pretty well. If you're both patient enough, that is.
    If you need anything, pm me. I've been the wingman of a few guys when it comes to ladies, and i'd be sad to see someone that i could've helped getting down, or worse.
     
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    make a certain date at certain place on a certain day when shes not busy like at a park maybe I don't know never really had these problems
     
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    Never, ever give her any reason to doubt you. Be reassuring, the whole thing could fall apart if the doubts pile up
     

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