Some content includes Bad language. but it needs to be seen. So, you probably didn't know i'm 14. "Big deal, not a care in the world, no bills, no rent". Wrong. Normal life isn't the problem. It's School. "Big deal, school isn't so bad - i wish i could go back!" Wrong. I have Never been a closet brony. if i am part of something, i make my opinion heard. I shouldn't have to suffer because of my interests... but i do. about 9/10 of My fellow students at my school (in my year) hate me, bully me and even hit me because of my likes. since them first knowing about my bronyism - i get terrorised by EVERYONE when i'm peacefully trying to complete my I.T work. I get comments such as - "My Little Pony is Gay" when they know that i don't like "Gay" being used as an insult, concidering that Homosexuality is not in any way 'wrong' "Bronyism is cancer" when they know that i am a brony. the List goes on. My only friends now are my true, 'friends till the end' friends Who i have very little of. one of them was a brony with me, until he took the hate almost as bad as i do. Now he never talks about the show. and that was all i really talked to him about. (Aside from games) So now, i feel we're growing apart. whic is horrible. Another one of my close friends loves anime, particularly Hetalia and she dedicates her time to help run Cosplay Meet-ups. The other day, i found out she was a closet brony (pegasister if you wish) and i feel we are getting closer, which kind of helps i guess. I told her about the Bronyscream UK event in august, which i discovered from this site ^_^ and we are both going to it unless any sudden changes happen. Before, i felt we were good friends, but not too close. Until today when she ran up to me at break time, went to Hug me, but she then realised i was with some of my very few friends, she got all shy and said " I was going to hug you... but i realised you were with your friends" Just to clear with everypony, she has never said anything like that to me ever, so i laughed and replied "don't worry, it's fine!" she then continued to ask me when Bronyscream is happening so i told her it is in august, and so she returned to friends. my other friends at my school are OK about me being Brony, but don't want it all in their face, which i totally understand, but i sometimes get carried away! /)^3^(\ my other friends live in scotland, in which i have 4, or America or even sweden and most are bronies. now is the time where i quote a message or two from some of the bullies. when posting about me buying a bag whic has Derpy Hooves on it. then when i decided enough was enough, i unfriended them, thinking it was the smarter thing to do... ... until i got dozens of these. i still get hate from them even when i least expect it. i come home from the shop after buying a few games with my friend, when i come home to this. and then other times, the hate escallates to this. (for some reason, i couldn't capture it with my Firefox Screenshot add-on so i'll copy + paste) Rowan Flynn yo shut the f*** up u f***in gorm look at u i have mates i got out u stay at home and play xbox all day cuz u donr have any mates and u probz still live wid ur mum and ur like 20? u fat s*** get a life and grow up u peice of s*** and fabian dont get mouthy to me tom and juatin we go to ur school and ur gorm in school and we just beat the f*** out off u and u know that now shut up and i aint gonna let the fat american guy talk to us brits like some dickheads so shut the f*** u fat mess and grow some balls and get a job u lazy *squee!*. Until he said my name in this, he was talking to one of my totally innocent friends. Who because of this, decided to block contact with me. Sometimes i wonder to myself "why do i even bother living anymore? i'm constantly depressed for several reasons and i still get hated which just makes things worse. So i came here and wrote this as a plead for help. i don't know what to do. i Get bullied Everyday and i never look forward to thursdays because i have 2hrs of I.T in which the teacher is totally un-aware of all of this and i have no friends whatsoever in that class. Everyone makes remarks about me. So i try and ignore it by listening to my iPod. I don't feel cofortable about telling any of my friends about this because i don't want to upset them. Without Ponies i probably wouldn't be here now, and that's not big talk. i mean it. so this whole thread is a shout out to anypony at all. i don't know where to go, i don't know what to do, i hardly talk anymore because i'm afraid someone will hurt me physically or emotionally. I need your help. whatever it is. Please. This can't go on. Help me.
i don't care if you are 14 you need a beer (i do not condone under age drinking so WAIT 4 years) bad times kid, been there as well. Sad to say, because MLP isn't big here like it is in the states, you might have to follow your mate and shut up and nut up. Ditch all the gear (don't throw it out, just keep it) and go back before you found the show almost. Now the bullies, smart move on the facebook thing, deal with messages, they can be deleted, then they don't exist anymore. But just look at the good things, you have a female friend that wants to go to a meet with you ^.^, wish i did, i just get my mate to go with me to meets, and we're here online for a chat. this just confused me, let him be you get all sorts of jerks in life, and they enjoy the replies, which people like you and me are good at giving. But tell some one higher up, i don't care for this it will get worse, just keep on it and ignore them. Make that IT teacher aware, or make the person above them aware. Also try and maybe get into an activite outside of school? (did Archery, yes bows and arrows) Its a shame because this is all a tall burden on a 14 year old.
@Stainless i am in the UK as well. and Rowan Flynn... yeh. he has terrible grammar. The problem is, they don't let anything go at all. I still get hated from something i said back in 2010 when i achieved my first 1000G on a game, i simply said "woo! my first 1000G! " and still, to this date, they still terrorise me because of it.
what a bunch of low lives, got something similar today with guys i work with, with having a crash two years ago, they all say 'but it was your fault' in hopes of winding me up cause in teh past i would explode with anger and go off with one. which they found funny. its all reactions. Maybe get rid of facebook? just don't suffer in silences, Also i do note that getting rid all that is brony and going into the closest means they won. but you win some you lose some. plus who would want to pick on your AWESOME FRO D: i love it :3
Hey there, Sorry to hear you're having troubles I had a similar situation a couple of years ago. I'd rather not discuss the details, but I was alienated from a lot the people around me for a while. In the end I just shut up and started making a conscious effort to fit in more, and a lot of guys were glad to accept me. I think it's important to be proactive about making and keeping friends, and to know when to keep certain things secret. None of my friends know I'm a brony, and while I really don't think they'd mind too much I really, really don't want to risk it. Stay a brony, just maybe keep your brony life and you social life seperate. A place to start: maybe lose the Derpy in your facebook name? It could raise some compromising questions. If all else fails, you could always try and make some friends outside of your school. Go to youth clubs or start doing a sport, those are great ways to meet new people. Good luck, I really don't know what else to say.
hey bro, i'm really sorry about what you're going through. i'm a closet brony (and a closet gay), so i cant really give you any advice on that front, but i do want to promise you that it does get better. People suck, i've experienced this first hand, but dont let it discourage you. i've been given *squee!* from my friends for my entire life about being a nerd, and by the friends i've told about being gay; just don't show that it affects you. that sounds like an impossible thing to do, cuz words can hurt a lot (especially when coming from friends), but just try it. they'll get bored of doing it if you show no reaction, and bully someone else. stay strong dude. dont give up, and dont do anything stupid. people care about you, a lot more than you think. dont let the words of some *squee!*s get in the way of you enjoying life.
When I became a brony I was already considered a top dog of the local "geek" community. I have been an outcast all my life, but never outright bullied. But there was one time a few years ago when a group of "popular" thugs gave me and a friend a hard time for playing Magic the Gathering at a table in the school corridor. I was outraged but decided that these lowlifes was not worthy of my time and just moved to a more isolated spot, though I did report this to the teachers and I never heard from these people again. I reccomend you to be proud of who you are, if anyone makes any remark of ponies being gay, flip them of and say: "So what?" Let them know that you are not ashamed of your ponies. Bullies respect strength and cannot hurt a person with pride in himself. Be like Rainbow Dash and take pride in yourself, your actions and achievements. Maybe I can give these people a piece of my mind, we have their facebook.
Just think: What sort of horrible life will they have in later years? It'll most certainly not be one filled with cash, I can tell you that for certain. But, as I've learnt, it's always the parents. You can do three things: Get rid of Facebook, ignore 'em, report them.
@Stainless Thank you the thing is that i believe conforming is wrong. Why should i have to change or hide what i like to suit others? It's wrong. @RonstaPony I'm kind of already on that. The friends i speak to outside of school are mainly people who i meet on XBL. I prefer socialising over XBL and then Face-To-Face because then if i do become their friend, i want them to like me for who i am, not what i am. Excuse me for any spelling mistakes, im using my ipod touch (old model) I know this sounds weird, but a few weeks ago i had a dream... ... A dream that i was drilling a hole with a drilling vehicle and i was with my friends. All of a sudden there was a bright light. After the bright light disappeared, i found myself with my friends in a village underground. It looked to familiar... Then i realised what it was... ... PonyVille. Then people (human beings) emerged from the buildings. They all had masks which were not very colourful at all, just one solid colour and the shape of them resembled cartoon animals. I remember the Mayor of this town wearing a purple mask shaped like a kind of panda. My friends were freaked out by this. I approached the mayor and asked him why the masks were being worn. He stated that the bearer of a mask will automatically become a Brony and will have no desire to change their mind. He knew i was a Brony and then showed me two masks (probably hinting to my friends) I turned around to see my 2 friends scared and overwhelmed with shock. I made a quick decision, and so grabbed the masks very quickly and jumped on my friends and tried to place the masks on their faces, thus activating the masks. As i was forcing the masks on, i could see tears run down their faces. I managed to get the masks on them. They both stood up and i started crying "i did it because i want us to live in peace together. I did it because i love you guys. (no homo, though funnily enough, 1 of them was my Friend from the OP - the one thats going to bronyscream with me...) They knodded, when all of a sudden, everything went black. I woke up to find i had got my head caught underneath a matress. I had no air and was sufficating. I managed to get out and regain my breath, i still dont know what happened after that part of the dream. Every night, i have been practicing controlling my dreams, so i can re-live it. I want to know what happens. Also thank you everypony else! I will make the other thank you's more personal tomorrow - i need some sleep! Bye bye everypony!
I added you on Facebook just for an easy way to chat to you if this occurs again. If I were you, I would just block 'em and ignore 'em. Now, the situations at school? Hm, it's obviously hard, I can see that and know that from past experiences. Sucks, doesn't it? :/ All I can suggest is to ignore them, turn a blind eye, shrug them off like they aren't even there. It takes time, but it works. You show no reaction, they get bored, they stop. Some chance of return, and if so, repeat. Apart from that, there isn't much else I can do sat here behind a screen. Hope this helped, and I hope things get better, you're so much better than them.
I can't really add much more to what's been said here. A lot of people say to not respond to it, to ignore it. I know that when I went through this sort of thing at my school, there's only so much of that you can take. I would say not to ignore it completely, but to respond in the right way. Show them that you're not going to put up with it. Tell the friends that you can trust. Tell any figure of authority that can help you out. It doesn't make you weak if you need to get help from your friends, it shows that you're more mature than these ignorant, intolerable idiots. Block them entirely, don't let them be able to message you. If possible, sit so close to your teacher in IT that if anything happens it'd be negligent on his part to not do something about it (in which case you should report him). The more people you get involved on your side, the easier it will be to deal with. I'd also collect the messages you have already. Anyone threatening you, insulting you or anything like that, save those messages somewhere, preferably with screenshots and text. What they're doing is cyber bullying, and that is illegal. Show it to your parents, your teachers (or headmaster, if possible) or the police and don't let them get away with it. They clearly aren't the kind of people you should protect by not saying anything. Lastly, I have censored your message so the swearing isn't open as much as possible. If you could replace the pictures with censored ones (save them with a different filename so you have both copies) so I don't have to replace them, that'd be much appreciated.
Best course of action is to ignore them. Those people have no redeeming qualities about them. They have no right to insult you, bully you, or any of the other S*** they are doing. Don't let them drag you down to their pathetic level, you are better then they could ever hope to be.
I agree with people before me. Just try not to react to their face. I used to get bullied a lot for liking certain things, and for liking girls, and all that jazz. I just stopped giving them an immediate reaction and they got bored and left me alone. That doesn't mean I didn't then go around the corner and react, or go home and react. Just remember that this doesn't last forever. There is another side of this darkness, and you WILL get there ^_^ You have friends, you have us, and you have ponies to help get you through it all. Just take things one day at a survive. Take it one harsh word at a time. Survive one encounter, brush yourself off, and survive the next one. Once school ends, they're the people that are left floundering while you'll be flourishing. And you will. You will flourish and become so much more than this. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you're less than what you are. You are a human being, you are amazing, and you will get through this. You. Will. Get. Through. This. I promise. It gets so much better, honey, and you'll see it for yourself. As far as dealing with things right now, maybe delete the people off facebook and lock it down. Set every option you can find to friends only. It's your right to only have the people you want on it. And definitely definitely DEFINITELY tell a teacher or someone about how you're getting treated. Show them screencaps, show them messages, do NOT let them beat you down until you suffer in silence. No one deserves to be treated that way, and you do NOT have to take it lying down. If all else fails, and if it's an option, maybe see about switching schools. And then maybe don't hide your bronyism and other likes, but don't announce it to the world either. Need to know basis. These things are YOUR likes and who YOU are. And only people really close to you should have the right to know that stuff. Self preservation, but not completely giving up either. Either way, if you ever need an ear, my inbox is always open. =) *many many many cuddles and huggles*
Sorry to hear about that. The only advice I could possibly give is to find a group of bronies around your area which thankfully RDN has a group kinda. http://rainbowdash.net/group/southwestbronies Also I'll send a request over Facebook if you need someone to talk to. EDIT: And to ignore the haters.
To add to what DRD has posted, this forum here is great to talk to UK bronies to support you. We're organizing a meetup for the 4th of february, you might want to check it out if you can, it'll be great hanging out with awesome bronies in person. ^^
Only thing worth adding that other people haven't mentioned yet: Politeness disarms people. Always be firm, never back down, but always be polite. Defend yourself if they strike, report people to appropriate authorities, but always, always be considerate and listen to them seriously even if they're being downright hateful. It's something a lot of aggressive people aren't used to, and many times they don't know what to do. Minor example: If you have the money for it, next time someone flames you in real life, try "That's interesting. I'd love to talk with you more about this, how about I grab you some lunch come break time and we chat about it [insert public place with authority]?". It doesn't always work, but I've tried this in multiple areas of my life(What, you don't like me sharing my religion? Tell you what, it's almost lunch time and I've got some money, wanna come with us to Carl's Jr. and talk about it? I'll grab you something) and I've seen it work most of the time. Even if I don't really change their opinion, I've seen changes in how they give me that opinion, which is often much nicer and respectful. It's hard to flame someone willing to buy you some food. I've said it before, I'll say it again: the principles of this group-love, tolerance, understanding, friendship-aren't just words, they are active forces to be used. The basics of life are the foundation for a sound society, and as always, it begins with the you. That said, do also know some quick and dirty tricks to knocking people out of a fight.
I think everything I could possibly say has already been said, but I'll state this. I used to have to deal with bullying in school for the dumbest things. For example: I used to be bullied for xbox, and even because I get good grades in school. I'm a closet brony because I'm positive there are none at my small school. But the bullying won't last forever. I see that a lot of people here have told you to simply ignore it. It's much harder than that, and I understand, BUT IT WILL GET BETTER. You have to tell yourself that whenever you feel down. Keep doing good in school, your gonna go far. Those bullies are nothing. They have nothing to go on but make people's lives miserable. If it continues to escalate, I'd seriously get help. And as Foxy said, keep those Facebook posts, cyberbullying is a serious issue. Also if you need someone to talk to, send me a pm.
I love all the support this community can provide. Kids can be cruel and unfortunately you're having to experience it. I've always thought it better to have a small number of close friends than a large number of false ones. Try not to associate with those that bring you down. In school, this will not be an easy task. You'll make it through though, as stated above there are quite a few brony communities in the UK. Look for people with your same interests and involve yourself more with them. In this day and age, distance is not as much of a factor in forming relationships as in the past. Also, DO NOT feel bad about unfriending those people on Facebook. If all they do is badmouth you and what you like, they aren't really friends now are they? Keep doing well in school, let them slack off and be dumb. This will be all they have in life, after school is over it's the nerds and geeks that end up being their bosses.
Well, I have uncloseted myself to a few good friends of mine, and they seem to handle it pretty well. However, a few others were not so kind when it came to discovering my Bronyism. Well, they did the usual stuff: Tease, annoy, embarrass, and even pick-on. I just ignored them, and they soon stopped with the insults and junk when they finally realized I didn't care what they were saying. My parents, being their usual selves, aren't as forgetting as the guys over at my high school. They're just as worse... (Just ask my Brother on here...) Anyway, this is school. There really isn't much you can do about it. People will do whatever it takes to get to the top of the club, even if it means sabotaging their own friends, or even rivals. Try to ignore them for a little while, relatively 2 - 3 weeks, and they'll lay off of you. They did it to me, so they might do the same to you. Of course, I don't quite live in the UK, so I don't know how everything could be around those parts. (Even though I do plan on spending a little while there after I'm finished with college in 2018/2019.) I'm sort of along the lines of you, as well. I'm only 15 (Going to be 16 in a few months.), so it's a bare challenge down here, as well. I haven't worn any merch to school yet, but I do bring my sketchbook with me and keep it in my binder, just in case of any 'inspiration', hehe.
I've completely opened myself up to being a brony to all my friends and most of my family. I used to explain it thoroughly to each person I told, but now I just say "It's a good show and it makes me feel good about myself." I haven't lost any friends at all over this. I'm not very touchy about it either. You got to be more laid back about it. Arguing with people about just fuels the flames and ignoring isn't much better. I'm not sure what advice I can give about them physically assaulting you, but countering verbal assaults is quite easy. If someone said "My Little Pony is gay" to me. I'd probably reply with a neutral comment like "Oh yea?" You get less results talking to stubborn, ignorant people than you would talking to a bagel. I got picked on in schoo in 9th grade and just a little in 10th and 11th. Once I reached my senior year something just clicked. I didn't care about how people thought about me at all anymore. I never felt like I had to defend myself with anything as long as it was only verbal insults. I was very content with my life and I made some really great friends over the years and still talk with them today. They all know I'm a brony, but their opinions of me haven't changed at all. You can't be so defensive about it, because that just makes them want to tease you more. I know it's easier said then done, but it works. I finally understood what my parents meant when they always said "Don't worry about how other people think of you." No one wants to tease you if you don't care. All in all, just be more laid back about it. You're a brony and you shouldn't have to change for ANYONE. If things seem to get worse for you, at least you have us. I love My Little Pony because it stands for love, friendship, bonds, etc. If people want to believe that it's "gay", then I'm as gay as the sky is blue.
