Ok, so there's this girl I've got my eye on. She's real pretty and nice. I was going to ask her out, but I don't even know if she's single. I've tried looking her up on facebook, but I can't find her. Suggestions?
well there is always stalking to see if she has a boyfriend. or be like me and get a random boost of confidence at the right time and just ask her out. that's all I got.
Find out from friends, maybe? Don't be too headstrong, you may come across as a creep, and thats the last thing you need.
If you don't know whether she's single or not, you don't know her enough. Instead of just jumping into a relationship, maybe just try getting to know her? The worst thing you could possibly do is just jump in and ask her out, out of nowhere. The best relationships are ones that start from friendships. So, if I were in your shoes, I'd try to get to know her first... try hang out with her, befriend her... see if she has facebook, and just casually ask. For all you know, she might not even have one. Over time, she'll get to know you, and possibly like you back. You have to wait until she's giving you signals back that she likes you, more than just a friend.
Like Kaze said, Friendships are the best to start with. MAybe you could ask her if she wants to hang around with you and some friends, so that you are not alone, but you can get to know her.
Be quiet, Mizore! Ever heard of being Friendzoned? I think if you're interested in someone, you're interested, if you're not, you're not. Every example of friends becoming partners has ended horribly from what I've seen. "I'm afraid to get close to him because it might end badly and I don't want to lose him as a friend" <- Underlying truth that it rarely works. This^ - so much!
I'm sure being friend zoned is far better than just going upto them and asking them out of nowhere and being labelled a creep/stalker, etc? Yeah, there's always going to be a chance she says no regardless of which path he takes... but I think I'd rather have a polite "Sorry, I'm not interested in you that way" from a friend, than just going up with no connection at all and being insta-rejected because they don't know him. Crushes on people come and go, and let's face it, You're not going to date someone you hardly know at all. If he made friends with her first, at least if she says no, he gets a friendship out of it. Everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives, and this might be one of those times. I'm just going from what I've personally seen, and experienced to some extent. I've previously been with someone for three years, and even though it ended, we're still on good terms. But eh xD It's upto him in the end I guess Just giving him options.
I dated my best friend once and it ruined our friendship after it ended... That's my two pence on that..
[video=youtube;tXmLRHnoSAs]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXmLRHnoSAs[/video] Don't thank me, thank Disney. :derpe:
I am probably the least qualified here when it comes to relationships, but I'm sure that there must be an area between "complete stranger" and "friendzone". If such a place exists and you can get to it, then you won't mess up a strong friendship and you won't look weird if things don't go to plan. Of course, this is all theory. It probably doesn't work in the real world.
If there's one thing i know about relationships, either friendly or romantic, never count on calculations and theories. Just go on feelings and confidence.
From what I've seen, it's best not to just jump right into dating. Try to become just a friend first. Otherwise, it's like you're in love with her for the wrong reasons. I've never been in a relationship myself, but I've watched my friends for years.
On a basic level this, become friends with her and just see where that leads. That's what happened with me at any rate.
I think you should talk more with her so you can know her a little more. and I wish you the best with her.
You DO want to get to know her. Introduce yourself, talk to her. Once you've talked with her for idk, maybe a week or two, enough to have established a rapport with her and you're on friendly terms, then ask her out. It's when you wait too long then you get friendzoned. So yes, you do want to be friendly, get to know her a bit and talk with her, but you're not aiming to establish a friendship. A lot of it is timing. If don't give it any time and just go up to her and ask her out, then she'll probably automatically reject you. But if you wait too long and you become friends, then you'll get friendzoned and it'll never go anywhere. Oh yeah, these are just two general tips. 1. Be funny, make her laugh. 2. Be confident in yourself. Good luck.
Horrible advice. "Be yourself" only works if "yourself" is funny, confident, outgoing and doesn't have an obsession for Star Trek.
