Some problems in my life

PM me if you want to talk. I know a thing or two about parents who don't understand.
Be strong. =]

 

We are all willing to help in anyway we can from here on the site!!!

 

Those sorts of parents are just ridiculous and simply alienate the way I label <willnotputinhereforreasons>.

I hope you're not limited too much, Danvid, and I hope you can resolve these issues.

 

I wish you the best of luck with your situation, you are definitely far braver then I am. That took some confidence on your part, and I'm sorry they chose to react in a very strict way. May we one day be able to celebrate your joyous and more regular return to Everypony! Good luck, Danvid! <3 We wish you the best.

 

No disrespect to your family, but those are the kind of parents I can't stand. You're their son. Remind them that. Not that you should even have to.

 

'tis a shame to see parents treat their children this way.

If I were your father, I would support you throughout your childhood and choices... Not treat you like a fool.
Some parents piss me off.

 

I think blaming technology and the media for your sexuality and religious/philosophical preferences is a little bit of a misnomer, but I can understand their perspective, as warped as it may be. I believe that understanding their perspective may lend you the tools you need to reasoning with them (depending on your relationship with your parents).

A little background (and I promise that, if you read this post, it will probably help you) regarding myself is that my parents have had similar opinions about me in the past. I told them long, long ago that I was atheist (I have recently adopted a strange form of "grey-area" agnosticism, but that isn't relevant). My mother, being an agnostic, really didn't care, but my father didn't take it so well. He is currently content with the way things are and has come to accept my viewpoints, however, his concern was more for my soul than anything else. Now, I have always had a very authoritative relationship with my parents with regard to discipline, they have been receptive to democratic approaches to rules and seem to accept reasoning and evidence that I understand the appropriate consequences of my actions with the end of adjusted or reduced punishment as a result. My father just said to me that he worried that he would get to Heaven and I wouldn't be there with him, and that was the clearest explanation that I ever received. As your parents, they love you unconditionally. It may not seem that way right now, but they do and are only trying to do what they see as what is best for you, being a child and their responsibility to keep on the "right' path, or the way they intend for you to grow up.

I'm assuming that you are a first or only child. I am a first child, and this is a difficult spot for parents to work with being an experimental instance in their life. Many things arise when your firstborn child begins to make his or her own decisions, and the ways of dealing with these things are not always clear-cut, so it results in rash decisions that often hinder the child's happiness and freedoms. Unfortunately for the child, the parents do reserve the right to limit your privileges in the household, and it seems like you aren't having much trouble with this fact (unlike myself when I was younger). I encourage you to have a healthy discussion with your parents, avoiding anger and aggressive emotions, outlining your religious beliefs (or lack thereof) and your reasoning. People fear what they do not understand, and I assure you, as someone who worked at a Christian daycare for two years and has grown up in a mostly Christian household, that your parents simply fear for your soul because, in their eyes, agnosticism will lead you to damnation. I'm not saying that their viewpoint is correct or incorrect, I'm just trying to shed light on their perspective.

Regarding your sexuality: I am also bisexual. My parents sort-of know this, I came out to them when I was 15 or so with a letter and they did not understand. I dated a boy as my first relationship and felt obligated to break up with him, despite my parents' attempts to seem accepting. After I broke up, they were happy that it was "not the path I chose to take". Once again, it's not an issue of persecution, it's an issue of both safety for you as their child and inability to fully understand. The problem is that there are various views on sexuality and some believe that it is a sign of mental illness or bad parenting, which makes parents freak out at their children. It happened to me to a degree, and I'm afraid it's happening to you a bit, as unfair as that is. The reason that I connect with you is that my parents also limited my internet exposure due to these things, but it was not because of anything irrational, they were just doing what they believed was right for me and, consequently, I actually learned more about myself without the actually unhealthy activities I had engaged in on the internet. Not to say that you are doing the things that I was doing that clouded my mind, but I am saying that they are simply innovating to find a solution to a problem that isn't really existent in reality, but is in their heads.

If I were you, regarding the sexuality issue, I would do some research at a local library on sexuality and present your findings to your parents, or maybe even consult a psychiatrist or psychologist in your area. I'm not sure how doable this is for you, but I'm sure that an outside opinion verifying that it is not a sign of illness or anything of the like, simply a preference that is what you are born with, would help both you and them understand an appropriate way to deal with this situation.

I hope that I helped. It's always important to remember that, even if they don't accept who you are at first, your parents unconditionally love you and ultimately just want to help you, you just need to communicate with them and, sometimes, just grin and bear it. If you want or need to talk any more, shoot me a PM or contact me on MSN (mr-stitches@hotmail.com), and I'll be happy to help in any way that I can.

 

I can perfectly understand them (being religious and all) but what i don't understand is how they can think that technology (like the internet) can make one become Bisexual. Also, to give you an advice: Don't fall into depression. This'll last just a period of time, but depression would make it seem like forever. They can't take away technology from you forever anyways.
Also, it's all so sudden to them, so that might also make their reaction be a bit harsher than it should've been. I advice you to stay strong and just be patient.

 

Hope you're not gone for too long Danvid, not much else to say as its been covered but don't try cover anything up to please other people. Be yourself.

Will miss you on Ventrilo dude

 

Sorry to hear about this. I can't believe their are parents out there like this. I'm gonna miss you dudebro.

I hope they don't limit you to much.

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Sorry to hear that your in a bit of a pickle in the moment. What their doing isn't right. Remember this, They can take what they want that correlated to the issue they accuse of the issue, but they can't take the being who you are on what makes you for who you are and Your their son, They can't stop loving you and you mean the world to them.

 

Sigh. I could only hold this in for so long.

No. Just no. Who out there can do this to their own child? It makes no sense. How could you say the media does this to someone? It's their choice, and bi-sexuality is often times not a choice. You should be allowed to believe in what you want, not what someone else does. They're stupid to think that you can't be your own individual. What the hell is their problem? They think that because they're your parents they rule your life, and they may very well rule it currently, but they won't forever. I mean first it was the Fluttershy thing that made me angry at them and now this just caps the problems. If I could give them a piece of my mind I would.

I haven't been on this site long, but the one of the first people I met, was David. I met him on the forum games. He gave me my first rep. I gave him his first green crystal. He always seemed cheerful and he made me happy because of his personality. If he has to leave because of his parents I will truly be upset.

Also I would just like to mention, that David.
You are my giftee for secret santa. I was so excited when I found out I had you and I wanted to make your gift the best gift I could give you. For the past 2 weeks I've been thinking what I could do and I went through idea after idea but came up with nothing.
But after reading that your parent's wouldn't let you get a fluttershy shirt when that's all you wanted for Christmas broke my heart. I wanted to try and find a way to get you one. I was ready to order one online and get it mailed to you, but I was afraid if I did that his parent's would throw it away and that would just make things worse.
I still plan on getting you something drawing something or writing a poem.
But...

I just can't even believe this could happen...

 

This cup of coffee is too bitter to taste...
Not only does it burn my throat...
It burns my very soul...
I'm sorry to hear about all of this.
Hopefully your parents will overcome the false labels and see you for who you really are.
Someday... the mask will come off.

 

Your parents are a lot like mine: Drop a sudden "bomb" on them, and they counter it with a "nuke." In other words, anything major you say all of a sudden can lead to a rather-cruel result.

Technology itself has nothing at all to do with being a bisexual individual. No one, and nothing, can choose your sexuality. Bisexuality is something someone discovers on their own, and no one should interfere with their beliefs. It's your life, not theirs, and they need to get that into their thick skull. You're their own flesh in blood, and yet they think it's wise to pull off these harsh, and unnecessary punishments for being so? That right there, is not what proper parenting is. That's just being ridiculous, and certain actions must be undertaken. I was already upset enough how they're preventing you from getting a nice Fluttershy T-shirt for Christmas, and now they restrict you from here and other areas as well? These kind of people aren't parents; they're blood-thirsty hounds only wanting to chew away your path in life.

For now, however, I'm giving you all the luck I can, and I'm deeply hoping you will return to us soon. Good luck, Danvid23! We are ALL wishing you the best of luck to conquer these obstacles you're currently facing.

 

Couldn't have said that better myself...

 

This is precisely why it's not often wise to just come out all willy nilly. You have to make sure you in a situation that's safe. Keeping a roof over your head and food on your plate is more important than being true to yourself when you're young and dependent on others for your sustenance and safety. There is always time to be true to yourself when you're on your own and not depending on anyone else for support. Parents will be parents and so many are NOT understanding. If you think yours won't be then its safer to keep certain things about yourself under the radar. The time you'll be dependent on them is short compared to the time you'll be out on your own and able to freely be your own person.

 

I truly wish this weren't true, and that I could call you wrong, but I can't.