It seems like I'm always getting annoyed by my mom, and yelling, "WHAT?!" when she wants me. I don't know what's wrong with me. What do I do about it?
This is a normal thing... Especially if you can't sit down for 5 minutes without her wanting you again.
In any situation when people are living together, there's bound to be tension. It's part of life. What I do is get out of the house as often as I can to relieve a lot of that tension. I mean just taking a walk can really help.
I'll just tell you what happened in my case. Let's just say that moms are always like this, because they love their childrens, whatever their age might be. And they want the best for you, and the best of you in return. My mom was annoying, and abused of her ''Mom powers'' (described as: threatening you to throw you out, because your under ''her'' roof.), and i often had to sleep over at my friend's houses for a few days because of that. I always thought the problem was her, she yelled at me, she wanted me to do things around, and always annoyed me about how i did things, or how i couldn't do as good as her. The way i made this end was to move out from my home, and living in another city. When i was out there, i knew what she meant when she yelled at me: the problem was that me, as an individual, was too lazy. I did the things the fastest way, and never finished things properly. When you live alone, you learn how to clean the house and cook, and come to understand that you've gotta help too. Your mom wants to pay your studies, give you a roof and food. I know it might sound harsh, i don't know enough about your situation, but getting angry at her isn't helping. METAPHOR COMING: it's like her starting a fire, to make you react, and you just pour gas and lighters in her fire. My solution for you (until i get to know more about your situation) would be to calmly talk to her about what she wants you to do around the house, and wha she expects you too become in the years to come. Calmly discuss about the means you'll take to achieve your goals, and WHEN you expect to do what she wants you to. If you need anything, PM me, i'll be happy to help you. I've faced numberous walls in taking the wrong decisions, and if i can help you take the good choices, it'll make me happy.
I approved of their discipline when we were younger. I was a horrible younger teen and I wuff my daddy so much. Probably one of the closest families ever. We don't tend to get a whack now because we're not disrespectful little gits. My dad was born in 1968. :I - - Auto Merge - - tl;dr
Hey. Close enough. I can't beleive you were the kind of unsupportable, rebelious teen. You're a gentlelady, not a... disrecpectfull and rebellious adult. But that doesn't mean you have to accept the punishing ways of your parents. You should apologize and realize whatever mistake you did, and keep yourself from doing those mistakes again. You have to respect your parent's constant work and sacrifice in having a children. They're keeping themselves from doing the things they like, and buying whatever stuff they want, to please their kids and help them with their studies or work. That's what i came to learn when i cam back home 2 weeks ago. I've seen many psychologists and social workers, with my intimidation problems back at school. My mom was always there to support me, and i wasn't paying her back. I didn't show recognition enough, let alone at all sometimes. And when i was on my own with my roommate, i understood what it meant to have a caring mother. She might've acted like *censored*, but it was for my own well-being and future. If she hadn't helped me with my problems, i don't even know if i'd be here today. She helped me having faith and confidence in myself, payed me drama classes, music classes, bought me art stuff. She did all of this instead of getting herself a new car, hanging out with her friends, and sometimes even taking care of her. And, whenever i ditched her and tried to move away when i was in high school, she'd call me almost in tears, because she wanted me to come back. You come to realize they do all of this only because they want you to be the best you can be, and doing what you like in life. She didn't scowled me because she wanted me to become a doctor or something like this, she scolwed me because i wasn't drawing or filming movies, or simply when i was too lazy to get a job. Anyways, i remember don't beleiving her when she told me stuff like this back then. Or when she said she loved me. I thought it would be different, that the world could change if i did the right thing, that everyone would be comprehensive with me... But the cashier of the grocery store or the proprio of my appartment weren't that ''comprehensive'' when i didn't have enough money. And you know what? Your parents are always right. They only want you to understand life things like this before you go on your own. So, listen (read) to this or not, and trust me or not, but always listen to your mother. She has given you life, you owe her that life. And she knows she's right and that you're wrong when she punishes you for your mistakes, just like a cop would punish you if you violated the law. But she'll always give you another chance, because she loves you. Don't forget that, VG_Addict. And i guess you can understand all of this, SaucyBuns Queen.
This accurately defines how I was when I became a teenager; [video=youtube;dLuEY6jN6gY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLuEY6jN6gY[/video] Except I grew out of it when dad gave me the biggest lecture of a lifetime and within that year I had changed. :I I was completely 'cured' of my angsty tweenieness during the last year of highschool.
Two things my parents taught me to fear; the belt and the fly swater. But, in better for it. If you can, just put up with it till you can move out.
Glad to know the teenager phase ended. I can't picture a kevin-ish SaucyBuns queen having so much sense and talent: You would've been expelled from reality. Well, i guess the video offered a good reference on how NOT to act with our parents. Worst is that i kind of acted like this too. I really don't know how the change of behavior happened, but i was kind of yelling at my mom like this too. This parody isn't far from reality, i guess. ''Now kids, you know how NOT to turn into a teenager: Remember, just don't follow the example shown in this video, and stay away from drugs!''
Nah, I faced the same punishment as a kid, and so did the rest of my family. The kids in my family are still disciplined this way, in fact, though less strictly than I was. Spankings certainly taught me quick not to do stupid stuff. It's important to add in here, though, that the fine line between spanking a child on what is essentially their built in seat cushion, and beating a child, was never crossed in my family. I can relate to you, VG_Addict. For the last two years, I've grown frustrated with my mom. I don't know why. I'd get aggravated when she came into my room to talk to me, asked me to do chores, etc. I immediately recognized this as a very strange and selfish reaction, and I began trying to force that feeling away every time it popped up. It worked, sort of. I think the cause of that attitude was probably either from 1.) feeling trapped living here with my mom, since my opportunities are limited in this town and I can't leave my mom alone, or 2.) the fact that my mom has pushed Christianity on me my entire life and it got pretty bad in the last few years. Jimmy Swaggart Ministry blasting through out the house 24/7, asking me to read the bible, routinely telling me that my interests (video games, anime, etc.) are evil and will take me to hell. When I was a child, I had to hide what the video games I played were about from my mom. I told her lies, all because of her arbitrary banning of anything involving magic or gods. It's one thing to discuss your religious beliefs with a child, but to force them in that way causes a lot of problems, and that sort of rebellious attitude is surely one of them. Those are my two guesses on why you might be feeling this way; rebellion due to a clash in beliefs with your mom, or craving independence.
