I have to get this off my chest even though I'm not really angry right now. This is the ups and downs of my family: Father: Ups: I can always have such long talks with him and we share interests in music and weather. I enjoy hanging out with him even though we have quite a bit of negative history. Downs: He's very stubborn and when he makes up his mind, he will not change it no matter how persuasive the opposing argument is. That implies mostly to religion and politics. He has very poor control over his anger and becomes a borderline psycho when he gets mad and he will take it out on people around him.(Usually verbally, not physically) He hates technology and his lifestyle for living is like the 1960s, which is annoying to me only because I love technology. He doesn't really approve or understand anything I do. Mother: Ups: She is very mild and doesn't usually start arguments with anyone. She gives up a lot to help people a lot of the time, some times too much. Downs: She has no fighting spirit. If we are getting screwed by a company or something she never tries to argue back so we get some kind of settlement. She laughs at her own dark jokes that aren't funny and are very awkward for me when I'm with her. She is the most ineffective persuader I've ever seen. She lets everyone walk all over her. She's overly pecimistic(if I spelled right) and she doesn't seem to care about how her actions and lifestyle effect those around her. Case in point, she has 9 dogs that she keeps locked in her room and the whole house smells like crap and urine 24/7. She almost smokes more than any human ever should. It's very difficult to breath in my house sometimes which is why I stay in my room most of the time while I'm here. Oldest Sister: Ups: She's very smart at saving money whether it's by doing massive couponing or dealing with the government. She helped us get food stamps when we first moved here. Downs: Her jokes are very cruel and she is extremely close-minded to everything. She is the one person I will never tell about my Bronyism. She is also an instigater and starts arguments about the smallest things every single day. I usually just stay away from her and let her words go in one ear and out the other. Older Sister: Ups: She's pretty laid back and always wants to have a good time. She knows how to make people feel good about themselves. Downs: She has excessive paranoia whenever she sees something she doesn't understand. She flipped out and started crying because she thought she had cancer before she ever went to the doctor. She never seems to want to hang out with me any more and she gives off a vibe like she feels pity for me for some reason. Older Brother: Ups: We have the most in common with each other, despite all the fights we got in as kids. Even if he doesn't understand what I do he doesn't just immediately disagree with me. He will ask questions and we can have entire conversations about anything really. He is also the very first person I told about my Bronyism and he himself is a fellows Brony, just not TOO much of one. He watches it every week and we talk about it sometimes. Downs: He never really wants to have fun anymore. He seems to only be interested in work. He will never turn down a side-job when offered and will usually end up working 7 days a week. He's been losing his trust towards me ever since I was framed for the copyright infringement issue back in November. He tells me stuff I already know constantly. Oldest Brother: Ups: None(Yep) Downs: I don't know where to begin with him. He is the personification of everything I hate. I have never felt so uncomfortable around someone before, and he lives with me now. He is a massive instigater and is so quick to threats and hurting people in an argument. For someone as smart as him, I'm surprised he uses intimidation over persuasion. He's inherited my dad's horrid anger problems and I just consider him to have major mental instability. I never ever want to be around him because I always feel like he'll ask very uncomfortable questions to put me on the spot or start an argument. He's one of those people who thinks that if everything is not done exactly how he wants it or plans it, then it's not good enough. He acts like he cares about people when it just seems as though his heart is filled with hate. He's very good at putting on a fake personality.(He's a server) He feels that since he works hard that everyone in the world owes him something.(Fact: He busted my door down and threatened to hurt me because I wouldn't let him use my credit card.) Pretty mature for a 25 year-old huh? He puts himself through a full-time job and full-time school which is too much for anyone. By the time he achieves his goals, he'll be so filled with stress that he won't even be able to enjoy himself anyways. He never wants to listen to me and always think I'm wrong no matter what I say about anything. I was a very sexually confused teenager when I was a freshman and he knew about it. He made me feel so bad about myself I was at the door of committing suicide. He treats me like I'm so beneath him that my existance means absolutely nothing. It's almost like he treats me like I'm his kid and it's very aggravating. I can probably keep going, but I'll wrap it up. To me, he is a living, breathing demon.
That's quite a family you've got there. It must feel pretty good to get that off your chest. Spoiler: Me ranting about me family My parents complain how I spend too much time in my room. And when I'm not in my room, they complain how I never do any work. They also think that if I'm in my room and the door is closed, I'm masturbating or play games (which isn't true). I've kind of gotten use to them so I just ignore them. I could go on but I won't. There aren't many obvious good points about them yet I still have a somewhat good relationship with them. My brother is in university so he's not a problem. When he visits, we generally get on. My sister is a *squee!*. She's selfish, a huge hypocrite and a complete waste of space. She gets away with doing no work and watching TV all day, whereas I'm expected to constantly do work. One particular example is when I got a camera for my birthday and she claimed it as her own. If I even enter the same room as her, she screams her head off and I get in trouble. I refuse to hit girls and my parents don't anything to teach her a lesson. I bet that she'll fail in life and I'll be expected to look after her. Because she's a girl, my parents have spoilt her. I kind of feel sorry for my parents because when I go to university, they'll be left alone with her and she won't help out at all. I try not to vent my frustration online but I just had to do this. You don't have to read it.
None taken. As a matter of fact, my oldest brother is whining like a baby right now because our AC is broke. I can't wait until he moves out again. My life was much without him around. And now it seems like my mom is getting mad because he's mad. :/ This is why I try to stay out of the way, but I'm sure they'll try to get me involved somehow.
Your father reminds me so much of mine...He's fine to talk to when he's calm and the topic is something we both have interest. But those moments are very few and far between. The rest of the time, he's either fighting with my mother, or constantly belittling me for the tiniest things. My household is has a constant stressed atmosphere as a result.
My dad's a dragon, my mum's a bicycle, my aunt's an alky, my oldest brother likes to dance, my slightly older brother pokes people a lot, my grandparents were stranded at sea for a while and I'm having a fling with my cousin. Now that the Everypony family's out of the way, I'm just going to say I like my real family as well. I won't go into details, as it would be boring.
@ PhatBoyFresh: *hugs tightly* I'm sorry to hear that you have troubles with your family. I don't have much experience with family problems like yours (although, my family isn't perfect either, but it's not that bad(well, not anymore since my parents are divorced so now they don't live together == they can't fight all the time)). Anywho, if you need someone to talk to, don't be afraid to contact me, ok?
I used to hate my dad, but after I gave him a chance, I found out he's actually really cool. I'm an only child. My mom died when I was 10, 3 days before my 11th birthday. I LOVE my grandparents, and am going to visit them over spring break. My stepmom doesn't like me, I can tell, I'm not gonna go into detail about that now, though. But yeah, your family is nuclear.
Wow, you could almost say I'm blessed with such a world-wise and open minded family. Key word: almost. Spoiler: Aynine's Intentionally Vague Family Info Older sister #1: All of my mom's traits magnified. The acceptance, the intelligence, initiative, ambitions, aspirations, skills, goals, morals, convictions. You name it, she has every trait my mom has magnified in some way. But this also means the darker traits are magnified. Formerly manipulative and grew up as a delinquent, she is now the only sibling of mine with a truly successful life and career options. Older sister #2: All of my father's bad traits. Alcoholic, lost her daughter (who's father was a deadbeat), hypocritical, and naive. She is the only family member I'm willing to disown due to, well, I shouldn't say. Once upon a time I got along with her better than anyone else in my family, too... Older brother: Are you a hard worker? Well, compared to my brother, you can't be. He's a nice guy. Open, kind, caring, hard worker, but overly self sacrificing. He's willing to put himself through pain to help others. Unfortunately, he's manic depressive (like bipolar) and tends to snap over tiny things and become self inflictive or dark (not suicidal, but it's just really hard to bear with). I live with my uncle and his family. Uncle: If you ever think your life has gone to *squee!*, you should meet my uncle. He's the epitome of falling from grace, but also coming back from Hell (extremely long, possibly inspirational story). My uncle is bipolar and somewhat of a perfectionist. That's kind of a bad combo. If he thinks something should be done better that's easy for him and you screw it up, he can blow up on you. He's got numerous mechanical engineering and software degrees. He's an HP-UX specialist and certified in more things than I can remember. So, his physical disabilities aside, I completely understand why he gets upset when something easy is messed up. He suffers from multiple neurological disorders that cause him to suffer nerve pain, compounded by injuries when he was younger. He has his Achilles tendons lengthened every few years. I always joke about the pharmacy of painkillers laying around the house that he takes. As a result, I've become educated in what they're for or their medicinal strength. It's also how I began taking Lyrica.
Things can get better with time. I'm sure that on some level, your family realizes what's going on, and if they don't, then you might just want to try talking about your anxieties with them, ESPECIALLY with your siblings. They're going to be around for about as long as you are (as far as age and life-expectancy goes), so you should try and be as friendly and nice with them as possible. As my Dad says, "I'll be gone one day, but they'll always be your brothers." I guess I'm a bit lucky to have the family I have. My Dad: We don't get alond most of the time. We've got a lot of differences, and a lot in common, so our relationship is pretty unpredictable. He's actually quite controlling, more than I intend to be as an adult. However, he can also be compassionate and caring, but that isn't his usual dispossition. He makes a lot of funny jokes (and some really not-funny ones), but sometimes has trouble taking them from people he doesn't expect them from. He has really good people skills. He's always on my back about not having a job, or my driver's license, which I will admit is an issue, but the only way I can get, for example, that driver's license, is if he helps me out, which he is rarely around to do, because his job sends him on business trips all the time. He works hard, and enjoys giving gifts. He is extremely argumentative, but when the chips are down, he knows just what to say and do. My Mom: She's a kind and respectful person, but really doesn't take jokes well, and doesn't understand some of the dynamics of my social life. She's helpful and hard-working, but has a tendancy to just follow my Dad in whatever he thinks or decides (there are a few exceptions to this, but not many). She is highly supportive of me as a person. Younger Brother (15): This kid is the quietest person you will meet. Even when he speaks, it's in a whisper. My dad bothers him about that a lot. He's more hard-headed than I am, but tends to follow the crowd a bit more. We have opposite religious beliefs, and he doesn't really follow me and my ideas about homosexuality (which would be okay if he didn't call me "gay" and stuff behind my back at school... seriously, I help run an anti-bullying club for the LGBT community, and I get that crap from my own brother?). He usually just goes along with whatever someone else wants. His friends manipulate him a lot, the same way I used to do when we were little, and it bothers me because I know it's wrong and he doesn't see it. We have a few common interests, but not that many. Younger Brother (10): He has Autism, so I won't blame him for a lot of his behavior, I just hope he mellows out with age. He basically gets away with murder and doesn't understand his own feelings. I love him anyway. He really is a cute kid, and tends to follow either my brother or I. He's into a lot of the things I'm into, like Star Wars, which I think rocks. Eventually, I think I'll get along better with him than my other brother.
Dad: Divorced with my Mom.Doesn't live with me so i don't see him as often as i used too.Supportive but also kind of rough at times.Somewhat controlling.Not the smartest man you'll ever meet.Doesn't care about me liking ponies. Mom:Very Supportive.Helps me with my projects.Is my homeschool teacher.Smarter than most people.Is also a Brony. Grandma:She goes along with whatever i want to do.Not exactly useful for watching my brother.Very nice.Likes most kids. Brother:Autistic.But very smart.Speaks his own little language.Looks like a large baby.Is the cutest little guy you'll ever see.Freakishly strong for his size and age.Very loud.Is a Brony too. Step Mom:She appears to like me and my brother.Very nice.Doesn't know about ponies. Step Sister:Friendly.Small for her age.Probably doesn't care about ponies. Step Brother:Nice.Kinda annoying.Play alot of video games.Not too bright.
EP Family is best Family. I get along fine with my RL family fine, much more so now that I don't live with them.
