What would/do you do?

Surely there's some kind of limit to what actions and behaviours you administer in a public area, right? You wouldn't necessarily act differently than you would usually prefer to, but in certain situations there are environmental surroundings to consider, especially if you're typically acting in an outward, possibly offensive way. There have been many occasions where surrounding people have been made uncomfortable by the sexual behaviours of couples and swingers in the street, which happens far too casually my tastes, especially thorough daylight! I’d understand if they were at least in a secluded public area at night, but why choose to indulge in your impatience at the expense of others and grope each other in front of young children and families. It’s not like you’re starving yourself of physical interaction if you decide to, I don’t know, Go home perhaps?
It’s not just occasions like this that disrupt others, for example there are typically a lot of crudely aggressive individuals/groups of drunkards in my area who seek to cause trouble without any motive and it becomes harrowing for the majority of us that reside in the designated area. It’s hard to tolerate when people make it difficult from having no moral consideration for others.
Where did this come from? I’ll tell you about the incident which occurred Last month on the 15th of August at approximately 2:00pm give or take ten minutes) when I was picking up stationary supplies. This incident actually happened, and it is an unsurprising occurrence considering I live on the border leading into a very desolate, dangerous area. Obviously I cannot disclose the name of the shop regardless of how strongly I want to, but let’s just say that they are very prone to sue whoever talks badly of their company. Let’s just call them….Frescone. (I apologise if there is actually a company with this name.)
I had the unfortunate ‘privilege’ to witness a man (who I presumed was middle aged) act like a complete dirty beast. He was in front of a woman with two small children beside her at a cashier waiting to be served; one of the children is happily, peacefully holding a McDonalds Happy Birthday balloon and is proudly wearing a ‘7’ badge, obviously indicating her age. The man is talking loudly on his mobile and grunting out stinking gases smelling profoundly rancid, like you were in an open field of farm animals. That’s not the only irritancy that the others queuing had to endure. This pongy man turns to the woman, looks her up and down, his eyes fixated on her like a slithering serpent. And then, like a snivelling dirty rat he has the nerve to blubber ghastly languages from his foul mouth in the ears of both the poor woman and her two confused, innocent children. It was too disgusting to even repeat, but for the purpose of this story I shall roughly illustrate what he mouthed at the women. He made comments about her breasts, commenting what he wanted to do with them and requested her to unfasten one of her buttons so he could admire her cleavage. As if this wasn’t enough, he tried to involve the children and told them that they had a ‘sexy mummy’ and then called her a ‘MILF’, without using that said shortened expression, he used the entire term, the actual sentence behind the phrase, which was undoubtedly the most appalling way to speak to two young children and is NO WAY suitable for a small girl just turning seven to hear. Of course, I was riled at this point, I found it difficult to just ignore like everybody else attempted to do, even the cashier kept their gaze below to the floor as if to blissfully avoid confrontation. I felt sick even considering staying quiet in regards to my own safety, but when the man made his next move I just had to intervene. He pressured the woman for her number. She was very attractive, but looked tired, worn and fragile, especially when bearing responsibility of two children. She refused casually, hugging her daughter closer to her, making sure her son is behind her back, as if to protect them from the tainted, ghastly stare of this pathetic, desperate individual. He then became insistent, aggressive, demanding that she ‘add him on Facebook’ so they can meet up, I won’t say what he said he wanted to meet up for, as that was plainly obvious given the sexual content of the incident. The Woman began to cry and begged him to just let them get their shopping, consisting of items I assumed were presents for the little girl. And when the Man began to hiss and grunt at her for being ‘frigid’ as he remarked, I refused to allow him to continue bothering her and I approached, standing to the side of the woman. Here’s how the conversation played out:
“I suggest you leave before I call the police.”

The man replied obliviously, as if he truly didn’t see the error of his actions. “For what? I’m just having a f****** conversation! P*** off!” After he said this, I pulled out my phone and I actively dialled the number for emergency services, and he suddenly slapped my phone out of my hands and he threatened to drag me outside where apparently his sister was smoking so she could ‘sort me out.’ I looked around me, and I was positively disgusted at the lack of action taken by anyone in the store, but I at least thought security had been notified, because the Women who endured the verbal abuse had (I assumed) vacated the store with her two children whilst I came into conflict with the Man. I decided not to provoke him and wait for the affirmative action of the shop security. I merely turned to walk away and notify a competent member of staff to notify the police, and that’s when I felt a weight come crashing gown on my head. What was it you ask? A prominently large tin of dog food…The man had instinctively thrown it at me once my back was turned. I fell to my knees, clutching the back of my head and squinted my eyes shut once I realised my vision was impaired. That was when I assume the cashier sounded an alarm and the two dumpy shop security patrol officers I saw at the entrance detained him, because when I was helped up by the assistant store manager he was gone and the shop evacuated (with the exception of witnesses and staff) so that the police could investigate. The police arrived and interviewed/questioned me on the incident and then said that they could detain him if there was thorough evidence on the surveillance cameras. The key victim in question made herself scarce once I intervened, which I don’t blame her for, she had two young children. The fact was a whole lot of upset, trauma and damage was caused by one man’s ignorance, just because he couldn’t contain his goddamn mouth and keep it shut. All of this could have been avoided if there was self-restraint and consideration, and not to mention an early solution would have been successful if others decided to stand up and defend the innocent. People ask me why I lose my faith in humanity? Although this isn’t the worst real life event to unfold in my life, it definitely contributes to my diligence towards affirmative action against delinquents and prevention of incidents like this from becoming a disaster, and then progressively into a crime. We cannot avoid sticky situations and sometimes we cannot emancipate ourselves from being victims, but there are ways in which we can soften the blow, accommodate the needs of victims and provide them with care, understanding and sympathy. There are ways in which potential attacks could be avoided if more people had the guts to renounce their feeling of cowardice and attempt to protect each other. It truly saddens me to say that sometimes I have ignored situations in which I could have helped resolve, not out of respect for privacy, but for my own selfish desires. Yes, you must protect yourself, but why allow that to get to such an extent where somebody is completely alone in their time of need? Choosing to assist those who may be desperately in need of help is not rude, nosey or in any way offensive. Showing concern indicated that you actually care for the wellbeing of an innocent person, stranger or not. Not getting involved for numerous reasons to due to safety, age, medical condition etc. is excusable, but at least help from a distance. If it is a bad situation that requires intervention, call the police or at least notify someone that can do it for you. You don’t necessarily make the situation better by approaching a conflict, but even so there is a length someone has to go to ensure the peace and safety of others, at least temporarily.

There needs to be more people who have the decency to help. And that is why I love this community so much. I adore everything it stands for and the presence of the members alone makes me feel at peace with my own humanity. It's refreshing to know that there are people who extend their arm and offer a hand to someone even if they have the slightest of sadness in their hearts. That's what we need in everyday life. If there was a way to apply the behaviours of a site like this to an entire civilisation then I can imagine it would be the closest to paradise that I could achieve. This is a thank you to all of you, even if we have not spoken; I have seen the utter generosity and love that is admirable in this world. But this is also something to spread more awareness about the state of our world. We all know it’s out there, and there is no way to obliterate/annihilate/exterminate it. Complete and utter prevention is impossible, as it is natural for incidents like this to occur. I’m not too idealistic with my aspirations. I won’t go as far to say that Nickelback’s: “If everyone cared” is an accurate representation of what I think will eventually happen in life, nor should it, if you consider the lyrics carefully. But I will say this;

We are a community, one that is strong, admirable to say the very very least. If others took even a fraction of the message that we share, or took a leaf out of our book, we would see a notable improvement in our streets. Sure, it’s prideful to suggest that we could evoke such a change to society, but as far as I’m concerned, it would. It most likely won’t, but I believe that if people were exposed to the content of sites/organisations like this, and if they looked in the victims perspectives, then there would be less rage, more understanding. There would be a decreased amount of aggression and there would be an inclined respect for others.

All of us should be proud of this little community. Don’t you doubt for a moment that it isn’t a refreshing escape from the less than favourable aspects of reality. We should embrace it, spread it and respect it like it was our very own dream home, a place to confide in and express yourselves, but also a place to help one another, regardless of any notable flaws, the positive outweighs the negative by a landslide. At least that is how I feel.

So, I’ll ask you these questions:
How would you have reacted in my situation in the shop?
Is there anything you have done/wish you could do in order to change something for the better in any other situation you have experienced?
Has this site/community helped you? If it has, how so?
And perhaps most importantly;
How do you deal with hatred?

To yourself, others, self-inflicted or directed at you. Do you overcome it or choose to be in denial and bury it?

If you don't wish to answer any of them, I won't be offended, and if you choose to answer a select few that's more than enough, and I thank you in advance for taking your time to read this, and I hope you have a wonderful Day, Afternoon, Evening or Night depending on where you are. /)*(\

 

The residential area I actually live in fine, but there's people from surrounding sections of the town that reside in houses where there is a lot of crime, and they commit these crimes in numerous areas. I realise that it sounds like I'm saying that all members of the other areas were bound to cause trouble, but that wasn't my intention, you get good and bad people in any area, but I have to admit that a majority of the towns crime is committed within certain regions.

 

Even though I would consider many of them incompetent to, but hey, numbers/statistics need to come from somewhere...

 

It's a criminal offense in the UK to carry a knife or a gun in the streets. The police will confiscate your weapon and temporarily arrest you because the law says that anyone carrying a weapon is likely to cause harm. They don't even consider self defence. *rolls eyes*

*Edit* I'm not saying that I agree with this law at all. I'm merely stating that I don't wish to be treated like a criminal when I would actually be so much more likely to be the victim.