I've developed another crush >.< I just don't understand...

Published by 51m0nn in the blog Simon's Bug corner. Views: 336

Hi everypony, It's me! It's been a while hasn't it! I've been extremely busy lately.


That's not why I'm here though...


I'm here to ask something...Some of you who know me will know I absolutely fail at at love >.<


I've had two different crushes in my past, both of whom have have either had a boyfriend of left the country.


I'm not sure if it is simply the fact that my body is changing, of it if is because of the fact that I cannot make up my mind, But honestly I don't know what's going on ,I'm so confused...


Recently I have developed a crush for 2 other girls that go to my church, both are really nice people Awesome to be around. I'm trying to understand why I went from having a crush from one, for like a month to then having a crush the other...I even at one point had a crush on my cousin, again a really awesome person...I really don't know what's going on wth me, can someone please explain???


I really cannot figure this out, for starters, if I am going from having a crush on one then the other, is it really love, of merely a certain mood or stage that my body goes through? Also, am I even old enough to be considering love or Girfriends? I'm 15 years old... One moment I desire someone to be there for meto give and recieve affection from, and the next moment I'm just an emotional wreck trying to get my daily tasks done and not carng about anything else...




Whats more is we are all friends, I kinda feel bad if I were to start dating one, because then I'd be reminded that I had a crush on the other earlier and I just wouldn't feel right...Whats more is that when I'm around them I feel very awkward, mostly because they would normally talk to their other friends because I am an awkward person socially, and then that leads me to thinking to myself that it likely will not work because they probably don't lik me in the way that I like them. I'd never get a Girlfriend and then poof I'd just give up...


I'm not sure if that I just said makes any sense at all because it was an even bigger task to try put the current state of my mind in words...


I'm gonna try sum up what I am trying to say and ask.




I'm 15 years old.
I am constantly developing crushes and I don't know why.
These crushes don't last very long due to doubts springing up in my mind


I want to know:


Does anyonw know what could be causing this? Stress? a need for a social life? A need for a relationship with someone of the opposite sex?
Am I even old enough to be considering things like this?
Is there advice that could be given?
Is this emotion that I am feeling real, or is it just a phase of Puberty?


I honestly don't expect everyone to have an answer, I probably confused you just as much as I currently am...


But I'd appreciate any opinions, or advice just to put my mind at ease.
Aug 22, 2012
  • Legion
    Legion Aug 22, 2012
    Hi Simon! It's good to "see" you again, even if it's not for a very happy reason. :smile:

    Anyways, I'm going to give opinions and advice. Don't assume that all of this is true just because I say it as if it is; I'm not perfect, after all. But I'm going to try to help!

    Q: Does anyone know what could be causing this? Stress? Need for a social life? A need for a relationship with a girl?
    A: It's because you're a teen, and you are just "discovering" that you like girls. Put more scientifically, your body has begun to produce more horomones, which make you go through this stupid thing called puberty, which usually does one or more of the following: Makes you look terrible, makes your voice sound terrible, makes your social life involving girls terribly awkward, and a whole bunch of other crap. So it's not unusual. I had this too. :)

    Q: Am I even old enough to be considering things like this?
    A: Biologically, yes. But I'm pretty sure that's not what you meant. Everyone will have a different opinion on dating, and when it should and shouldn't start. Personally I say wait until after High School. But you can do whatever you think is best! It's your life, after all, not mine. You know your circumstances best!

    Q: Is there advice that could be given?
    A: Buddy, if you need advice, you can always come to me. I won't promise that my advice will always get you what you want, but I can sure as hay tell you what I think at the very least. That's what I'm doing right now, after all. :)

    Q: Is this emotion that I'm feeling real, or is it just a phase of puberty?
    A: Oh, look. I kinda read through them and answered them one at a time........ well, in answer, "real" is not something that is easily defined. They are "real" in that you are actually feeling them, but if you mean are they uninfluenced by horomones, then probably NOT real. But again, I have no way of knowing this for sure. They're your emotions, after all.



    Basically, my general advice to you would be to ignore the crushes until after high school. If you still know them then, and you still have a crush on them then, then you should ask them out. Because relationships fostered in high school almost NEVER last, partially because teens at that age don't really know how to find a lover yet, and partially because after high school you hardly ever see anyone from your classes again, unless you're neighbors or you make a point to. But again (yea AGAIN), if you don't like my advice, don't take it. It's your life!
  • Prince Darkmoon
    Prince Darkmoon Aug 22, 2012
    I went through something similiar at your age, it's completly normal. You are in my opinion not to young for dating, you are in that age now in fact.

    These crushes will probably pass, but it is up to you if you want to act on them, one of the girls could be your lifelong partner, but it is more probable they are not. Don't hurt to try though.
  • Caberea
    Caberea Aug 23, 2012
    I'm still about your age (I'm 17), but I'm afraid I can't really help you. I somehow managed to skip puberty or something and never really went through a stage of developing crushes, but I know i sure as heck did have those emotional wrecks.

    I can't offer you advice on your situation with the crush's, but whenever your feeling down or anything just do what you enjoy. People will tell you that when you're feeling rubbish that you should right about your feelings. This is half-true, but its more about expression. If you can express your emotions through music, poetry, writing, art, whatever, then you'll feel better about it.

    If you feel like dating, then by all means go ahead and do it, but be warned that you will end up getting hurt. A lot of teenagers, both male and female, are very flighty about relationships, and never see them as a long-term thing, even if you do. I would agree with Legion, wait until after high school till you develop romantic relationships. By then you're often more sure of your own feelings and other people will be as well (Not that I know, I'm not even past High School yet).

    Hope that helped.
  • go rainbow dash go!
    go rainbow dash go! Aug 23, 2012
    don´t worry. make crushes at your age is something normal. just be carefull to don´t end with the heart broken, okay? http://twilight.ponychan.net/chan/files/src/134565447413.jpg
  • testyal1
    testyal1 Aug 24, 2012
    You need to come to my town where the girls are either A. ugly or B. chavs.
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