Be happy to chat with anyone online, once you get me on the phone though or face to face and I don't say much. I've never been diagnosed with aspergers, but then again, I don't take very good care of my mental health like I should. I've got manic depression, PTSD and I've started having panic attacks recently. I've only been diagnosed with those because the symptoms became such an issue my mother finally dragged me to a doctor, but I refuse medication. I am very introverted (as I'm sure most of us in the brony community are), which is why I spend most of my time socializing on the internet. I'm pretty sure if given the opportunity I'd live in cabin in the woods and never speak to anyone again. I have serious issues with social anxiety though. My friends can tell how uncomfortable I am based loud I get. I don't know if any of you experience this. But I feel like when I'm in public, even a barely crowded place, I can hear everyone's voices at the same time, and there breathing, and their emotions, and there heartbeats and it's so over stimulating you think you're going to scream.
I also have Aspergers and debilitating Social Anxiety! It's nice to know i am not alone. FIM has certainly helped me apply it's morals to daily life. I'd be happy to be your friend, AvatiorRaven D
It's good to know there's such a good support in this community. I agree with you on apply FIM to daily life. It's helped me be kinder to jerks and people who annoy me.
I know I said this before on this thread/ topic but I have aspergers and social anxiety I hardly ever leave my home and when i'm not on here I only know and am friends with like three or four people in real life.
I understand what you mean. It's difficult to make outside connections or motivate yourself to be in an uncomfortable position. I've been trying to challenge myself though. I only have 1 best friend in real life, but plenty of internet friends. It's hard to get out and spend time in public because it's so draining and having anxiety, you feel panicky. My best friend is pretty cool, I like to spend time with him because he can tell when I'm getting too stressed and he'll get me out of the situation before I get to upset. I think the main goal is learning your triggers and trying to push yourself to become more comfortable, or at least cope better. I try and add a different food to my eating schedule- as I will often eat the same foods for months at a time as a control mechanism. I try and go to the library as part of pushing myself. There are lots of people, but they are all quiet and calm-that might work for you. It's a good energy to be around. Having my service dog keeps me calm too, Animals are a good reflection of your own energy. In order to keep my dog calm while he's working, I try and do deep breathing and replay episodes of my little pony in my mind to calm myself and thus calm him as well. You won't believe this, but Cesar Milan's training on being calm, assertive has really helped me a lot with my own behavior and learning how to calm of my inner Fluttershy. I plan on getting another angora rabbit soon. My rabbit was a really cool little dude and I used him as a therapy rabbit when I went to my therapy sessions. He instinctually knew who was having a bad day, and he'd hop over to them, sit on there lap and let them cuddle him till they felt better. Or he'd make them laugh by binkying (happy rabbit dance).
i never had aspergers or anything. just add/adhd. anyhoo im always horribble in social stuff. even back a short time ago a friend got married. after that we went to the hardrock to drink and gamble. i bought several drinks. and they tried to hook me up with random girls. truth be told i couldn't talk to any of them. its not their fault tho i just want to get to know soneone as a person before trying to date them. i would rather know someone is a good enough friend that i never want to be without them before i try and become more than a friend.also i never get the chance to talk to people much but i can be a great guy when you get.to know me
That's incredible how many people have Aspergers here....are your's all Self diagnosed? If so that's understandable. I received testing from my former school and a psychiatrist who officially diagnosed me.
I don't have social anxiety but I just don't talk too much to people outside of my (decent sized) friend circle. And I've yet to make any friends on here, even though I've been a member since July '11
I'm pretty sure everyone is anxious about meeting new people because no one wants to say the wrong thing and make a bad impression. I wouldn't really lay into your fears or Asperger's as the sole cause to blame since people who aren't socially anxious or awkward tend to have the same apprehensions as the rest of us. Usually I meet friends of friends as opposed to complete strangers, and depending on the friend, we get along very well. They say to find common ground, but small talk is usually better since it tends to lead into that stuff. Funny thing, when I went to a meetup, the majority of the stuff we did talk about starting off was unrelated to FiM. Most of that came later.
I've never been diagnosed with Aspergers or anything of the like. The depression and PTSD was diagnosed by a couple psychiatrist, but I don't treat any of it with medication. I'm supposed to, but I don't. I'm really sensitive to medication aimed for mental health and my doctors keep badgering me to start them anyway. Anyone else have issues with medication either for physical or personal reasons? But I think therapy, even for someone without mental health issues that is just experiencing social anxiety; can be helpful. I don't really care what people think about me, except if they think I'm stupid (even though my intelligence tests from the Mayo Clinic say otherwise). I'd say that's my biggest social fear; and it was realized recently when my best friend told me someone thought I wouldn't understand a topic because of my intelligence and my friend defended me. I think I would have been happier living in ignorance rather than knowing that my paranoia is true.
actually for my own reasons i wont touch any mind altering meds.idc if i end up being crazuer than i can be when i get hyper like pinky pue i will rather be myself than to doped up to even be aware
@Axi Geek: My mom is a School Psychologist, and when she evaluated me, she said I was on the Autism Spectrum. She had a feeling prior and she has mild Asperger's as well (it's usually more milder and less common in women). Then I was diagnosed in 2006 by a Psychologist. It's way more common than we think. A lot of my friends online have it, including my second best friend. Also I believe my neighbors' son has it. As well as a few people I met in various environments. Sent from my Apple iPod touch named 'Apple Jack' cause I am the Realest BRonY in the mug, by Tapatalk.
I feel similar. When I was first diagnosed with manic depression they immediately started shoving meds into my system. After that, I wasn't depressed, I didn't feel anything. Everyone commented about how friendly and uncombative I was. That is odd given I'm considered to be very sarcastic and free thinker (I prefer that term rather than combative); but my mother said it felt like living with a pod creature, a replication of the real thing, but just off enough to feel weird around. She hated it because she appreciates my personality even if it can be difficult to be around. What people didn't realize is that I also had stopped doing my artwork, writing and crafts. It was like I had lost all my creativity- which sadly is at it's peak when I'm my most depressed. I got so tired of not being able to work on my art and not feeling like myself I went off everything. Not just that, but I had lost a ton of weight because I was sick to my stomach all the time and, I lost about 60lbs in one year. My doctors are still trying to push me going back on meds, but I'd rather focus on developing coping mechanism than add medication. Plus I think many psychiatrist and other doctors over prescribe medication. I had one overzealous doctor try and get me on anti-psychotics.
@Antidaeophobia: I hate to hear about your situation, and I hope you get on the right meds, and it isn't an ever-changing situation. I know how you get creative when you are upset or depressed, I seem to make my best lyrics or play better chords on my guitar in a state of depression or anxiety. I also hope you find the right psychologist and you get on a treatment plan that helps you besides the medication. Medication is only 20% of psychological progression. Therapy, coping skills, exercise & diet, well amount of sleep, positive reinforcements, a support system, and constructive hobbies are also just as important, and I recommend discussing that with your doctor if you haven't already. BTW, I love you marriage equality avatar. *Brony Fists* Sent from my Apple iPod touch named 'Apple Jack' cause I am the Realest BRonY in the mug, by Tapatalk.
actually see thats what im saying im not depressed or anything and yet they shoved anti depressants in me. i really would rather be myself. as for depression. having a job and being able to make something of yourself sorta cures any depression tho for some people it wont wodk that way
Thank for the reply. It's still pretty difficult to get things figured out with my mental health, I've been chronically ill for so long with physical health issues, I never paid much mind to my mental health ones, and then when they started to become prevalent had a very 'suck it up you pussy' attitude about the whole thing. I developed some very destructive behaviors by not taking care of my mental health which is why I try and speak out about it and encourage people to get help. Talk therapy has been the most helpful for me, as it's nice to have a 3rd party to help you work through your issues you might not want to share with your family, even if they are understanding. Depression can do funny things to the artistic mind. You feel miserable and people don't understand why you don't have any energy, why your so grouchy and what you problem is- but while all this is going on, you feel spurred on to create as much art as possible and you get some wonderful idea; albeit macabre in some cases. I'm glad you like my icon, I made a whole bunch of them for my Brony friends on Facebook and posted them in my images on here for whomever would like to use them. *brohoof* /)(\ - - Auto Merge - - I get what you mean by people trying to push meds on you that you really don't want. Having physical chronic health issues put a major damper on getting a job. Working and feeling constructive helps a lot with many minor forms of depression and I recommend it for many people, or even volunteering helps. In severe forms it can be a struggle to even want to get out of bed, or even to get enough sleep. In bad cases, even contemplating suicide is exhausting. My grandma doesn't understand depression because she's never been depressed or sick a day in her entire 80yr life. My great aunt and uncle, her siblings, understand because they all have severe forms of depression and have been hospitalized on numerous occasions. But for my Grandmother, it was hard for her not to tell me, and her siblings "Just wake up early, put on a big smile and think 'today's going to be a good day" and I'd roll my eyes and tell her 'That's not how depression works'. But I know she means well, as many people who know people with depression do. I think they assume medication is a fix all and once your on it, you'll finally be normal. I tell people 'I don't need to be fixed, I'm not broken, I just need a little extra help'. Which there is no shame in asking for help.
i see what ya mean. fir sone people it is that severe. but for most of us it is hard to not roll our eyes and tell you that you need to put it off your mibd and adapt. because for those of us without actual clinical depression everything that makes us sad or whatever has never really been that bad and so for us experience is that the pills only dope you up and make you think your helped. but if they actually help you then i am glad you have found something that works but for me they were never even needed but instead the doctor gave them to me for his own ability to make mobey.but seriously if the meds actually do help you then good and if not look for the help y really need. anyhoo i am sorry if i hurt anyobe with what i said before
Wow...looks like a forum i should of started up .... oh well.. but same here AviatorRaven...if you want to see my life....go ahead :/
I'm not sure if this qualifies... but my case is the following. I am a very socially awkward person, I have trouble talking to others and expressing my feelings. I get easily embarrassed and nervous, to the point I barely talk, at home, at school, at work. It creates some problems since people always think I'm upset or angry at them because I don't talk to them on a regular basis. It is rather annoying, since there is one little person I want to talk to, but my fear won't let me pick up the phone and say hi... even though the both of us are trying our hardest.
