Depression and Coping

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  1. Firetip Inspire

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    I love a good run to get me up. the hard part is motivating yourself to move. once thats over so is the depression ;)
     
  2. Sinderlocke

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    I personally suffer with minor Osteoporosis, Depression and EDNOS and a severe lack of confidence. Usually drawing, visiting friends, listening to music and long walks can help clear up a few symptoms. I'm also suffering at the amount of stress I'm going through with Student finance in preparation for Uni which I wish I could just get done, but the forms haven't been sent to me yet!

    I take care of my 24 year old boyfriend who suffers severely with Bipolar disorder that he has yet to overcome his anxiety towards getting it confirmed as a diagnosis. It causes a heap of stress but it's rewarding when he progresses from his isolation and becomes more social. He applied for Jobseekers after years of no financial support, he's applied for a bunch of jobs and he's even been out in town a few times. That's a massive improvement.

    I'm undergoing an analysis from my Therapist and filling out an anxiety questionnaire specially for my overwhelming fear of failure in Maths. I wasn't taken seriously and my Doctor blatantly ridiculed me for it as if it was just laziness, but it is far from that. I'm absolutely petrified and I needed to seek help before I pursued a correction course in order to attempt to improve my grade. I never had problems with any other subject in school, I was a good student for the most part and for years people have beat the Maths fear into me more by saying it is ESSENTIAL, IMPERATIVE, YOU WILL NOT GET ANYWHERE WITHOUT IT etc. etc. and over the years it has become far worse. It feels so stupid to have this fear, but whenever I partake in anything that isn't everyday maths I get severe migraines followed by sweaty palms, shakes, increased heart rate and light headedness. I get in such a state that I have a mental block towards equations and I can't even ATTEMPT to tackle Maths in word form. Those are the worst of all.
    Luckily, I'm on my way to receiving help for it, although I'm hoping I do not have to pay, as Maths is an essential life skill and I feel ashamed for letting it get to the stage of a Phobia. Also, My Boyfriend excels brilliantly in Maths and received outstanding grades when he studied at college in Maths and Accounting A levels. Therefore, he has offered to mentor/tutor me alongside the course, which will be AMAZING to have someone who loves you, cares for you and understands anxiety enough to know how to deal with it. I'm glad I at least have support from my closest friend and partner available so that if all else fails and I get treated like I'm lazy or a lost cause he will be there to pick up the pieces and help me through it.

    In conclusion; I am lucky. I am very lucky indeed that there are ways forward available to me, there's someone to hold my hand through it and I have various coping mechanisms (like confiding in my artwork) to deal with stress and self-hatred. It hasn't been the best year of my life, but I can think of many years prior where it is much, much worse. Therefore I am thankful for how far I have come and where I will continue to go as I grow and achieve.

    NEXT STEP UNIVERSITY~
     
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    I figured out a saying for myself today whenever I get depressed and/or bummed out by life.

    'I can't draw, I can't dance, I can't sing, I can't compose. The only thing I can do is write.


    My writing is my drawing. My writing is my music. My choreography. My writing is my soul.


    No one can take that away.'

    It seems downsetting and depressing at first... But I feel that telling myself that I'm useful for at least one thing is enough to keep me going.
     
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    It's like these threads WANT me to say something mean. Or it's just my Chaotic Evil-ness.

    I was a bit depressed for a while a few days ago. Then I forgot what I was depressed about. So... If that helps...
     
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    I was joking.

    Y'know... Haha. Funny.
    Lighten up a little.

    No one should really take what I say seriously. I'm never serious.
     
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    Depression is a notoriously difficult obstacle to overcome. Suggest talking to a psychiatrist and getting him to prescribe some anti depressants, and finding someone to talk about what's depressing you, and also see what you can do to fix the problems with your life.
     
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    I don't claim to be an expert on depression, but I know I went through it for a long time. The one thing which really helped me, was a change of scenery. I dunno if that's gonna be of any help to you, but that's something which worked wonders for me. If you can't do that, then seek solace in your friends. EPR is a brilliant place to do so as I discovered. It may also help to find something that your passionate about. When you have something to believe in or just something you really like to do, you'll find yourself lightening up. I'm sorry I can't offer more than token advice. I'd rather be talking to you one on one, but I'm afraid that's all I have for the moment. I hope this has helped in some way, shape or form.
     
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    ^ exactly what GAPT said

    Depression is tough, I went though it myself at one point - there are many reasons and causes of depression both medical and societal. If you think you should be happy but you arent, and you feel maybe hard on yourself because everything "should" be going well but isn't - talk to someone about it, maybe you are clinically depressed and there are a ton of medicines and therapies exactly for this sort of thing.

    On the subject of therapy, if you can't afford a real doctor or are nervous about talking to a professional, just talk to friends, talk to people on EPN, just talking with people can make a huge difference even tho it seems like nothing. I highly recommend the EP chat or the livestream chat on the radio page, there are lots of cool and friendly people there that would love to chat with you (including me some days ^_^).

    If you are stressed or dealing with problems in your life and thats your reason for beign depressed, then the first two suggestions can still help, but the real difficult part is gonna be learning to live with these stressors or findign coping mechanisms to get through them or even avoidign them if you can. For me, when i was really stressed out by school - listening to music and learning how to be better at drawing cheered me up; that might not work for you but experiment, find your thing.

    I wish you the best of luck and i know you can always find someone willing to talk to or explore new thigns with here on Everypony :)
     
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    I don`t think I can help you with this. the most sad that I reached to be was because Argentina lose in a world cup.
    I never went through a problem with my family or with my friends.
     
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    Um...so....I'm usually bitterly depressed as my life isn't the best...yesterday it was like I was having a great day and a sat there thinking "wow what a great day...I should feel great!" Then I realized that I don't....what does that mean? If anything....I just want to be happy for once
     
  11. Frost

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    Well, most people have this idea that at some point in there lives they will or should get to a point where they are 'happy.' But life just doesn't work that way, one cannot be happy all the time. Without sadness we wouldn't be able to enjoy happiness, so there has to be a balance. Life is mostly a lot of 'meh' sprinkled with both happy and sad moments here and there.

    However, if you're never happy, feel sad when there's no reason to be, are unable to be happy when you have every reason to be and don't take any pleasure in stuff you used to enjoy, it could be a sign of chronic depression. This is very common and easily treated, and if this describes you then you should most certainly talk to your doctor about it.

    If there's something specific in your life causing you to be unhappy most of the time, then you should try to find a way to either take care of it or distance yourself from it...or at the very least find someone to confide in and talk about it.
     
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    Chronic sounds like me but I don't get along with parents and visiting the doctor costs money that I'm not able to get for myself...my parents would pay but I don't want to go to them for anything at all
     
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    Frost Would You Kindly?

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    Well, even if you don't get along with your parents much, depression can be very serious and needs to be taken care of.

    Why, if I may ask, do you not get along with your parents?
     
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    I hate them...especially my Mum...she thinks she's done nothing wrong but she is a *****...when I had my first exam she yelled at me when I got home because I finished it early -.- that its only one example of the **** she yells at me about
     
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    Depression comes and goes depending on situation at that time. I am usually depressed when isolated from others, full of anxiety, a tragedy occurred, seeing something sad or scary (the Yume Nikki game & Cupcakes are examples), when I am having self-esteem issues, or somepony hurt or betray me (usually friends or a girl I love). To say I have depression is only half true. I actually have way worse anxiety than depression, anger, or any other psychological symptoms. I have social anxiety, OCD anxiety, anxiety of the future, isolation anxiety, phobias, gender anxiety, and paranoia. So basically all common forms of anxiety. I am never depressed or angry unless anxiety is involved. So if I have no anxiety, I most likely won't have depression or anger.

    My coping skills have been music (mainly rock, EDM, and even rap), ponies, friends that can offer an ear on Skype, Facebook, in person, phone, etc. and positive reinforcements of my assets and accomplishments as well as being productive, organized, and doing something positive (especially if money is involved, but volunteering helps feel good too). I also exercise somewhat often by going to the gym or park if the weather is ok. And the internet helps by seeing funny videos on Youtube or funny pics on Facebook, 4chan (yes, I said it :/ ), or somewhere. And playing Grand Theft Auto (mainly San Andreas or 3) and Pokemon helps too.
     
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    Mine goes on and off, usually starting at a low point and gradually wearing off from there.
     
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    I've suffered with depression for about 4 years now, and that advice will help me out as I go along. I'll keep going and I won't let life knock me down anymore.
     
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    The key isn't to not get knocked down.
    Everybody falls once in a while.
    The key is to have the will to always get back up.
     
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    I'm working on that.

    I'm doing better- compared to 4 years ago- but I'm still struggling.
     

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